To think that he should not say or even think this??

[LucyFarinelli]

My mums boyfriend (of 10years) told me yesterday (whilst rather drunk) that i have "given him a permenant hard-on for the last 6 months"

I live with him, my mum and my DS (2yo).

What the hell do I do??

They get along ok. I get on well with my mum. My mum owns the house. We could stay with my grandparents, but thats not practical long term.

He also said something else, which I cannot bare to repeat. But he was definatly infering something by the statement mentioned in my initial post (based on what he said).

More than inferring.

I know it will be hard for you OP but IIWY Mum I would want to know and I would be kicking him out.

It is massively inappropriate - for those who could not see the problem - this man has been in the OPs life, living in the same house, been her step-dad since she was 12.

What did he say!?!

what did he say?
he is revolting! maybe you could show your mum this thread?

Yuck!

Just yuck

He was talking about what would make him happy and he said something about burying his head in my pussy.

oh my god you have to tell your mum that is fucking foul! What a disgusting man! i would have slapped him!

Oh my god.
Tell your mother. Tonight.

Holey crap! Er that's even worse then the stuff in the op!!

Eeeew!

Oh ffs! You need to tell your mum all of what he said. He has propositioned you. Your mum deserves to know what a sleaze he is.

Really? He said that?
Why do you think you need MN advice on this one, if you don't mind my asking?

Gross!!!!

You have to tell your Mum - she should know, it's not fair on her to leave her in ignorance (presumably) - it's then up to her how she deals with it.

It might not go down well, but hopefully if she is a good Mum she'll stand by you over him ultimately.

You will need some courage and a place to bolt to if the sh1t hits the fan. :(

she's probably so shocked she needs a push in the right direction.

Thanks piratecat I'm not an idiot but am so bloody confused, and scared of ruining my mums life.

YOU won't ruin her life - but you might save her from wasting more time with someone who wants to do that to her daughter. What would you want in her shoes!!??

You didn't ask for this - don't forget that!!!

totally get that lucy....it must take quite a lot just to believe you heard it right!

Family just don't do this to each other...

tell her!

I would move out with your toddler then tell her while he is in the room and make it known how disgusted you are. It is disgusting and she needs to know. She might believe you more if you tell her in front of him.

You haven't ruined your mums life. He has.

And if he's like that with you, well, most likely he's a sleaze full stop .....

How has he acted around you today? Has he alluded to it at all or is he hiding behind a drunken 'don't remember' act?

OP I am so sorry, this must be very difficult for you.

A parental figure who has been in your life for a decade behaving in this way, it must be very distressing and upsetting.

I don't suppose your DSs father is 6'10 and built like an all in wrestler by any chance? Or you have a cousin/friend/friend's boyfriend who is and who will come round and put the fear of god have a quiet word with this disgusting excuse for a man?
If he tries to corner you or says anything else, kick him in the knackers Lucy. It is NOT YOUR FAULT, it has nothing to do with how you look or what you wear, he is a twat. Do not let him make you think for one second that you are somehow at fault or "leading him on" or anything like that because you aren't.

I am stuck for words here. This man is such a pig - had you noticed it before? Is this the first time he's spoken to you like that?

You really do need to speak to your mum. It's so lucky she owns the house. In your position I would go with your child to stay with your grandparents, then ask your mum to come around to your grandparents' home and tell her then.

She should be told.