to have a rant about wussy women?

[ChaosTrulyReigns]

It is possible that women in this day and age can:

mow the lawn
have theur very own email address
drive when their hubby [bleurgh] is in the car
fill the car with petrol
sleep in the house without hubby being there.

I know you're ickle and cute and pwecious, but, ffs, man up.

Good post DoomCats.

I don't mow the lawn but I do kill / remove any spiders etc from our house (including a scorpion and a cockroach on different holidays), does that prove my non-wuss credentials?

I have to drive an hour in the opposite direction to work to drop Dd to mil's on her day to have her because she won't drive on the dual carriageway, or with a child in the car. I suppose i should be grateful she has her, though my mum would be happy to have her every week (and pick her up) but of course this would disgruntle mil...

Doomcats, my parents are a similar age and I fear for the time that one of them goes before the other - they are both "wussy" in their own ways that prop up each others' weaknesses. Dad cannot cook and, despite his age, still doesn't have much of an idea about appropriate meals or how to procure them. He is also a bit socially-anxious and depends on Mum for most of his social opportunities.
Mum insists she is a good driver, but won't drive in the dark, on certain motorways, or for long distances. She is useless at negotiating and has never handled anything like insurance before as Dad is "better at it". Whenever one of them has been out of action, the other is f*ed, and has to rely on me or my brother.

I do not want to be a burden on Tiny Clanger when she is an adult, just because I've never worked out how to do a supermarket shop/claim on my car insurance/get myself to a hospital in another county to visit someone who needs me.

Doomcats (and SmallClanger) - exactly. It is setting yourself up for dependency, when in reality there will probably come a day when you have no one but yourself to depend on. And it is not necessarily when you are old - I was widowed at 38, and many women end up in sole charge of a household before that, through death, divorce or whatever.

I was widowed at 38, and many women end up in sole charge of a household before that, through death, divorce or whatever.

Exactly-I was widowed much younger than that and you have to manage-it is much easier if you do it in the first place. Odds are that as a woman you live longer and at some point will have to sleep alone in the house etc etc-you will not have the choice.

It isn't just women, LeQueen, I know elderly men who don't know how to even boil and egg and the DW says that if she goes first they will have to go into care and looked after!
Anyone should be independent and able to do everything for themselves.

I suppose that I am a bit biased-as a widow I found it very upsetting to hear women my age say they couldn't stay alone at night as I would think -bully for you-some of us have to do it! (you would think they would be a little more sensitive when making such comments).

I have never mowed a lawn. It is boring and I could not be arsed. I do weed and do all of the planting in the garden, I've also built a drystone wall. I have never emptied a bin, again I don't like doing it. I don't think there's anything wrong with a dh wanting to do those things.

I don't drive with DP in the car because he is a right PITA passenger and I can't be arsed with his shite. I also do not hoover, at all, because he bought a stupid massive heavy Hoover I cannot even lift so he can bloody well do it.

I agree with those who say you should never be too dependent on your partner. The sad fact for us is that i am monumentally shite at driving (failed twice - spectacularly) and DP is abysmal at cooking. So as DP is great at driving and i am a good cook then we just automatically do what we are good at.

BUT, now we are expecting a baby, we have made a decision that DP will learn to cook and i will learn (again) to drive. Because we don't want to be so dependent on each other as we get older and even more set in our ways.

About sense of direction. I do have a sort of mental map and will often find the right direction even if I get lost.

It failed spectacularly once when I was driving alone to a function in Oxford, failed to turn on the right roundabout to the m40 (didn't even look at the signs) and found myself driving past heathrow an wondering why I never saw any signs indicating Oxford. But I did then turn on the right connection, entered Oxford through a side I had never before and found the venue, except it was finished by then. Still on time for the party, though. :)

I don't want my own e-mail address.
I hate driving so dp is welcome to it.
Although I can and do at times I hate filling the car so dp does it(I in turn do things for him that he hates).
I've slept in the same bed as dp for 22 years so can't sleep if he's not there.

I'm far from wussy.I can do a whole lot of other stuff!!!!

He:
mows the lawn (he LOVES it, why would I stop him from doing something he loves?)
makes all the gravy (I am crap at making gravy)
takes the bin out
never checks our email
drives if we're in his car, which I will also sometimes drive because we share driving on big journeys.
NEVER drives if we're in my car.
never fills my car with petrol (because he doesn't ever drive it)
does cooking, washing up and washing and tidying and ironing (not ALL of it, that wouldn't be very fair)

I:
do all the money stuff and paperwork
sort the cat litter
put petrol in my car
take both our cars for services and MOT
do all the navigating when on big journeys as he has no sense of direction
also do cooking, washing up and washing and tidying and ironing
build flatpack furniture

One of the posters up there reminds me of my mum. She doesn't drive, she doesn't want to learn to drive. I asked her why once. She said it was because if she did, she'd have to do all the shopping by herself as well if Dad didn't have to take her. My father is completely bone idle round the house, but it's because she lets him. She refuses all offers of help when we're there too.

Well maybe I'm wussy, but personally I'd shit a kitten at the thought of having to do 'man jobs' (any job I don't want to do). My husband is a pain in the arse, so the least he can do to make up for it is all the shitty jobs I can't be arsed with. So shoot me

I like to do a 'man' job just to prove I can, then I decide to allow dh to do it after tgat, cuts down trees, mowing tge lawn, bringing tge bins in.

I also make sure that dh is equal in our relationship so I always allow him to clean tge oven

I'm just fed up of random lists that someone else considers important.
How about cull and prep a chicken/game bird, use a circular saw to make something of use, change a plug (or even work out what is tripping the electrics for that matter) fix a float switch in a dishwasher etc
Who decides what is important?

My husband is a pain in the arse, so the least he can do to make up for it is all the shitty jobs I can't be arsed with.

Sounds like a great relationships.

If he reallly is only good for taking out the bins sounds like you'd be better off learning how to do these things yourself (or outsourcing them).

My point exactly-bronze-everyone should be able to do all of it. They might not choose to, but they ought to be capable. You may have no partner tomorrow-for all you know.

I do agree OP - it annoys me enormously too.

DH has to go to MILs once a month (250 miles) away to sort out the garden and deal with the bills. She puts all the post on the desk in the hall until he gets there. This is because FIL did everything before he died. She also has one neighbour (elderly, ailing lady of 85) who takes her to the supermarket twice a week - they now go to the shopping centre MIL likes best and another neighbour who drives her to church - elderly gentleman who now attends the church MIL likes rather than the church he previously attended for 40 years. She was a deputy head mistress FGS.

The SILs finished uni and left the UK and have visited 4 and 3 times respectively in the last 23 years!

These women make me mad too!!My mil is like this , she will now fill up her car herself though frequently pulls it out and sprays diesel over her car!:)lol
But she wont take it to the garage for mot or new tyres ,and manly kind of paperwork like car insurance and stuff ,she doesnt clean the car either.And when she wants to go visit her daughter who lives 200 miles away she makes such a fuss about driving , like fake worry oh dear i couldnt possibly drive the whole way myself what about roundabouts ,shes 50 ;old enough to have learnt to drive by now but not old enough to blame it on her agE!!!!!grr lol

exotic but I don't see some of the things on the original list as necessary. Two involve cars and as my parents have survived the last 60 odd years with neither of them driving I have grown up quite used to not being reliant on one. Yes I would have to change things but I don't agree all is necessary

I agree that you don't need a car and if you don't have one then you both don't have to be able to do anything BUT if you have one then you should both be able to do things-even if you don't choose to.
If the man drops dead tomorrow-the woman is stuck!