to be mildly irritated at childminder shortening my dc's name

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not the biggest crime in the world i know but annoying me!

Both my DC have names that can be shortened. I actually quite like the fact that their friends shorten them now they are older but DS often tells me "I'm not Sam, I'm Samuel" so I have politely pointed out to carers when he was younger that he prefers his full name and they've always been fine with that. Now he's 7 he just goes with the flow!
When they are pre school I believe carers should use the same name as their parents address them with

Some people in my family add 'ee' to all names.

Not anything as normal as Johnny for John but Pauly for Paul and Helly for Helen.

Luckily they aren't blood so I don't ever see them. But some of my family have to and hate them.

I think YABU to be getting your panties in a wad really. It's not a hanging offence tbh.

Thse only time it's ever been an even minor issue to me was when family members tried to shorten DD1's name to a forsm we/she didn't use, and it was a weeny bit odd for the poor kid as she clearly didn't have a clue as to who or what they were on about.

My ds has a common name that can be abbreviated in many ways like
James - to Jim, Jamie, etc (It's not James).

When he was toddler age, he would respond to full name and one nn, but wouldn't associate all the other variants with his name. People would get funny about him not responding when called, no matter how many times I pointed out that he had no idea he was being called.

Now that he's older, there's only one nn that he doesn't like and he'll tell people that he doesn't like that one, and the only one who continues to call him the unliked nn is his sister when she wants to rile him!! Other than that he knows all the variants could be him, sometimes he can be a bit slower to respond with particular nn's over others.

At this age YANBU!

If you dont like it then you have to say.

I have and Abigail who we call Abigail. If she wishes to call herself Abbie/Abi etc when she's older then thats fine but for now its Abigail. From Birth my mum has called her Abi despite us never saying that. In fact now DD doesnt answer her when she calls her Abi or tells her that her name is Abigail! I do grin inside when she corrects her! :) DD1 is 3.7

I also have a Lucy, who she calls Lou lou. I admit to saying Lucy loo but not Lou lou. That particular one drives DH round the bend!

We have mentioned it to mum but she's a law unto herself!

YABU. If it's a common shortening of a longer name you have to accept it as an inevitability.

I've always thought nicknames are bestowed, not chosen. I was surprised when I first read the MN baby names thread to see how much time and effort people spend choosing their children's nicknames. I never saw it as a conscious decision that parents make before.

My parents chose my name because it couldn't be shortened, but my first initial has been my nickname since my first boyfriend gave it to me. Even my parents use it.

pigleychez I have a godson called Lewis whose parents call him Lou Lou

YANBU

I have a name I don't like, never have, never will.

And when introducing myself to people I get

a) a hideous version nickname which I absolutely detest.
b) People are LAZY and change the last letter so it is two sylables instead of three. Or they just don't have the courtesy to LISTEN and call me by the correct name.

Pet hate of mine!!!!!

If you call your son x then he should be x. It is courteous to call someone, whether adult OR child by the name they are called. Yes he can accept different versions as he gets older, but right now it is the name YOU have chosen for him.

Just say you would rather he were called 'x'.

And I don't think childminder is being horrible and it is a endearment rather than anything else, but she should still have courtesy to respect parental choice of name, not change it to something she prefers for whatever reason, be that endearment or easier to say.

my dcs both have four letter names, they get shortened, it bothered me once or twice, and now i do it

Sorry, but if you call a DC a name that CAN be shortened, you have to accept it will be.
DS2 is Alexander. I don't like Alex, but it was always obvious that once at school, he would become Alex. (Actually I don't like 'Alexander' either, but DH chose it.)

Also once at school most children with long names seem to prefer the more 'fashionable' shortened version.

There will always be nicknames/shortenings, you can't stop them, it's like trying to turn back the tide. My name is 5 letters, extraordinarily common in women between 38 - 25 and one syllable. I STILL get weird shortenings/lengthenings. My pet hate is when people add a 'y' onto the end (think Janey) because I'm not four, but they do it as a sign of affection and I try to take it in the manner it's intended!

