To think I am as invisible on MN as I am at home?

[gaunyerseljeannie]

You know how it is, you speak.. no-one appears to hear, you clean, no-one cares, you cook, its yucky etc etc etc.
Well yes and I just accepted that as part of the motherhood deal, but thought MN was somewhere I might get noticed/ heard/ interacted with, but so many times I post and never get a thanks or even a WTF? I am beginning to feel like I am still at home............. anyone out there?

OP, cooee - a hint about people replying to you - helps if you reply back again - I know you have done once but another showing on your own thread might help :)

Sorry to burst your bubble, but this is Mumsnet Maryz - the concept of letting someone have the last word does not exist on here!

Who said that?

I've been on here years and nobody seems to know me either. I think the folk that get remembered are either really witty or have a circumstance that identifies them... or they're racist, I tend to remember when someone has posted a racist comment. Not a great thing to be remembered for though!

Sorry... that was for the OP...

Nah shockers, the 'remembered' ones are (on the whole) the show offs prolific posters, that's all.

You're not invisible OP, it's just easy to get overlooked in this virtual crowd of thousands of chattering people...

If your family are not paying you attention, make sure you are paying yourself attention, and

There, I really killed it this time...

Thumbwitch - what you described is what happens to me at work! I make an astonishingly insightful and strategically brilliant suggestion. Ten minutes later a man says the same thing and everyone falls all over him in adoration.

I've taken to saying 'Thank you X for picking up on MY idea. I'm so glad you agree with ME.'

Strangely, I don't think I would respond in such a passive aggressive way over it happening on MN!

No? I wonder why not!
I love that response - excellent piece of redirection back to where the idea belongs

Is this thread turning into a competitive thread kill?

Well if it is I will win. Cos I is a threadkiller, innit.
(unless that SecretNutellaFix is on here - she's betterer'n me, usually)

Where's the extra a gone, pag?

I did my best to kill it, but fanny revived it

Sorry if it's been said already but what annoys me is when you say something and it goes uncommented on until a more well known posters says almost the same and people then say 'x has an excellent point' and I just think wanker getting the credit for what i said all along grrr (not that I'm at all bitter)

Eau

I would put you in the category of well known poster, definitely, or maybe I just notice your name as it stands out?

Eau- after a while you spot the cliques and it is always the same posters licking each others arse. I just think "sad bitches".

I wonder who said that first, Eau - I know I said it about a page before you and then someone else has said it since, so it's probably (at a guess) about once every page??

Or people who reply to me... I'll always remember you now proudnscary .

Eau - I have wondered about this myself and have a possible explanation: MNers are a feckless, lazy bunch of slackers. Many of them not me of course only bother to read the first page and last page of a thread. Shocking, I know.

So if X made a brilliant point on page 3, but the thread is now 8 pages long and Y made the same point on page 8, then Y's comment is the one that will get replied to by new posters. Which kind of makes sense as they are more likely to be still involved in the conversation at that point.

Would this account for it?

I'm never sure about the arse licking stuff. I'll lick any arse reply to any post, especially if they are witty, well-argued, clever, kind, or sweary.

I wonder if I am a sad bitch?

I certainly seem to be quite chipper if that is the case.

Ways to get noticed on MN.

1. If you would normally say "thats nice", say "thats amazing". If you would normally say "thats a bit rubbish", say "thats a disgrace". In short, just exaggerate. Or scream "Leave the bastard" lots.
2. Pretend you either write for the Guardian, and make massive posts with flowery words to make you look intelligent, even if what you are saying is a pile of dogs droppings. Or alternatively pretend you wright for the DM and just be an unreasonable wally spouting provocate stuff with no basis in fact. And keep up this act for the entire duration of the thread. Essentially role play a bit to get a response for your point of view, even if its not exactly what you really think.
3. Argue black is white and don't back down. No matter illogical you are. No matter what, you are right and everyone else is wrong. The "Be An Arse" approach.
4. Actually be sincere, honest and all round sympathetic and nice and just speak from the heart - in the way that you would dance if no one was watching. I think if you aren't prepared to share a little bit of yourself then you won't get anyone shared a little bit back.
5. Be ridiculous and join in when things are totally stupid. Don't take it all too seriously.
6. Don't just repeat what everyone else on the thread has already said. If its been said already find another thread.
7. Find another angle to the thread that no one else has thought of and post that. Be original.
8. Stick to threads you have a real interest in, or you are passionate about - you are more likely to be able to contribute better and not feel out of your depth.
9. Be openminded and willing to listen. Engaging with other posters, by praising them or saying "oh I never thought of things like that before"
10. Don't sit there expecting a PM to just pop in your mail box. Send one to someone else first.
11. All else fails, name change and start again. Rinse and repeat.
12. Above all else get stuck in. You can either choose to be a wallflower looking on, or dive in and be David Brett doing that dance on The Office.

I haven't rtft, but i just want to say I share your pain.