to tell an elderly gent to f*ck off

[Helenfellows33]

i was on a family day out on a steam train and on the way home an infirm old man got on with his carer. she left shortly after and he was on his own in his wheelchair with me and my dh and dc's. this journey was about an hour long and ds being cranky started to cry. and the old man turned to him and shouted at him to be quiet boy. at this i told him to shut the fuck up and a list of words i cant mention here. dh backed me up although i was telling a friend later she said he was ok too this as he was old, we are now not speaking cause of this. AIBU for doing that to an elderly person.

tbh if I was in the train carriage with my kids and heard you saying this to the old man and your DP backing you up, I would be scared of you. I would be sorry for your DS. And I would be very sorry for the old man who was probably scared of you. And I would be trying to find the guard to deal with you.

Big Jessie I presume the OP's response of:

what about his appology. do you think a grown adult shouting at a small child acceptable.

Was her way of saying she had given your idea due consideration and that was her resultant thoughts on the subject.

YANBU

IMO you should have roundhouse kicked the old gimmer in the face.

xxx

@ Bupcakes

Yanbu

You are being totally out of order.

What is your behavior showing your dc's? That it's acceptable to be verbally abusive every time someone says something you don't like? That's not how you get on in life.

Disgusting behavior from a pair of "adults"

Imagine how the old fella felt.

You really should be ashamed of yourselves.

Then after you'd kicked him, you could have whacked him with your empty White Lightening bottle.

What an unpleasant person you must be

How mean of you. Poor man. You sound really common and that's not a label I'd give out often.

Tea out of nostril moment courtesy of buppy

Then after you've whacked him with your empty cider bottle, set your staffie on him. That'll learn him.

OP, you sound like a vile, horrible person. I feel sorry for the old man you abused, and I also feel sorry for your children.

Then offered him a fight when the journey terminated.

YABU.

There's one thing standing up for yourself. There's another using offensive, foul language to make a point.

Reminds me of a grim family we saw - a 4 year boy ran ahead of them and they shouted "come the fuck back ere callum someone might nick yer" DH muttered "that might be your only chance callum run" under his breath.

I'm baaack!

Child and handsome swain of my own fed, bathroom bleached,thread skimmed.

Now, a couple of points please:

1. Has OP told us yet what her Big man said when he defended her honour to Prince Philip/Captain Mainwaring?

1. Is knowitall Big Man?

1. What on earth did Quint (I think it was Quint- have skimmed) say to get deleted? It wasn't......shock horror "old git" was it?

TIA.

'Bucharest* - welcome back :)

1. No. The OPs lips are sealed
2. I don't think so
3. I missed that. Was hanging out laundry :( -If you find out please tell me

Hang on - I'm sure this was the exact same storyline in the penultimate episode of Ken Loach's adaptation of the Railway Children.

Hang on a minute thread,

The OP was wrong to swear I'm sure deep down she knows that.

It is setting a poor example to DC and an OTT reaction.

However I'm sure we've all felt the volcanic rage when some backwater moron decides its their place to shout/tut general that their limited insigt into your children givens them 'kridenshuls'' to address your parenting.

Its infuriating , I'm sure we would never react like that but the rage is very real. I think calling her a chav is unnesscary.

YABU not to have spat at him, tipped his wheelchair over and stolen his hat. WHAT A CUNT!!

A mature gent told my son to "GO BACK TO YOUR MOTHER" once, in a beer garden that is aimed at families (well, I am guessing it is, since it has a slide/swings/wooden playhouse in it) I told him to go back to bed and not get up until he was in a better mood. Then I offered him a pork scratching, which he took. Daft feller.

Fuck's sake. I'm not having peeps tell me and my toddler group homies that we can't go for half a lager and a bag of scratchings on the last day of term!

Hoebag....the only erm,"backwater moron" I think we've been exposed to on this thread is not the person who was criticising the OP's parenting.

(and actually he was telling her kid to be quiet, not saying she was a bad mother or ow't.....obviously what he was thinking might be quite different....)

OP, in the heat of the moment, if very stressed, I might well have thought what you did (to be charitable)

But the difference between a child and an adult (or an adult and someone who is very old) is that adults know when to express their unkind thoughts and when to keep their lips tightly sealed and smile politely.

Oh dear, massive over-reaction on your part, OP. You sound utterly charming . Do you actually have any old people in your life, a grandparent perhaps? Perhaps they can be a bit cranky? How would you feel if they were treated in the manner that you treated this old man? There was a thread on here a while back where someone took umbrage at their child being asked to give up their seat on the bus for an elderly lady. That wasn't you, was it?

Tip for next time some doddery old Cyril tells your DS to stfu, OP: say "Oh do fuck off, there's a dear" Sounds a bit naicer.