I wrung my hands about whether I should put Elizabeth on DD's bc, but in the end we went with what we will call her - a far less common shortening than the Liz or Beth she would have inevitably got otherwise.

In days of yore a servant's name might be changed by an employer, something which today we would regard as impertinent and unacceptable. How then, is it OK to change someone's name, especially a child's? If your name is Florence you wouldn't expect someone to call you Millie would you? Similarly why would someone call you Flo? I don't get it.

Rox it's hardly the same thing. We're not talking about changing the name, merely shortening it.

It's like shortening cannot to can't. Doing so doesn't change the meaning of the word, does it?

I have an Abigail who would have been a Jessica except I hate Jessie as a shortened version and I knew I wouldn't be able to stop her being called that when she went to school. Unfortunately her best friend calls her 'Abs' which I loathe - but she doesn't and it's her name so her choice.

You can choose what to call your new baby, but never, ever count on being able to choose what they will be as they grow. I know an Alexandra who's a Sasha (legitimate nickname, Russian I think it was), an Elaine who's a Laney and a Thomas who's a...James.

OP is your dc an Isabelle/a?

I chose a name I didn't mind the shortened version of as I think it is virtually inescapable, but I have had two people, who upon discovering I didn't mind the short version of our mutual childs name give me lectures on how it should not be shortened and I must therefore be lacking somehow in accepting it. But I chose a name I like the long and short version of so I am not compromising.

One person I know shouted at their SIL for abbreviating their ds name and said they may as well have called him Bob (nothing like his name) as that was as much his name as what she said - er well, no actually, as an abbreviation is hardly the same thing as a totally different name, and although I respect the preference for full name I bet the SIL was a bit at the stripping down she got - OTT in my opinion.

My parents called me and dsis names that were one syllable, and which could not be shortened. dsis was called Ann.

My grandparents affectionately called her Annabelle, which I couldn't say and it got shortened to Belle.

Our aunt then stated calling her Bluebell, and since the age of 3 my dsis has been Blue (she's 54 now).

I doubt my parents could have predicted that one

I love nicknames and shortened versions. I have a very common un-shortenable name, which I hate.

DD1 is Helena, but prefers Len or Nell.

DD2 is Felicity and calls herself Flissy. When she was born, DD1 called her Fish.

DD3 is Miranda, we call her Miri, DD2 calls her 'baby randa'

Maximilian lol
Was once called Maxine as a baby cause he was sooo pretty with blond ringlets. Now balding and DEFINATELY a Max!
And my Ruby is a Booby but to me is Boo :)
Shortening of names can, I think, express a welcome fondness and familiarity

YANBU, but it's not as bad as getting called something else entirely. My DS's middle name is Spencer, so my BIL calls him 'Franke' (Little Frankie Spencer, like the Some Mother Do 'Ave 'Em character). He never, ever calls him by his proper name and he's the sort of person who will do it all the more if he thinks it's annoying us. But my 3 yo DN has started correcting him quite vociferously when he does it now, which is quite amusing.

I was resisting this because of using a really obvious name but I went to Primary school with an Elizabella. Whose mother refused to have it shortened at all and she used to have to correct us. We all thought it was really weird and I still remember it now. By then I was the shortened version of my name but we had to use the 5 syllable version of her name. Utterly ridiculous. If you do this, I'm sorry but you are THAT parent.

I'd be irritated too. We gave DS (age 2) a name that can be easily shortened, but we (and all the family, creche, friends, etc) use the proper version. If, when he goes to school, he decides to shorten it then so be it, but I want it to be his decision.

FWIW, DH has a name that can be easily shortened. All his friends and I know him by the shorter version, but his family always use the longer version - it's nice. My brother also has a name that can be easily shortened, but no one is EVER allowed to shorten it - it drives him crazy!

Despite introducing himself to me as "Jim" when I met him nearly a decade ago his mum and gran still get a bit pissy at me for not calling him "James".