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to have a rant about wussy women?

328 replies

ChaosTrulyReigns · 27/03/2012 11:28

It is possible that women in this day and age can:

mow the lawn
have theur very own email address
drive when their hubby [bleurgh] is in the car
fill the car with petrol
sleep in the house without hubby being there.

I know you're ickle and cute and pwecious, but, ffs, man up.

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ChaosTrulyReigns · 27/03/2012 11:45

That's so the point though ain't it.

The attitude to it - I don't mow my lawn, but I could, I just don't enjoy it, and DH does. An effective division of chores, not that I'm unable to do these life skills as I am a chick.

Oh and change a tyre.

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NarkedPuffin · 27/03/2012 11:46

LucyManga, that's the flip side of the same gender stereotype bollocks.

Grin at 'shit a kitten'

Lemonylemon · 27/03/2012 11:46

Same here, expat Why make yourself so dependent?

only4tonight · 27/03/2012 11:47

Really? Because he is better at parking? Really?

The only reason dh would drive rather than me is because his car is bigger/more power and we need the space or are doing a long run on the motorway. Having said that I do drive his car when needed but he NEVER drives mine.

Dh does do more DIY stuff than me but that's because he is a tradesman and can do it better than me and in half the time. That's just common sense.

AnyFucker · 27/03/2012 11:47

please tell me the 6 yr old is not using an electricity-powered lawnmower and/or is fully supervised

mmmerangue · 27/03/2012 11:47

I let my partner

mow the lawn
drive when I'm also in the car (unless a long journey and then we share)
take the bins out

because if I do it, I get stick about how I'm doing it. Easy life > feminist values, god I am a shocking excuse for a feminist.

I know I CAN, but honestly I don't want to. Too much hassle, sideways glances, etc from my Alpha Male.

I do however fix the boiler when it regularly loses pressure (Partner was absolutely shocked, you know, turn one screw half a turn and then turn it back again, who'd have thunk a woman could do that?!), do the gardening which he has no interest in, and various other things some people consider 'manly' occupations. He cooks and does several things that other people consider 'womanly'.

I don't think saying you'd rather not mow the lawn means you are a wussy pants girly girl.

But yanbu to say some women take advantage of their fluttery eyelashes and 'helpless woman' mode to get things done that might otherwise break their pretty fingernails, or whatever. They do bloody piss me off too!

Pandemoniaa · 27/03/2012 11:47

Grin @ shit a kitten with rage

Mrsjay · 27/03/2012 11:47

I dont cut grass I couldnt push the landmower co ordinate the cable without doing myself an injury im not very mobile , However i do agree with the rest , especially not being able to sleep in the house without a hubby , some dont even sleep until he is in bed , oh and spiders and bugs , dont go all screechy and scream for him to rescue you . deal with it but maybe im just hard Grin I do agree that some women do play the helpless female very well Shock

smilingthroughgrittedteeth · 27/03/2012 11:48

I don't mow the lawn because I hate anything to do with the garden (apart from the nice comfy chair where I read my book Grin

I have 2 of my very own email addresses

I am happy to drive but depends where we are going, who's car we are taking etc as to who drives nothing to do with it being the man of the house driving.

I always fill my own car up with petrol. I also do my own water, oil and tyre pressure.

My DP works nights so if I didn't sleep unless he was in the house I'd have to give up work or be permenantly exhausted!

And I confess to doing less of the cooking than he does.

booge · 27/03/2012 11:48

I don't mow the lawn, I do enough of the other stuff I don't want that job too
I don't drive if DH is in the car as he likes to drive and I like to look at the view
I hate filling the car with petrol so often leave it nearly on empty for DH and only fill it when I have to.

lisaro · 27/03/2012 11:49

There was a poster a month or so ago who was asking about employing someone to be with her at night because she was scared to be alone at night while her husband worked away for a short while. She actually got loads of sympathy for being so bloody pathetic! Angry

catgirl1976 · 27/03/2012 11:50

YANBU

(Although I can't drive but that actually doesn;t really have much effect on my life. And I don't mow the lawn, but I do pay for the man who does)

Pandemoniaa · 27/03/2012 11:51

It's not about choice, though is it? Or even the perfectly sensible division of tasks between partners. It's about manipulating situations by using a particularly sickening parody of femininity.

ChaoticAngel · 27/03/2012 11:51

Was that to me Narked?

I said "trees" because they're not bushes but not fully grown large trees either. The trunk bit is about 2 - 3ins in diameter and they grew higher than the fence which is about 6ft.

Poledra · 27/03/2012 11:53

Well, DH can't drive so i always do that. And I mow the lawn, as he hates gardening. I found it strange the few nights last year when I slept in the house on my own with no children or husband there, but I wasn't scared - just found it funny to have nobody else there.

We're planning a building project though, and I'm letting Dh take the lead on that because he loves a good spreadsheet and talking to the architect etc and it bores me to tears - I just want it done. Like yesterday. So get to it, DH!

Mrsjay · 27/03/2012 11:53

lawnmowed not landmower jeez i dont even know what it is called , oh i dont drive but i dont hang about to be driven anywhere if i need to do something i do it ,

NarkedPuffin · 27/03/2012 11:53

Substantial Shrubs then. I'd call them trees.

Pascha · 27/03/2012 11:55

MIL let FIL mow the lawn for her last week as she's been feeling a bit run down. She refused several times until he told her she had no choice.

TheSurgeonsMate · 27/03/2012 11:55

"It's about manipulating situations by using a particularly sickening parody of femininity." Isn't lukeimyourmothers story a shocking example of this! It turned out that murderers couldn't have been further from the friend's mind, if they really were a factor she'd have offered a lift.

bejeezus · 27/03/2012 11:58

anyfucker unsupervised petrol ride-on mower Grin

what do you think???

bejeezus · 27/03/2012 11:59

worzel no ones ever told us off...

StickyProblem · 27/03/2012 12:00

YANBU
I had a friend years ago who asked in genuine amazement "but how do you get the trolley back to the car on your own?" when a single friend and I were discussing supermarket shopping. We were speechless.
I guess an answer would have been "It's quite easy to push it when it's not full of man-meat, man-booze and man-DVDs"?

Pandemoniaa is spot on "It's about manipulating situations by using a particularly sickening parody of femininity."

AnyFucker · 27/03/2012 12:00

I am sure you are a responsible mother, bejeezus, that's what I think

it's just that I know someone whose son was killed in a lawnmowing accident

Poledra · 27/03/2012 12:01

Most petrol forecourts hve a notice saying that the pumps are not to be operated by under 16s, I think. Though my dad taught me to operate a petrol pump in the 80s when I was about 13 so he wouldn't have to get out of the car on a cold November night and fill it up himself. I like his style...

LauraShigihara · 27/03/2012 12:02

I know several women like this. One was moaning recently that the bedroom paint had been waiting in her hall for weeks and her Dh still hadn't started it.

She was very huffy when I suggested she paint the room herself. Apparently, she can barely lift the tins, let alone carry them upstairs and open them up. I noticed that she could pick her four year old up with ease, though Grin

I can do all the stuff on the list (mowed the lawn this morning) and put up straight shelves, assemble furniture, lug paving slabs and plenty more. And I have tits and everything