To wonder why MN has turned into such a bitch fest recently.

[Lucy88]

I have been coming on MN on and off for about 2 years and have always found it to be very useful for reading others advice and asking others for advice, reading reviews and getting holiday advice. There will always be times when people will disagree or not like other peoples advice, but I have been truly shocked recently at some of the posts I have read.

I am quite an outspoken person (in real life), but do try to adhere to the mantra of 'Don't put anything online that you would not be prepared to say to anyones face' but OMG even I have been surprised at the amount of bitchy, nasty responses some people have received on here recently.

I know that it is difficult when communicating just through the written word, as there is no body language or intonation to always give the correct message, but some posters really do think it is ok to be really nasty and make personal comments. Name calling seems to be the 'in thing' at the moment and I have to admit, that I just don't get it - not from grown women.

The majority of people who make these types of comments, probably wouldn't dare to say these things to people's faces, but think it is perfectly ok to do it online.

Can we at least have a week where we think about what we post and if we can't post anything constructive and polite, then perhaps don't post at all.

I would quite enjoy a lewd shelter.

I assumed it was me getting bored, 'she who is tired of mumsnet, is tired of maternity leave' and all that.

I wish these straight talking, hard thinking, nosy rude bastards would take their own advice and apply it to themselves!:

'how dare you feel entitled to tell the op to get a grip'
'god, your always on mumsnet, telling others to get a grip, even though you have never ever had any help from any family member ever which would free up your time. Your children must be neglected. I feel sorry for your dh' etc

You know... I haven't seen any of this clique stuff yet. Am I just blind to it? Where does it occur? I only visit four forums: chat, AIBU, doghouse (recently) and pregnancy. I keep finding out there's new subforums I didn't know about. Is there one for the cliques?

Maybe it's because I haven't linked any members to each other yet?

I'm feeling naughty as well, because there's someone on this very thread who has been a right mean cow in the past... hypocrite!

[stirs the pot]

I post on a few forums and you will always, always, get a percentage of bitches, sneerers, putter downers and arguing for the sake of it types. I don't know whether they're like that in real life or whether they use forums like this to unload all their spite and nastiness and come across as lovely people in RL.

Boomerwang means me everyone!

I wasn't mean to you for no reason, Boomerwang, would you like me to.post the disgusting comment here that you made which upset me and made me angry?

I doubt it somehow

I stand by the comments I make, including apologies if I offer one afterwards, which I did. It didn't stop you making some ridiculous personal attacks. My opinion was unpopular but it didn't warrant that kind of response, nor the chasing from thread to thread about it.

classy, make digs on a thread and then expect to wash dirty linen in public

talk to me by PM if you want but don't make wee snarky digs and then expect me to go into it all with you here

tbh your opinion was so outrageous i thought you were a troll at the time, if truth be told

and acted accordingly..now that is all I have to say on the matter

Well I wasn't going to, but I didn't want to run and hide from your challenge :)

Guys, can you take it somewhere else?

Boomerwang's (the professional carer). comments about how some disabled people would be better off dead, still sends chills.

*Disclaimer was very upsetting.

boomerwang..well you started it..and my last word on this is that "following you from thread to thread" equalled seeing you being arsey on another thread and making 1 comment.

at making shitty comment about me and then acting all innocent

Good grief.
Don't make snarky comments and then pretend to be a victim. Especially with the passive aggressive smiley. It is bloody childish.

and BigGirl - that wasnt the comment I objected to. In fact I might as well say it now..it was that

"we have a responsibility to abort disabled children as they bleed society dry"

Which I objected to as parent of a disabled child, and said so, and then said something on another thread.

Which doesnt in my mind equate to "being a mean cow" for no reason and stalking someone round the boards.

Had to defend myself there.

Pag- i hope we x posted there and that was addressed to boomerwang

Ahh I had no idea it was about SN. It was just my memory. Oooh

IT'S A CARER' TOO

I'd be in prison after i heard her say that about my child!!!!!!!!!!!

Yes.

I can't believe that mn is so mad that someone uses a thread about 'why are so many people being shitty' as an opportunity to be shitty.
Ffs. It's not as if there is a shortage of shit storms one could join.

It's been happening for years, it's not new OP. Sadly.

I'm feeling bitter as I just got told off for posting in chat about something which Has Its Own Topic.

Betty the finger wagging about that kind of stuff is

teling each other off about teeny innocent mistakes

it is the prejudice/ILLEGAL/IMMORAL crap that matters

I have forgiven Chaos the person now

she was just being stern and a bit helpful
and she's probably right

Sorry I was in the mood for a bit of biatchyness :D

So who is the hypocrite now.

Hope you enjoyed your bit of bitchiness, I personally could have done without it today, but at long as it entertained your wee mind that's ok then