feeling hard done by....:(

[DidISayThatOutLoud]

Sooo, I am new to this (as in 30seconds old)...after regularly reading the threads and seeing it's ok to have a moan, I was wondering if it would be ok for me to do the same?

I am 25 and have an amazing husband (he is my best friend) and 2 beautiful girls aged 5 and 3, I have fab friends and a family that love me... and because I am the "bounce back Queen" I fnd it hard to ever have a moan...

BUT....

My hubby is registered disabled, he has ME/CFS, (this was diagnosed by an endocrinologist after rigorous amounts of tests and eliminating everything else) Fibromyalgia, Diverticulitis (recurrent), a hyatus hernia, GORD, A new hip problem (which may result in a replacement), low testosterone.. Asthma...the list goes on.

It's been on and off for a few years, but the past 2 yrs have really been down hill... He has even spoken to a GPSI (GP with a special interest) who has told the hubby that he is too young to have half of these problems... which of course doesn't make it any less so.

My 3 year old has a paediatricians appt on Thurs for a pooing problem which has been ongoing (movicol and lactulose do NOT work)

I have an appt on Fri for a pre op assessment for Endometrial Ablation (my periods last approx 3 weeks and stupidly heavy)...other than that my health is great...could do with losing a stone since having children... but one day at a time. :D

Now my whole thing is...for just a second (Even though it sounds SOOOO unbelievably selfish) I would like someone to just give me a hug, a bar of chocolate and beat up the world with me...just for 5 minutes.

I found out recently that a few of my close friends don't want to confide in me because they think I have too much on my plate... I never really get down about my life, like I say, my hubby is my best friend and my children are amazing... but now I feel unable to say anything even if I am having a crappy day because I would never ever tell my friends they are worse off or anything like that, one of them point blank said "I don't know how you manage to smile at all without me adding to it".... this offends me a little because as far as I can see I am a bloody good friend, I don't want to be shielded (they know this)

So basically I am taking 5 minutes to feel hard done by, please feel free to do the same... rant over. And I don't even know what the title of this should be...random rants? sorry folks....

chrystal

why dont you get a life rather than lurking here and upsetting a stranger?

do you feel SO STRONGLY about some fucking website. that this justifies upsetting a complete stranger?

Its not like shes posted about fucking car parking spaces, or her CM feeding her kid too many chips

I cannot see a justification for being vile to a complete stranger like this

WHY???? do you have some warped moral code?

its about tea - TEA ffs!!!

And all this "go and post on another section of MN" - who do you think you are?? oh yes I forgot the tedious thread police

And I can I personally say I don't give a fuck if anyone is brand new, ancient or anywhere in the middle as far as their posting history is concerned....

Well done for bouncing back OP.

I wanted support Maryz... then last night I found the other thread... about me.. you know which one I mean - so in the heat of the moment I started the thread about getting site shut down...STUPIDLY RIDICULOUS OF ME... yes I know
I am here now trying to be good humoured about it all... admitting the mistakes I made in the threads... I don't understand how this is starting a fight?

I knew you meant tea :D :D :D thanks cup xx

DidI at this point if I were you I'd probably namechange and start again. Not because you did anything wrong, but because its not worth making yourself a target for the holier-than-thou bitches posters on this thread.

For your own sanity

I am slightly about this.

OP you say you are taking 5 minutes to feel hard done by and then you say you have come here because "YOU HAD NOWHERE ELSE TO TURN"

People invest a lot of energy into this site and can be very supportive and so naturally can be very sensitive if they think things might not be what they seem...just saying.

LOL ok sorry Cupofteajoy i could only imagine anyone being joyous about coffee

I just advised Didi to post elsewhere so that she didn't have to put up with the tedious thread police.

Hmmm, methinks this thread is going to interfere with my housework regieme today!

You sarted a thread about getting the site shut down? really? Where? I gotta see it before it goes bang! link please (instructions for links are on the bottom o the page, cos you're new)

But Maryz the OP can post where she wants! Just because she posts in AIBU does NOT give everyone else free rein to make personally insulting remarks. As the talk guidelines say, it is NOT a fight club.

Makes me wonder that so many so called "long standing posters" don't seem to have a bloody clue when it comes to MN rules for troll hunting etc

"People invest a lot of energy into this site and can be very supportive and so naturally can be very sensitive if they think things might not be what they seem...just saying."

agreed... when its trolling about bereavement, DV or something else emotive, but this thread, come on!!! Absolutely no excuse at all for some posters' behaviour.

It is all a bit crazy CupOfBrownJoy, but I learnt the hard way the AIBU is not really the way to go if you are genuinely looking for support and advice on sensitive issues....if I was the OP I would ask this to be moved somewhere else. I think sometimes people want a lot of responses to something because they feel vulnerable need some dialogue so think I know I will post in AIBU there is lots of traffic there...from experience this is never a good idea.

I have been known to post in AIBU in some weird fit of masochism before , it never ends well

If you're hunting a troll hunter, then aren't you perpetuating the ill feelings?

And if you hunt the hunter of a troll hunter, does that make you a hunter-thrice?

I need more coffee.

I just wrote a whole essay in reply to you Whoneeds and Maryz...but I am not getting into this again, I think my reasons for posting are pretty clear... the very 1st topic you see on the little link is this Am I Being Unreasonable One which seemed to be so appropriate... I was feeling hard done by... lonely, frustrated, selfish.. and there's no one I can bear my soul to right now.... The very last line of the 1st post says I don't know what to name this....

Ugh....there I go again trying to justify myself!
that's enough on this now.. I am not defending myself anymore, please think what you like, everyone is entitled to their own opinion....

You're right, no one should stand up to the troll hunters! What a terrible thing to do. Best just to meekly wander off and leave them to devour their victim

Which one the op recent posts today seem to be "starting a fight" then maryz?

PooPoo I am never right Hush ya mouth. You'll ruin my reputation at this rate :o

The acid would be me everlong

Think it summed it really

And still ruddy does!