to have a rant about wussy women?

[ChaosTrulyReigns]

It is possible that women in this day and age can:

mow the lawn
have theur very own email address
drive when their hubby [bleurgh] is in the car
fill the car with petrol
sleep in the house without hubby being there.

I know you're ickle and cute and pwecious, but, ffs, man up.

I think it's important to know how to do things. You don't actually have to do them but the knowledge should be there.

My dad taught his two older daughters (inc myself) to drive the old Landrover at the age of 8 because we lived remote and he was worried that if my mother was injured (we had a farm and a lot of deranged rescue animals) then we could at least get her the 2 miles to the closest neighbour, or if needed, the whole way to hospital.

I think that kind of self reliance is a good thing and I'm already eying up abandoned airstrips to take my DD as soon as she can see over the steering wheel.

For the record, I do a lot of the 'male' things because I enjoy them, but I also do the hoovering and washing. DH cooks and washes the dishes. He likes it. Guess it's 50/50.

Except there's no way he's ever going to drive with me in the car. I almost drove myself to hospital (50 miles) when in labour but DH did put his foot down there!

Afraid I haven't managed to read the whole thread but just thought you'd all like to know I passed a car having it's wheel changed on the hard shoulder of the A34 today. Bloke was stood there looking confused whilst girl was stamping on the wrench. DH laughed and said "that's just like us".

I am a wussy girlie girl

I can't drive (passed test at 17, never driven again age 41).

DP deals with all things yuk: vomming DSS, blocked toilets, dog poo and loads I can't think of.

I have just about learnt to deal with spiders (ignore them, they will disappear as long as a cat/dog/big strong man who is more scared than me, are around)

DP and DSS bring in the shopping (there are steps and the bags are heavy...)

And they do the bins.

But, like an earlier poster has said, if there is a job I don't want to do, for whatever reason, I ask if DP or DSS will do it. If they won't, I can do it, or sort it, mostly.

I don't do lawn (hay fever ) but do all the rest including sorting out computers, Wifi and fixing the boiler!
One thing I won't do is clear the cat's mess: that's a man's job

I do not mow the lawn often as I tend to use the lawnmower like a hoover and it looks just wrong! I can check the oil and water in the car, I do fillit with diesel and I often drive with dh in the car (I find myself the 'designated driver' an awful lot). I have my own email and can sleep in the house alone.
I can not tow the trailer though (but that is a legal thing).
I am the one who does the technical stuff (tune the tv, dvd player ect ect). I have a friend who was shocked I was the one to do those things and said she can not sort the water for their tourer caravan or empty the cassette toilet despite having had the caravan for 9 years. I find that odd, I know how to set our trailer tent up, although have never done it alone and when we get a caravan I will learn all the bits, but still won't tow it!

A couple I know - when she drove she never put the petrol in the car: she didn't know how. She also wouldn't drive anywhere unfamiliar or where there were roundabouts, or at night. Some years agio she gave up driving and he has to take her everywhere now, including to and from work. He's always done all the DIY, lawn mowing, and does half of everything else, apart from ironing. He sews better than she does. She once messaged him at work as she'd lost the spare front door key and wanted him to go through the rubbish in case she broke a fingernail.

I don't mow because dh vetoed my plan to dig up the lawn and replace with gravel and cottage garden plants. It is his punishment to mow the bastard thing plus he was right, we need a lawn with dc but do NOT tell him that

I won't drive full stop, but I chose our house because it has good transport links.

I don't do simpering and I also hate those wussy women. My SMIL is one. I want to shake her, especially when she waxes lyrical about whatever it is that she or her daughter do to keep their men happy

Oh, and my sister is one of those wussy women. I once asked her who provided their phone line and she looked helplessly at me and said: "I don't know...DH deals with all that..."

She also only drives within a 5 mile radius of home and on familiar routes. She used to drive all over the place before they got married. She's appalled that I (shock/horror) go on holiday by myself. When I bought her tickets to a concert in London she insisted on bringing him too because "I won't know how to get around in London on my own".

About the only thing on the OP's original list that I don't do regularly is mow the lawn (I have grass pollen allergies, can't work the electric lawnmower, and have an eversion to it since I left the family home and no longer have to mow 1/3 of an acre for £1 pocket money). But I've still been known to do my Gran's lawn in recent years if DH has been travelling too much to get there (we look after her garden).

We shared DH's our car after we got married, until I bought one as well after DD was born. As DH prefers my current car (nice Golf) to his (decent Volvo) at times, he is more than happy to let me drive around at weekends. In fact, he hardly drives at all nowadays as he cycles to work and I drive to work, and I tend to do more than 50% of the weekend driving. I pump my own petrol (unless he is either being particularly nice and buys it while he has "borrowed" my car, or we're in a rush and he pumps while I go in to pay).

