To not give ds a drink?

[BonkeyMollocks]

Ds (4) is currently shouting from his bed that he wants a drink.

He has been offered water twice, which he has refused because he wants juice.

Apparently he is thirsty and now he wants daddy because daddy is normally a soft touch. I have banned daddy from speaking to him or going in there, because it will end with dh giving him juice just to shut him up, therefore making him not listen to me in the future and he will do it every night.

I am in a really shitty mood anyway and its not helping but dh thinks I should just give him some juice.
I think we should sit it out and let him cry it out.

He also did the same thing last night, he went to sleep eventually after 2 hours :(
AIBU to ignore him?

I agree 5madthings - I wouldn't give another snack so soon, but if the child is genuinely hungry (can only be assessed on how long since last food), then I don't see the problem with giving them something small and non-filling.

But then I also 'give in' more to my 2 year old than my 4 year old on the 'I'm hungry mum' whining just before a meal.

We've always done baths at night but I was working shifts at the time so some days he was getting home way to late and just wanted bed, anyway he didn't like the no tv thing so only tried it the once.

Mine tend to come home from school hungry so have a snack then, so haven't had the problem of wanting food just before a meal

well i think the issue is what not filling for one child is for another, i can guarantee if i give d4 anything in the hour before dinner he will then not eat his dinner, even if its a rice cake or grapes, apple etc.

but most toddlers will be fine with a small snack of fruit etc to keep them going and then still eat their dinner, if yours is like that then fine, my 16mths old dd will often need a snack after her afternoon nap and then eat dinner 20 mins later she is too young to understand that dinner will be in 20minsm, hell if i put her in the highchair and the food isnt already on the tray ready she will shout her head off until the food is infront of her, she has no concept of 'wait 2 mins or even 30 seconds' it has to be age appopriate and tailored to each child. :)

snack after school here as well, mine have had scones and fruit and then dinner will be 5:30-6ish, i am just prepping the veg for butternut squash soup inbetween posting on here! i forsee that ds4 may not want to eat dinner as its soup, he will be tempted by the crusty tiger bread to go with it tho, so as long as he attempts to eat some he can then have some bread to dip in!

5madthings - can i come over for tea?

sheeplikessleep you can if it means you deal with dinner and getting them to bed and i get to go to the pub

err, no not if you've got 5!

i do indeed have 5, 12, 9, 7, 4 and 16mths! its not that bad, the elder three can all get themselves ready for bed, but may need a bit of supervision in the bathroom, or referreeing incase ds2 does what he did the other night and instead of putting his pjs on opts to shoot his brothers with a nerf gun easily solved by taking away said nerf gun!

the baby is fine as well tbh :) dp is home tonight and was working last night, so its his turn today anyway!

..now really need to go and chop onion and peel carrots to do in the soup, i lost my mojo after peeling adn chopping the squash...

wowser, hats off to you! i love the idea of a bigger family, but i just don't know if i have the patience. currently deciding on whether to go for number 3 or not - heart says yes, head says no!

its great having 5, most of the time! we always wanted 4 and no 5 was a bit of a bonus baby, in more ways than one as she is a girl after the 4 boys, that was a shock! i think its fine tbh, if we had the money for a huge house and a cleaner i would maybe have one more! so yes i am really mad... as easily will confirm!

Don't give in and u need a conversation about setting boundaries and rules with daddy too.

Get control of toddler boy and you get control of teenage boy.

I'd love to have 5

moomin my dp is away this fri-mon so i am happy to loan a few out if you want to top your numbers up for the weekend?!

5 if you are loaning out kids, can I borrow the pink one for a day please?

you are welcome if you are happy to co-sleep and also be covered in snot as she has a cold and is very good at toddling up to you and wiping her nose on your trouser leg [boak] plus as she is now walking she is into everything, she is adorable tho!!

If I remember correctly from a gender stereotype thread you asking for it referring to 'the pink one' or maybe mad was on the dark side.

Have read this thread with keen interest - not at that stage yet but very interested in all the approaches listed.

eh entropy dont quite understand your point? if you mean valium referring to my dd as the pink one and i should be annoyed? only valium is a friend and the posts are in jest as i am not really going to loan any of my children out (however tempting it may be)!

5 I was just thinking I could dress her in her pretty dresses and do her hair etc - I'll send her back when she gets all snotty and needs to co sleep

entrophy eh?

Dark side?

glad its not just me that doesnt understand her post!

valium she doesnt have much hair to do at the moment :( i can put a hairband in it or a little clip to hold it out of her face but its not long enough for pony tails, pig tails, plaits etc :(

Ok, I'll borrow her once she's grown a bit of hair and I can take her to Claire's for hair accessories