AIBU for not giving my daughter toast

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My daughter messed around at teatime, which was late (at around 7.30) because she had a friend over to play. She didn't eat any of the pasta I gave her, even though I told her to eat and is now crying because she is hungry. She has constantly come out of her bedroom for the past hour crying that she is hungry. She does have a problem with food but this pasta is her favourite. I'm fed up with her wasting food and then making toast for her...

AIBU for refusing to feed her toast?

Damn, do you think children should be allowed to behave what every way they want simply because they are children?

if it was a regular thing, id ask her if she wanted a proper meal at midday and then just do toast for evening meals

The only people who have issues with food, are the ones who are presuming a 7 year old is and/or will attempt to use it an a method of manipulation in the future!

She is old enough to learn consequences then!

It wasn't like she was offered brain and liver, she was offered a meal which she loves and she decided against eating it even though she was told that the kitchen was closed.

She is not that hungry that she can't sleep (Op has said shes asleep) . Next time she is told she will think twice and more than likely eat her meal

Do you seriously think 7 isn't old enough to learn, Bamboo?

Crikey op are you ok?

Bet you didn't expect such an awfully big kerfuffle over toast

Whatever option you had chosen really wouldn't have ruined her relationship with food for life!

Yes have a proper talk with her tomorrow in a firm but open-minded way but for now she's asleep. If she wakes up feed her, if she doesn't don't.

Have some and relax you're neither a toast depriving harridan nor an over-indulgent wuss!

IMO children are certainly capable of using food as a method of control and can also be manipulative. A 7 year old is not a baby/toddler who cannot be reasoned with, she was given a choice of take it or leave it and chose to leave it, now she knows the consequence next time she makes this choice.

Dear god.

The kid has issues with food. There were mitigating factors under these circumstances that would cause plenty of children without issues to eat less/nothing!

Why is this not being considered?

No Madame, of course I don't.

I am responding to the OP and the situation about which the OP posted, not rearing children generally.

Peckish isn't deadly.

I am far less strict than my parents were. I think they actively gave us things we didn't like. My DS loves pasta and if he was farting about then I would have done the same thing.

Each to their own.

Of course you aren't going to mess her up for life OP.

I never said that.

I just don't agree with your approach! That is my opinion.

Go and have a cup of tea and hope she doesn't wake up early, feeling very hungry.

Umm, someone has issues with food and it's not op's dd

Of course it's old enough.

It's old enough to learn a normal, balanced approach to food.

Not just eating what's put in front of you, when it's put in front of you, because you've been told to!

Thank god we're all different and have very different ideas of what constitutes a nutter wouldn't life be boring if we were all the same!

Jesus damnbamboo's you are really chewing this one over!

It's obviously a meaty issue for you.

At least you separated the wheat from the chaff.

Let's hope it's all gravy in the morning.

Damnbamboo's get the fuck over yourself and make your kids some toast, yeah? Leave everyone else to feed their kids how they please.

Wretched

A normal balanced approach to food is not refusing your dinner and expecting toast.

Yes - eat your favourite dinner when its put in front of you (because it's dinner time).

Ha ha wretched

No I don't at all.

We have a very open fridge policy here; four hungry kids, regular meal-times, regular snacks and nobody has to clear their plate or eat when they don't fancy it.

I couldn't bear eating a plate of food because I was told too, if I wasn't feeling hungry.

The whole "you must eat what you're given" mentality is really not a good one.

Wretched

told to

It wasn't her dinnertime egg, it was later and she had a friend over too.

I don't even know why I'm still posting.

In the grand scheme of things, this is not a big deal!

I simply would not refuse my children food if they were hungry.

Here, Bamboo, here's some cold toast left over from my DS's breakfast.
Chew on it

Wretched

I am responding to the comments to me, that ok with you ?

Good, as you were fuck off

YANBU. She is old enough to understand that her choices have consequences. I think the fact she is sound asleep proves that she isn't traumatised by the whole experience . She'll enjoy her breakfast anyway! :)

And oatcakes / other bland food would be a good fallback in future if it's ongoing. Better yet keep the dinner until a cut off time so it can be reheated but after (say) 7.30 it's going in the bin and it's oatcakes for supper.

Am a coealic, can't eat toast, or pasta, much to my dismay.

But thanks anyway

Sorry, this has obviously opened a can of beans worms for you.