to be mildly irritated at childminder shortening my dc's name

[nicknameshame]

not the biggest crime in the world i know but annoying me!

I thought I'd given DD a name that wouldn't be shortened when I called her Amber - I underestimated the power of teenagers to change any given name and she has been Bam (via Bambi) since she was about 14....

I think it is inevitable that people will shorten your child's name but as your childminder she should only be using the name that you chose to use for your child.
As a childminder myself I have cared for children whose names I personally would have shortened but I have to respect the parents wishes and use the name they chose.

I only ever use my full name however I love it when people shorten my name without asking because it makes me feel that they feel I am as close as family to them.

I have 2 views on this though I believe you should call people by the name they want.
My DH has a shortened name as his birth certificate name think "Joe" not "Joseph" but in his professional life he is always called "Joseph" which annoys him.
My DD2 has a somewhat unusual name- Nataliya- called by us Tali- Will answer to both but prefers Tali, I hate Nat but know when she's a teenager she'll probably love it, but I'll still call her Tali what really annoys me is when people call her Natalie I'm looking at you "D"M

There is an old Jewish saying"The child that is loved has many names"

I like that, Clawdy.

I know loads of children with nn.

Mine all get shortened/ lengthened by me!

DS: Joshua James - nn Josh or JJ
DSS1: James Lee - nn Jimmy or Jamie
DSS2: John Paul - nn Jonny
DTS: Conner and Jack - nn tweeldedum and tweedledee

PG with a DD. She is going to be Charlotte Louise (to keep her initials similar to her brothers )

She will get called Charley no doubt. I like it and she has 5 brothers so think it's inevitable. She may be a Lotte, my MIL loves this and has said she would like to call her this. Lotte is very different to Charley but I'm lucky to have a sensible MIL who realises if Charley sticks Lotte may not work!

Alot of those who do not like their dc's name shortened have stated that it will be their choice when they are older. Not every person who has a name that can be shortened will shorten it but they should be able to make that choice not a teacher, cm ect. They should use the name that is used by the parents as that is the nane the child is used to.

I would be annoyed but I'd put the record straight.
It could have been a slip of the tongue, especially if they know someone who has the shortened name.

Fwiw I don't think that choosing a name you hate the nn of is bonkers at all.
If that was the case there would only be a small selection that I (and a lot of other parents) would be able to use.

Me too, Clawdy!

Me too Clawdy

MIL insists that BIL is called 'william' when he himself says his name is 'will'.

It's stupid. I think it was bloody ridiculous to call him the long version of a name and not have a degree of tolerance to the short version.

YABU.

I don't particularly like the shortened version of my son's (4 letter) name, but I don't get shitty about it if someone uses it. TBH the only person who really calls him that is me when I am 'punishing' him for calling me mum instead of mummy by cutting his name in half :)

DH changed my name for me, I'm Jules for him and his friends, J for DB, Jugs/Juke for my BF and her Dsis, and Julia for everyone else!

Dcs have names that can't be shortened, but i have no doubt they will be once they get to high school.

(just been informed they're known as Meryl and Ebay by next door's DD!)

"it's a common name, commonly shortened"
"love the full name, hate the shortened version! "

Sorry, but YABU. You knew it would be shortened to a name you hate - so really, why choose that name, no matter how much you loved the full version?

TBH, I see a shortened name similarly to a nickname - it's personal between the namer and the named. Completely up to them, nothing to do with anyone else. Only the named has any say in the matter.

clawdy there are a lot of old sayings. One of them is: 'Whatever doesn't kill you, makes you stronger'.

To which my answer is: 'Polio'.

come on nicknameshame, tell us the name.
Some NNs are minging (imho, blardeeblah).
We'll rustle up some sympathy if the CM has come up with a particularly horrid variant NN.

spill de beans

My name can be shortend to many nicknames, non of which i mind being called. Different people call me different things, and different people who have the same NN for me spell it differently. I like it.
My DD has a name that can be shortend, and we have always called her by this shortend version.
When she was a baby, we called her beans for quite a while too.

Irritatingly DS1's name is usually lengthened to a name that is not his!

There are names I won't use because I don't like the nn...love Thomas and Patrick but not Tom or Pat.

My name is Megan and I get Meg, Meggie, and Meggsie, which I actually like. :)

I think the OP is NBU to mind, but is BU to have named her DC something with a common shortening that she doesn't like.

She said "mildly irritated" though, so some of you need to calm down. :o

If you think that's bad, my poor grandma was told by the evil nuns who ruled the roost at her school (early 1900s) that her SURNAME was spelled wrong, and that there was no "I" in it. The family were in such fear of the authorities, that they dropped the offending letter from their name from then on. Can anyone imagine that happening nowadays?

I really like it when people shorten my name, it feels friendly. I also like it when they do it to my DC's, it shows they are fond of them.

Its things like this that make me very glad i'm not a childminder anymore.

My son has a common name, I abhor the commonly accepted shortening for it. People only use it once, as they get told by me that it's unacceptable, then he will say that "my name is not 'x' it is 'y' or 'z' please". A childminder should respect your wish to call your son by the name you choose:)