feeling hard done by....:(

[DidISayThatOutLoud]

Sooo, I am new to this (as in 30seconds old)...after regularly reading the threads and seeing it's ok to have a moan, I was wondering if it would be ok for me to do the same?

I am 25 and have an amazing husband (he is my best friend) and 2 beautiful girls aged 5 and 3, I have fab friends and a family that love me... and because I am the "bounce back Queen" I fnd it hard to ever have a moan...

BUT....

My hubby is registered disabled, he has ME/CFS, (this was diagnosed by an endocrinologist after rigorous amounts of tests and eliminating everything else) Fibromyalgia, Diverticulitis (recurrent), a hyatus hernia, GORD, A new hip problem (which may result in a replacement), low testosterone.. Asthma...the list goes on.

It's been on and off for a few years, but the past 2 yrs have really been down hill... He has even spoken to a GPSI (GP with a special interest) who has told the hubby that he is too young to have half of these problems... which of course doesn't make it any less so.

My 3 year old has a paediatricians appt on Thurs for a pooing problem which has been ongoing (movicol and lactulose do NOT work)

I have an appt on Fri for a pre op assessment for Endometrial Ablation (my periods last approx 3 weeks and stupidly heavy)...other than that my health is great...could do with losing a stone since having children... but one day at a time. :D

Now my whole thing is...for just a second (Even though it sounds SOOOO unbelievably selfish) I would like someone to just give me a hug, a bar of chocolate and beat up the world with me...just for 5 minutes.

I found out recently that a few of my close friends don't want to confide in me because they think I have too much on my plate... I never really get down about my life, like I say, my hubby is my best friend and my children are amazing... but now I feel unable to say anything even if I am having a crappy day because I would never ever tell my friends they are worse off or anything like that, one of them point blank said "I don't know how you manage to smile at all without me adding to it".... this offends me a little because as far as I can see I am a bloody good friend, I don't want to be shielded (they know this)

So basically I am taking 5 minutes to feel hard done by, please feel free to do the same... rant over. And I don't even know what the title of this should be...random rants? sorry folks....

Troll hunting is just as boring as trolling IMO. Ignore the comments OP. Whether you're new or not, some people on here have made themselves look like complete and utter tits trying to prove it.

WTAF is going on :S

It was said in the heat of the moment so I hadn't actually thought that far. Not one of my proudest moments, but a lot of places are changing rules etc because of cyber bullying, it's been on the news a lot...

If that is the funniest thing you've read though.. I do feel for you!!! :)

Cupofbrownjoy as this thread is completely unhinged, can i just ask, it IS coffee you are talking about isnt it? Your name always makes me a bit As you were ladies?

DidI You know, id walk away from this now - there is clear madness afoot and tbh fighting your corner to the end will just make you seem a bit desperate. There are lots of parts of the forum where you will receive support for your health issues, I would suggest a thread in "chat" or "general health". I do think there is a thread running just now where everyone is discussing heavy periods so that may well be of help to you. Good luck, don't be bullied, you seem very articulate and clearly that upsets folk, also there are folk with nothing better to do with their time than troll hunt. If by some small chance you are a bridge dweller of some description, don't worry - you can just name change and move on. I can't call it, probably because you have been backed into a corner and have been posting defensively. Am willing to bet that when Olivia has had her morning coffee this thread may go pfft anyway. xx

Get off AIBU and stop playing the victim.

You can moan, ask for support all you like on every other part of the site with no prejudice.

I'd suggest relationships. Loads of support over there. AIBU is not a 'safe place'

Come on now didi, step away from aibu

The sharks a a circling with the smell of new blood....

Go to another sub-forum as many posters have suggested, its the best option for you

How is it clear that the OP isn't new exactly? Because she can type? Turn on the internets? Log in to a forum?

Lentillyfart, I think you will find op has admitted an over reaction

boring....Fighting my corner makes me seem desperate? Oh wow...really?

I agree with walking away anyway, I am over it now, I'd rather spend my time helping if I can than trying to make people see sense... who clearly have nothing better to do than try to start fights... thank you all for your input, if this thread does go "pffft" my name will still be the same if anyone wants any advice etc , so you can still message me... xxxxx

And to think this could've have all been avoided if I didn't think I was being "unreasonable" to be wanting a 5 minute moan in the first place... ahahahahahahah.

I surely would've posted in a different place!

Wow, its only 10.24am and some posters are just brimming

DidI I meant that comment kindly - but because you are on the defensive (and i dont blame you) you took it the wrong way. What i meant was, because you are having to justify yourselves (fuck knows why) you are losing sight of your original requirements of this thread. I know, ive done it, in the past - my name might suggest that im new, im not ive been here for YEARS (too long) and I have been flammed to within an inch of me life and i found myself becoming all defensie and desperate sounding. For some reason though, i dont know how to namechange so compltely deregistered, ive done it several times, for several reasons, ive never trolled. Unless you count my BJ for a BigMac thread, which while tongue in cheek got me the biggest flaming ever from the feminist section on the board That followed me for a while.

Honestly though - i didnt mean to be unkind, but where is the use in saying"im telling the truth" over and over when people who are out to discredit you will chime back with "oh no youre not" and people will actually forget what the OP was anyway!

MN is so weird at the mo.

I may have to go do RL shit

Bj for a bigmac? Now this i need to see

Maryz. Yes because everyone on this thread has been so nice.

Troll hunting isn't actually allowed you know!

Most of us have been nice :(

No no, I'm glad you said that BORING and I didn't think you were being unkind- not at all, I was just surprised that was the way I came across... to me I've just always been the kind of person that will completely defend myself... but you are right, there is no point wasting my breath, I am sat here now feeling much calmer, girls are at school/nursery.. hubby in bed and I'm spending my quiet time still defending myself on a thread or two...oh dear, how sad am I! Will just focus on the people who are trying to help, and being nice,... thank you boring! xx

what Maryz said.

Sorry Star... you were one of the ones who were very nice, hugs xx

Starwisher It was all a long time ago in my dim and distant past. I don't eat big macs anymore Mostly because so many posters were clearly horrified at my lousy diet!

Boring

Why, did you eat more than 2 organic lentil beans that a goat had a shat out a week or something?