To not give ds a drink?

[BonkeyMollocks]

Ds (4) is currently shouting from his bed that he wants a drink.

He has been offered water twice, which he has refused because he wants juice.

Apparently he is thirsty and now he wants daddy because daddy is normally a soft touch. I have banned daddy from speaking to him or going in there, because it will end with dh giving him juice just to shut him up, therefore making him not listen to me in the future and he will do it every night.

I am in a really shitty mood anyway and its not helping but dh thinks I should just give him some juice.
I think we should sit it out and let him cry it out.

He also did the same thing last night, he went to sleep eventually after 2 hours :(
AIBU to ignore him?

Usual did your kids have juice each night? I'm intrigued

I'm just giving my opinion

as is everyone else

No they didn't , but if they wanted a drink of juice they could have one

There is no need to be rude, obviously usual had lucky children who never had fillings as children, so she wouldn't think it is a big deal to give juice after brushing teeth, however not all children are lucky, I wasn't and I fon't want my son to have bad teeth, so I stick to the rule of water at bedtime.

'Well they weren't born grown up'

I am still giggling over this

Although in reality I am a bit of a strict mummy

usinggap Are you saying i am a bad parent because my child apparently screams for attention?
He is four and pushing boundaries.

I was allowed juice after teeth cleaning as a child.

I had 8 fillings under general anaesthetic at the age of 4, and now have a serious phobia of dental treatment.

It wasn't about the frigging juice!!

I'll be adding vodka to my bedtime juice at this rate!

I might join you curiosity

Mine usually go to bed with a drink of water in one of those cups with a straw. They wouldn't be allowed juice in bed, in fact they don't get it after mid afternoon if we're at home as we think it affects their sleep. They do get juice late on if we're on a day out or on holiday but never once they're in bed.

mine still have milk for bed, their teeth are perfect.

I also sit in the room til they go to sleep.

I am a soft touch!

oh and the point of my post, I hate water and always have.

Some children often play up at bedtime, using, for no other reason than they're children and going to bed is boring.

If your kids had been given juice at night usual they would almost certainly have had decay so good job they didn't ask for it.
My kids have juice during the day which isn't recommended except for meal times but to have it at night is highly risky so they know no point arguing with me about that!

Good for you .

God MN is boring just lately , I dunno why I'm even on this thread.

Bye then!

DD2 is 11 she still takes sugar free squash to bed, she won't drink water, ever. Even if she forgets her drink for school she'll go thirsty all day or scrounge of a friend.

Just don't let your DS start, I stupidly did to loose night feeds, and have mad a rod for my own back I could do without.

Of course your DS may not be a stubborn as DD2, very very few people are and just want juice occasionally.

I agree with a pp.........why let a child cry for 2hrs?? There may be something on his mind. Have you not considered that the 'juice thing' may be a cry attention for a very good reason. He may be really worried about something that he is finding difficult to talk to you about.

If this is not the case, then you should have given him the juice in the first place, and asked him to clean his teeth again. I don't see the point in causing so much upset...........doesn't seem to have benefited anyone in your house!

I wouldn't have given him the juice. If you've done your teeth then you can have water - that's the rule in our house too. If you don't want water then you can't be that thirsty.

Consistency and boundaries are an important part of parenting and are reassuring for children.

Oh ffs!

He has no worries, no problems etc he is a very happy child. There is no underlying issues. He is in no way hard done by!

If I had given him juice in the first place (after years of him having water) then I would have had another battle on my hands trying to get him to brush his teeth and what would be the first thing he would ask for tomorrow night just before bed??

He was not crying as in tears, he was screaming, crying and chucking stuff around. Its called having a tantrum. All kids have them. All he is doing is pushing boundaries.

Well done you. You've done the right thing and sound like a great parent. Your ds will end up with great manners and be respectful like my two Not boorish like some dcs who always get their own way because of lazy parenting.

My dss do have their moments but know how far to push it. They're much older than your ds though, teen and almost a teen. But when out people often comment on their good manners.

FFS nothing Bonkey

He's OBVIOUSLY a tearaway, fuck-up of a child. Today, screaming for juice before bed, tomorrow, robbing the Poundland down the town, next week, arson, car theft etc etc.

Just give him the fucking juice!

Leave the bastard!

...wait, wrong thread.

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