To want the nanny to cook real fish not fish fingers

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Nanny to 18 mo DD says she does not like the smell of fish and will only make fish fingers. I think that on a full salary and with just one kid to look after she can occasionally force herself to do this! Any strong opinions?

YABU I think...

It may be that your nanny actually feels ill when she smells fish cooking. Some people can't handle these strong smells.

It is really worth it to you to insist she cooks your DD "real" fish? In the interests of good employer/employee relationship could you bring yourself to allow her to cook fishfingers or something else you approve of and then you cook your child fish at a time when you would normally be preparing her dinner?

Really, if this is the biggest gripe you have with the person entrusted to caring for your child you are very lucky!

I don't think it's the end of the world.

I think it's good to be a bit accommodating, tbh. If it really turns her stomach, your daughter can have fish when you're cooking.

Blimey. I wonder when some of you will get over the fact that some people employ nannies. Just as some people send their child to nurseries.

That said, OP, I think fish fingers are reasonably healthy. So if she's having them, and having some other fish with you, that should be fine

Op has fled screaming methinks

I dont understand this high horse mentality regarding people who care for children for money. Its a job. A dentist would be called the dentist, a gardener, the gardener. What is wrong with "the nanny" and why shouldnt her work/job be regarded as such during the hoirs she is employed? I just dont understand why they should be treated with kids gloves. Mistreated , NO but certainly not any differently to any employee.

kids gloves? damn auto

I share a nanny and it is in someone else's house so I have to prep three meals/snacks every evening for the next day as well as all her meals at home. I would bloody love someone to cook fish fingers for DD and save me the trouble!

Laptop, certainly they should be treated as any other employee. If you employed a person as an administrator, would you find it acceptable if they said they can't fold paper because it hurts their fingers? You also would be unlikely to refer to "the secretary", or indeed "a kid".

[DOG]

Obsessive compulsive controlling OP at all?

oh Dog that was supposed to say DOG

It's because I'm grilling sausages for the kids as I type

Tomorrow it's steak...

Not fish Toothbrush

Perhaps "my nanny" would sound better (although implying possession and therefore slavery ???)

Ohhhhhh...helpful head is thinking some helpful stuff (maybe the nanny doesn't know how/ maybe provide her with some easy recipes/be more specific - do you want oily fish or any fish? Is fish pie OK? What about pate?)

Helpful head is being shouted down by childish head desperately trying to think of something witty and apt to say if you look at my nickname.........FISHFINGERS ARE OK!!!. Good grief woman, they are cod, tightly packed into metal containers, frozen and cut into finger shapes!!!

But what is the orange stuff Fishfingers????

Your nanny is a person. Every person has something they don't like/feel unable to do. Some nannies can't swim. Some nannies can't drive. Some nannies have a fear of flying. If your nanny cooking fish is that important to you, you should have asked the nanny about it at the interview stage.

I think a good compromise would be to leave her a fish pie you have made.

Surely cooking for the children is part of the nanny's job?

Fresh fish shouldn't smell fishy.

The orange stuff is the tasty bit and depends on whether you have bought battered or breaded....and OP could ask the nanny to remove the orange bit....

Ohhh DH is out tonight...maybe I will indulge in a fishfinger sandwich...

Slap her - with a fish!

I'm with your nanny on this one, because I can't stand the smell of cooking fish, although I like the taste.

However, I get irritated with people who imply that anyone who has a nanny is some kind of lady muck, and that's it's akin to having a chauffeur or a butler. The nanny or My nanny - I don't think you can win with some people, whatever you say. It's a job like any other, with a salary and a job description.

People employ other people to look after their children while they work. Deal with it.

Maybe she could 'cook' some fish that comes in a bag, Asda have an ad on at the moment showing how fuss free fish can be. Could you get some in?

Don't see what all the fuss is about fish fingers, you can't beat a fish finger butty IMO.

I have not noticed frozen cod or haddock smelling any less fishy than a fish finger