DD 'breastfeeding'

[BlueFergie]

Ok DD is 5 and DS1 is 3. They are great pals and play really well together. They play lots of role play games including mummy and daddys were they are the parents to a baby doll. Recently it has become mummy and baby with DD as mummy and DS1 as her baby. As part of this game DD will lift her top and pretend to breast feed DS he will put his mouth on her nipple and pretend to feed.
I know its not a huge deal and it's perfectly innocent of course. I am breast feeding DS2 so to them it is just how babies are fed, and they both always did it playing with dolls. But I don't know if its appropriate
DH thinks it isn't and needs to be stopped. What do you guys think. Should I say something and if so what.

Handmini would you like to tell me where I said anything to or about Amber?

Well if your point is to bring a broader, diverse discussion of breastfeeding to the table, don't start by assuming that someone will be shocked by a view, simply because their opinions thus far haven't accorded with yours.

Piss take noted however

It's been interesting to hear the different views. In the main they agree with my instincts which was that its the normal games of young kids imitating what they see and nothing to worry about really.
However some of the disgust has been an eye opener. Especially the lovely posters calling my children creepy and revolting . It has made me wary of allowing them continue this game when it could potentially expose them to adults saying things like that to them. I may have to gently guide them away from it.

Amber thing is, more than once you've had to ask different posters if they've read your posts. Doesn't that suggest that maybe your message and/or reasoning isn't clear. I got the impression (as did others) that you were anti-bf. You say you're not; fair enough. I don't think there's any more mileage in this angle.

You talk about boundaries, but you are extremely vague as to why these need to be established & what they should be.'so again, really unclear for one so dogged.

I have read your posts, actually, Amber (OK, not all of them, but all on this page). I'm confused about what you don't find 'appropriate'? And 'personal boundaries'. While I fully accept that my personal boundaries may be looser than others what is the issue with small children who don't even have breasts?

(I also only have about 10 more minutes to debate this as the children will then be up from their naps - but here for a bit longer, at least).

You didn't say anything about Amber

You suggested to the OP that if another child's mother didn't like the game, the OP tell her DCs that that mother was a bottle feeder.

I think this = your assumption that someone who didn't like the game would not be pro breastfeeding.

Handmini - I have no idea what you are on about much less care. My post was to BlueFergie (as it clearly said). I answered her question.

Amber you don't like shocked? Pick one then (or advance your own):

Aggrieved?
Disconcerted?
Startled?
Strangely uneasy?
Panicked?
Upset?

Or A.N.Other?

No - I didn't say anything to or about Amber so why did you say Chipping I still don't get your point. Because you think Amber leaf is narrow minded in one way, you try to show her to be narrow minded in more ways? Whatever.

GavisconJunkie, please explain what exactly that I wrote it was that gave you the impression I was anti breast feeding?

I specifically said that there is nothing sexual or shameful about either breastfeeding or older childrens mimicing of that

BlueFergie your children sound lovely! Please don't take away 'creepy' or 'revolting' from this thread! Not only are you coping so well with three (position I'm soon to be in!!!) but your older two are playing a beautiful game taken from life while you're breastfeeding - you have accomplished mothering Nirvana! I need to take tips from you for when my own DC3 arrives in September!!!

Ok Chipping or should that be Chippy Just my reading of your post Goodnight.

OP I urge you not to restrict your children's activities in any way to accommodate the views of others. Teach them to be themselves & stand up for what they & you think is right. Presumably this is how you'll be when they're older, so I say why not start now?

Chocolate, none of those actually, I suggest you either read all of my posts on this thread or drop it because you are wronger than a wrong thing with your suggestions of what I think about this.

Handmini - as I have already explained to you, that is not my assumption. It is simply a way of explaining someone's stupid, narrow minded outlook to two small children in a way they will understand and wont embarrass you in the playground - because trying to explain it, when it makes no sense isn't easy and is liable to have them repeating something you would rather they didn't about narrow minded outlooks. Saying x's Mum thinks babies should be fed with a bottle is, by far, the simplest explanation for 3 & 5 year olds.

I have 8 minutes and counting! Can't read all five billion posts.

Just sum up: 'inappropriate' and 'personal boundaries'.

There, then we'll be done

I'm not normally wrong.... it's a novel position to be in

No, read my posts or shut up!

Handmini - no, I'm not chippy at all, but I didn't come here for a FF v BF debate. I answered the OP, I directed my comment specifically to the OP and yet you decided to shit stir a bit and now are calling me chippy??

Amber - are you going to count to three?!

Scanning back.... can't find any definition of 'inappropriate' or 'personal boundaries'.

Four minutes......

Amber perhaps you misread my post? :o

I said I and others got the impression that is to say inferred from a tone that you might be anti-bf. Saying you don't find it sexual or shameful is one thing, I think that it is wonderful & to be embraced & celebrated. My last post accepted your insistence that you don't have a problem with it. Now stop banging your fucking drum.

Gaviscon I think she's cross with me, actually..... Let's see if we can sort this out, or maybe it will all just deteriorate into the usual bun fight....

ChocolateIsAFoodGroup Thanks a million. My kids are great. They are brilliant friends to each other and both adore their little brother, who is a wonderful little man himself. I am ridiculously proud of them all. I don't know about coping well but I am keeping them all alive at least!
Mothering Nirvana I like the sound of that...although I imagine it's tidier than my house!
Good luck with your little one in Sept. My fella will be a year by then and I'll be looking enviously at newborns again!

Im not banging my drum Gaviscon, you keep calling me up in your posts! im responding to your ridiculous assumptions about me.

Chocolate, no im not cross!

Alright people - it's over and out from me! Nap time endeth... (Berkeley, CA).

Go at is girls while I run around after the small people!

BlueFergie you just made me tear up a bit! (Not that it takes much these days, I have to admit - hormones arampant!) All the very, very best to you!

I wrote it how I read it. I read your bottle feed comment as a response to an earlier Amber post about how to deal with other people's reaction to the game My bad that that specific post was actually addressed to BlueFergie, and I didn't take that into account. But I didn't shit stir and I called you chippy because of your "much less care" comment which got my back up.