AIBU for not giving my daughter toast

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My daughter messed around at teatime, which was late (at around 7.30) because she had a friend over to play. She didn't eat any of the pasta I gave her, even though I told her to eat and is now crying because she is hungry. She has constantly come out of her bedroom for the past hour crying that she is hungry. She does have a problem with food but this pasta is her favourite. I'm fed up with her wasting food and then making toast for her...

AIBU for refusing to feed her toast?

No it really hasn't!

Just don't like being told to get over myself when expressing my opinion, because I, err, can!

There's a dear, now fuck off (and leave the beans wont' you, I love beans)

I think being a coealic makes you very cross bamboo...have you considered toast patches?

I would have made her the toast.

Thanks for being a good egg about it damnbamboo.

Pmsl at "toast patches"

pictish

No, no, when toast (wheat-containing that is) can make you as sick as it can me, it isn't missed.

Pizza, now that's another story...

No problem wretched old bean

toast patches!

I would have done the same thing op. She has to realise she cant have something else when u have made a perfectly acceptable meal. The lateness and friend being there doesnt change that.

I'm actually going to look for another thread and post a link, the contents of which were a similar argument to this (little boy not eating dinner etc..) and which ended up degenerating into an argument that if you gave your kids a snack after dinner, your sex-life would suffer and your husband would eventually find another woman.

My head hurts...

1. Not using food as a weapon
2. my bag for giving dd tea late
3. gave her enough chances to eat tea
4. She's sleeping so didn't really ruin her life
5. she now thinks mummy is a bad mofo doesn't back down
6. that open fridge approach can do one... never gonna happen

If she wakes up I will give her some hot milk and honey and see if that helps her get back to sleep.

Thanks for all your comments, it's nice to have both sides point of view.

Sometimes I don't eat my dinner and I'm hungry later, good job I can make my own toast really.

Know wonder food is an issue! What a load of fuss about a meal of pasta.

"Using food as weapon is bad parenting"
Yes, it probably is.

However there must be a cut off age at which it is no longer acceptable for DD2 to use food as her favourite attention seeking device.

In all seriousness, my dd will take the pee pee with food. Up until five o clock today she had half a slice of toast and jam, a biscuit, a serving of sticky toffee pudding, a packet of crisps and a kinder egg [ blush]

All down to persistent pestering and my having newborn dd 2 hanging off me all day

I served meatballs and spaghetti for tea and got the old " I don't like this " routine and snapped. She bloody well ate it with threats and tears of rage involved but it's so bloody wearing having the same routine meal after meal.

I agree usual. Sadly this means that because I think OP should have given her DD something and I dutifully responded to all questions directed at me (a major feat in itself really) apparently I have issues with food!

I don't think everyone can AFFORD a "open fridge" policy though.

Times are tough and we need to teach our kids we can't just waste food and throw it away.

If my kids were hungry , they could have something to eat

'no' not 'know'

I'd have done the same as you Damn obviously I'm a pushover mum who carefully chooses my battles and choose not to battle over food.

My kids don't waste food at all. I dont' see that an open fridge policy facilitates this.

Everything is eaten.

They can take what they want within reason, as long as it's not wasted!

It has worked for us so far.

Good for you OP - I agree with you.
Open fridge policy?? Ha bloody ha. I think not.

I don't deny my kids food if they are btw, but they don't just help themselves.

if they are hungry

I've always had an open fridge policy , works for us