He spends a lot of time travelling, so I am regularly "home alone" (although usually with DD and au pair too). And when I was doing a Masters after DD was born, he used to take her to MIL's for weekends so I could write my essays and study - and I'd be completely alone then, which was quite nice!

I wire plugs as often as not, change lightbulbs, sort blown fuses, dealt with the great washing machine flood of 2007, clear out blocked drains, do most of the lifting and hauling, check my own oil and top up my own water levels, change flat tyres, dig the garden and allotment ......

He is great and well able to do these things also, and will when he is at home. But he's away a lot so I have to just get on with it. Although he does all the ironing when he is at home, and I tend to pile it up for his return unless something is urgent.

I am not a wussy woman but I don't mow the lawn as it happens to be something dh does and enjoys.

I know a few wussy women. My sil is a major one. She hardly drives, does not do any jobs that are 'male' (rubbish, diy etc).
The one thing I've noticed about these wussy women is that they are treated really well by their partners. They are showered with gifts and flowers. Treated really well on birthdays and anniversaries and taken out for surprise meals.
Sometimes i think I did it wrong

I am now very proud to come from a family of very strong and adaptable people. My cousins wife does all the DIY, Infact she has fitted several kitchens on her own. My sister has the art of organisation pinned to perfection whether that be paperwork, difficult phonecalls or knocking down walls just right. My mum and dad have fairly traditional roles because that's what works for them, except paperwork and money my mum deals with that, and my dad makes a mean pineapple upsidedown cake. My dad tends to fix the car but my mum CAN, she took a car maintainence course to ensure she could.

I am the same I could put up a shelf but dh is a carpenter so he does it. Dh could deal with paperwork but is dyslexic so I mainly do it.

Doing what works is fine but don't be all prissy about it. And don't ever be in a position where you HAVE to rely on other people to do every day stuff.

I couldn't tell you who provides our phone/ Internet

My husband does deal with that

Because he changes so bloody often being a techie that I have just given up.

staff are the only civilised answer

Quite Hully. Can we not find some serfs to do all this for us?

I don't know any women who can't/don't do those things....personally I am a bit miffed at the moment though that my washing machine is not going to get fixed unless I do it myself!

What's wrong with a joint email? Id think it was a bit weird if I asked someone for hers and she gave her partners but a joint one...if you're suggesting its degrading or something then surely it is for the partner too?

I have a joint one for bills etc and a personal one, I use them pretty interchangeably.

I don't know any women like that. Dh won't mow our lawn (hayfever). So I have to do it.

TheFarSide good on you for the bodypump. Before dd came along I did two classes a week and loved feeling strong must start heading back to gym soon

I've never understood what is so difficult, intimidating or unpleasant about filling the car up with fuel, other than the price. It has never occurred to me not to do it if it needs doing.

I know women like this and I really do not understand how some women can be so useless

Hmmmm. I will not mow the lawn.
Sorry.
The mower is a ride on thingumy and I cannot pull it out of the garage. Plus I hate it!

YANBU to have a rant but YABU to use AIBU for "I want a rant".

HTH

yes i know a few women who like to be helpless it is pathetic and annoying

the same women also live their lives through their husband, they express his opinion (i would ask your dp/dh what his opinion was if i wanted to know) boast constantly about their partners achievements but nothing is ever about themselves

being on my own i do everything myself, when i have lived with partners there has not been women/man jobs

strange though i always get people wanting to help me treat me a little princessy, i am so practical (and proud of it would hate to be anything else) but this is not what others assume of me

My DP's aunt is just like this. She has never worked, never driven, never done anything which takes her even vaguely out of her comfort zone. She is the most boring woman I have ever met - she has absolutely nothing to talk about which is not so mind bogglingly dull you actually want to flee. I once hid in the loos in a restaurant so I didn't have to go back to the table to my place next to her.

I do know women like this, get away with and it get on my tits!

I don't mow, but I occasionally weed/dig.
I don't drive, and have no desire to learn-ever.
I am rubbish at map reading and have a poor sense of direction. I'm not embarassed by it-it is as it is.
I have 3 email accounts
I have holidayed abroad several times on my own. No problems
I have no problem with sleeping in the house alone
I have never painted, put up flat pack furniture or the like. I had a father to do those jobs for me. When he died, and when I had the money-I outsourced to professionals. Sometimes I would pay/bribe my then teenage DTS's to do things-like clear the cellar, fill the skip, assemble the odd bit of furniture.

These days, DH does some of it, we outsource the remainder.

I empty the bins, but I rarely sort the recycling-DH does that on Sunday evening (It's collected on Mondays)

I cook, shop, clean, do admin, organise holidays and recreational activities and a myriad of other tasks as a SAHM to a young DD. I did most of the aforementioned, before we had DD and I was working full time (DH does shift work)

There is nothing fluffy bunny or hair flicky about it. There are things I can't/don't/don't want to learn to do. I don't give a flying fuck if I am judged by other "wimmin" for not driving, painting walls, mowing the lawn-delete as applicable.