Is the head a bit U? Or am I?

[EyeOfNewtToeOfFrog]

DD (7, y3) is bright but can be a very difficult child at times. However, her school are really not helping matters - I think they have lost all sense of proportion with disciplining her.

Last week DD bought a Practical Joke book from the school book fair. The following day she smuggled the rude-noise-making putty into school (against my express instruction) and played a prank on one of the break supervisors (who happens to be her close friend's mum): "Oooh, is that you farting, Mrs X?"

DD was promptly hauled into the head master's office for a chat about 'inappropriate' behaviour It was described as a 'serious event' to us parents. We obviously backed to school up 100% to DD's face, but privately I'm wondering if that wasn't a SLIGHT overreaction from school. She's 7 and bought the offending item at school FFS!

I would expect most 7 year olds to know the would be very risky behaviour and I'd expect my ds to be hauled over the coals for it tbh.

Risky behaviour at school - that's the sort of thing you do at home or with your mates.

I wouldn't have even backed the school up to be honest. They sold her the stuff, no-one was harmed, or hurt, or offended. Completely innocuous and the school is definitely being entirely unreasonable.

Well, someone was clearly offended bristol.

I'm immature because I thought your dd was quite funny.

No one could I have kept a straight face in that meeting

*No way

Were they though? Really? Anyone who really gets offended by a whoopee cushion or something similar deosn't really deserve to have their views taken seriously.

Lol Bristoljim!

We have the same putty, it's HILARIOUS and we are always in stitches when it gets used BUT it's not appropriate to do it in class.

What next? 6 year old receives suspension for saying "poopie" in a loud manner

Why does it matter where she bought it?

She's not allowed to bring it to school

You expressly told her not to bring it to school

She was rude to a member of staff.

Yes, she played a prank and got told off for it....didn't we all get told off for stuff we shouldn't have done at school?

It was bought at a school book fair, not given out in a lesson.

You could win a bottle of lambrusco at a school fair too, but it doesnt mean you would take it to parents evening and start swigging it, does it?

It is inappropriate behaviour, she was right to be reprimanded, and to be quite honest she sounds like a cheeky little madam.

YABU.

She ignored your instruction to not take a particular item in to school, and tried to embarrass a member of staff with it. Would she have done it to a teacher?

She may be a 'difficult' child at time, but surely the way to deal with that is to ensure that 'difficult' behaviour is picked up on and dealt with.

Get told off? Yes. Getting dragged to see the head and the parents involved? Really? Massive over-reaction.

Also 'a difficult child at times' in parent language is usually 'a holy terror in class'

Well - as the prank was played on a breaktime supervisor, presumeably it wasn't during class time, so I would say the Head's reaction was a bit OTT, because of this and because the item was sold at the school book fair.

couldn't the supervisor have dealt solo with the poopie?

I expect it was the last straw and it depends how many times the dd said 'Ooo is that you farting Mrs' - from the OP it sounds ok but I bet it was more than that hence the 'over reaction.'

I wonder where he gets her 'difficult' behaviour from?[hmmm]
Better to nip this pain in the arse behaviour now rather than later.

YABU.

You have admitted she is a "difficult" child at school. She was playing a practical joke, yes, but she was trying to humiliate the TA, and it is disrespectful.

If it had been my child I would be furious with them.

And how exactly was she 'hauled' into the Head's office?

The last I heard, staff weren't allowed to 'haul' kids anywhere.

If you mean she was sent to the Head and told off....well what's the problem?

I think you're making a bigger deal of this than the school by the sound of your OP

i think it's an over-reaction.

I think if it hadn't been a close friend's mum, then a ticking off, but hauled to head? really ?! for silly putty?
fgs.

She IS a cheeky little madam - so despite me giggling inside at her antics we backed the school up completely and told her off.

But I do think the school's reaction was way OTT tbh. And I think being SO heavyhanded with a lunch-break incident like this completely undermines disciplining some real issues - such as not doing the work you've been asked to do in class, or hitting falling out very unconstructively with a friend.

Naughty, rude, disrespectful behavior. Head perfectly reasonable by the sounds of it.

YABU. Not only would I have backed the school 100%, but I'd have punished her separately for going against my express instruction.

And when you say "... but can be a very difficult child at times" - how difficult?