AIBU for not giving my daughter toast

[misspedantic]

My daughter messed around at teatime, which was late (at around 7.30) because she had a friend over to play. She didn't eat any of the pasta I gave her, even though I told her to eat and is now crying because she is hungry. She has constantly come out of her bedroom for the past hour crying that she is hungry. She does have a problem with food but this pasta is her favourite. I'm fed up with her wasting food and then making toast for her...

AIBU for refusing to feed her toast?

Deviladvocate Is spot on.

op, I think you showed your true colours when you made the 'fat little fucker' remark and tbh from the offset when you mentioned her issues with food I did wonder whether they were your DD's issues with food or your issues with food. Do you think by controlling her food- what she eats, when she eats it and how much she eats your going to prevent her from becoming a 'fat little fucker'?

Considering she is 7, she will understand why you are not giving her food e.g. cause she didn't eat her dinner. I wouldn't give her toast, she needs to learn to eat her dinner (not waste food), i think 5 or younger, then give them something to eat because they are still young, but at age 7 you should understand that you need to eat your food, and why wasting food is not good.

Oooh, never had a bunch of flowers before, thanks misspendantic! Thanks littlebearh too.

lol dd has just gone to the toilet and gave me a dirty look (live in flat so can see her)... didn't ask for toast though.

Goldenbear if I didn't control what she ate, when she ate it and how much she ate she would eat pizza, every day and lots of it. I think it's called being a parent and giving my child a health balanced diet.

If my small child doesn't eat her tea, I offer bran flakes or weetabix.

don't hate me Then she will never eat her tea.

My dgs 3.3 very fussy eater ate very small amount of dinner a couple of nights ago, usually we/dd offer him biscuit or something later so not going to bed hungry. This night decided to make a stand no dinner no treat, he accepted this but was up continually in the night complaining he was hungry eventually fell asleep properly about 4 am. Don't think he wil be going to bed hungry again, we couldn't stand many nights like this, allthough he usually gets up once to get in bed with mummy and can have restless nights, but this night was awful.

DamnBamboo Later than teatime (4ish) is dinner time (8ish) in our house

We have three meals and three snacks here. Also have a no thank you rule; DS must try two bites of food before he refuses a meal. 99% of the time he will eat the meal offered. If he was allowed to choose his own food he would eat, freddos, cereal and toast If he refused the last meal of the day, it isn't long until breakfast.

misspedantic how did you get on this morning?

By tea, I mean 5-6 pm meal.

I am Northern too.

Breakfast
snack
Lunch
snack
Tea for DS
supper
Dinner for grown ups

MISSPEDANTIC , you say your child is a difficult eater and about 7 years old. Maybe she is going through emotional issues. You have another post about her hitting you and you hiding- frightening her, and then another saying she is wonderful and your friends chldren are rude. There seems inconsistency in your life and the poor child must be insecure.