To not give ds a drink?

[BonkeyMollocks]

Ds (4) is currently shouting from his bed that he wants a drink.

He has been offered water twice, which he has refused because he wants juice.

Apparently he is thirsty and now he wants daddy because daddy is normally a soft touch. I have banned daddy from speaking to him or going in there, because it will end with dh giving him juice just to shut him up, therefore making him not listen to me in the future and he will do it every night.

I am in a really shitty mood anyway and its not helping but dh thinks I should just give him some juice.
I think we should sit it out and let him cry it out.

He also did the same thing last night, he went to sleep eventually after 2 hours :(
AIBU to ignore him?

Give him a little juice diluted with water?

I would go in with water and leave it with him, and say nothing.

Stick to water I agree. Otherwise he will learn that he can just kick off to get what he wants. Try to aviod creating a rod for your own back. And anyway having water will save brushing teeth again.

Yes, water and no chat

Bo-ring

Should work

At the risk of sounding like a bitch, if I offer him that surely he wins and will not learn that he cannot shout and scream at me to get what he wants?

He has been offered water, he drank it last night, if he is really thirsty then this would solve the problem!

Agree with sparkling. Leave water by his bed and say nothing.

My parents always banned juice at bedtime

This made me and my siblings thirsty (the thought of not having a drink there)

I hated water and still do (age 43)

My kids have always taken a drink of diluted juice to bed.

Yanbu, go up and put a glass of water within reach for him then give him a firm goodnight and leave quickly. My ds is exactly the same, there's always one excuse to not go to sleep.

Sparkling i left the water in there and he took it back to the kitchen in a strop

Yup, water would be what he was offered here too.

I would fill a sports bottle with water and get him to take it to bed with him every night.

DS always had water by his bed at that age as a matter of course (rarely drank it).

after teeth are brushed water or nothing (not even milk) in this house i'm a bitch too!

Do not give him juice (do not let him 'win' by shouting and after he's been told it's water or nothing and because it's terrible for their teeth to have juice (diluted or not) after they've cleaned their teeth).

I would 'let' DH go in - but on pain of death if he gives him anything but water.

I would be having Very Stern Words about going to SLEEP NOW or else.

@ Mutt
We live in a flat the kitchen is next to his bedroom.

He is not allowed out of his bedroom and he knows it!

I'm counting 1hour and 35 mins so far...

Mutt - nor mine

It'd be water here as well. Apparently lots of bitches on MN tonight.

I feel your pain. I had an almost-three-year-old screaming and yelling for a "cereal bar... NOW!" at 2am this morning!

Water or nothing! I'm a bitch mean mummy!

My mum had juice every night in bed (1940s). She had dentures at 18.

Leave it in the kitchen and tell him if he wants his water, he can go get it. Then ignore.

Great you are digging your heels in and won't be rudely hounded into giving juice.

What Lindax said.

If you give him juice now, all you have taught him is that to get whatever he wants, all he has to do is scream for 20 minutes / half an hour / three hours / bang his head against the wall / wail for Daddy / throw his water bottle against the wall / whatever.

Kids will go to extraordinary lengths to get what they want, won't they.

You are the grownup and he is the child and YOU are in charge.

Arrrrggghhhh give me !!!!!!