To think that he should not say or even think this??

[LucyFarinelli]

My mums boyfriend (of 10years) told me yesterday (whilst rather drunk) that i have "given him a permenant hard-on for the last 6 months"

I live with him, my mum and my DS (2yo).

What the hell do I do??

Is he embarassed now, was it a silly drunken (not condemming it) mistake or is he a creep? Tell your mum he said something inappropiate and see what she reacts like.

Well done for being brave and telling her! Ugh, what a weird man.

So admiring of you Lucy - wishing you lots more strength

I would confide in your Mum if I were you and tell her how uncomfortable it has made you feel. I work with offenders and have seen so many step father incidents, it makes my skin crawl. Not to say he is/will be an offender but it is entirely inappropriate and a massive breach of power/trust, and to blame you for his behaviour as well!

YusMilday - would you say the same if it was your daughter?

I cant go and see her as im currently 150 miles away. Im planning to call her later when ds is in bed, cant imagine she went to work today, but cant really have this convo with her when ds is around.

Sorry I posted after reading the first page and not realsiing there were 6 other pages - severe baby brain! OMG to the second comment and agree with others that he is testing your reaction to see how you respond and gross! Massive alarm bells ringing.
Please remember that none of this is your fault and he knows this which is why he has tried to tell you it is his fault - to make himself feel better and try to justify and normalise his behaviour, it aint normal. Hope your Mum supports you, thank goodness your grandparents have helped you. Hope he's out of your life soon

Well done OP for not hiding the truth from your Mum! It is horrid you all have to live through a hard time now for something some slimey bloke has done but I am sure it will be for the best in the long run - The avoidance of the mess would have only eaten away at you, so you would have suffered still - just differently.

Hope it all works out as well as it can when you discover someone you trusted is not what you thought. :(

Think you are being very strong. :)

The one being sold is the current family home secondcoming. Talked to my mum on the phone tonight. She ok and i do feel better for talking it through with her properly. She has promised me that he will not be there whenever i decide to come home. So... I will be going back home but not sure if i can do it quite yet. Thank you all so much for your help and support. I will keep you updated, as and when.

I hope for her sake as much as yours that she DOES make sure he is gone. For good.

It's a dealbreaker.

I'd steer completely clear, in your shoes, if you are off to university in September. Can your other relatives put you up until then?

Lucy, well done for being so brave. You are a credit to yourself and your mum. Whatever the future holds, you should give yourself a big pat on the back and a hug.

Best wishes to you and your family.

Great news!

keep well xx

blimey, well done. your poor mum. i am pleased.

Well done. You mum deserves much better, wishing for better days coming soon for you and your mum.

I'm so happy everything is working out for you op. My sympathies to your mum