To think I am as invisible on MN as I am at home?

[gaunyerseljeannie]

You know how it is, you speak.. no-one appears to hear, you clean, no-one cares, you cook, its yucky etc etc etc.
Well yes and I just accepted that as part of the motherhood deal, but thought MN was somewhere I might get noticed/ heard/ interacted with, but so many times I post and never get a thanks or even a WTF? I am beginning to feel like I am still at home............. anyone out there?

I don't think it's about being noticed and involved - I think it's about attention. I don't mean that horribly actually. What I mean is, don't most of us just enjoy whatever thread we're on or conversation/altercation we're having on Mumsnet...we're not worried about who is going to notice us or remember our names?

Sorry cross posts - yes I do think it's about being a star, about attention.

I have to agree it's a bit odd that she hasn't come back. I have never seen her name before, but because of this thread I am now prepared to look out for her around the boards.

But disappearing from a thread you started does not help! Bit of advice OP - if you want to be recognised on MN it's about establishing relationships. Don't disappear from threads you started, or name change and expect to be still recognised!

I make loads of effort and don't get noticed (except with the Plurkers). Luckily I am quite satisfied in rl so I don't care! :)

Proud - I sort of agree. I think it's nice to be noticed. I think it's lovely to meet people and find you have a shared sense of humour or views - some people don't get that much in RL.

But it can signify problems in RL, and that's a problem if MN is detracting and not helping your RL.

I agree OriginalJamie.

I can understand feeling frustrated if you are trying to make a pertinent point on a thread and keep getting overlooked and ignored.

But I can't understand feeling miffed if people don't recognise your name or 'who you are'.

That's just narcissm (sp?) surely?

And yes it is lovely to have a laugh and a discussion on here, but that, again, is a different thing to being 'remembered'.

If mnet is getting in the way of rl then it's a problem not a help but I do think it has it's place to bolster people's confidence or help them make choices.

It's also great if you're bored

Not sure about bolstering confidence - especially on AIBU! . I think if you are lacking in confidence or are socially awkward in RL then it's going to be the same on here really.

And re connecting with other posters - I often have discussions with people but can't honestly say I'd remember them again! Some I do, some I don't, for no particular reason depends how much wine I've drunk.

yy I am more assertive in RL now.

Being remembered/recognised is, I suppose, about attention. But it's also the start of 'relationships'. There are people here who I feel I 'know', and will pay more attention to their posts simply for that reason. There are others who I have gone on to meet, at either local meet-ups or the bigger, more central ones.

I think it's part of the human condition, actually - wanting to belong to something.

Actually, Jamie, thinking about it I am a bit more strident and feminst-y in real life now about certain issues. So maybe you have a point.

Proudnscary - I like the idea that in rl you are now living up to the name of your MN alter ego! Proud and scary!

I only recognise the people who tend to post on the same issues as me, so if there is a thread saying "Why Oh why should benefit scroungers sit on their arse watching JK all day??" I will show up for a rant, and will be assured of seeing a lot of the usual suspects.

It's normal - albeit slightly annoying, especially when you post a great long post full of information, and then a page or so later, someone posts much the same and they get thanked for it while you get ignored. That still grates slightly!

But as you stay and post, more people will come to recognise your posting name - and perhaps you might get more direct acknowledgement then.

Other than that, I wouldn't worry about it - every now and then there are threads about how no one ever thanks anyone for their input (of course some posters do!) and how it would be nice if they knew their advice had been acknowledged/noticed/taken - tis the nature of the MN beast, I'm afraid.

Yes, Thumbwitch, when I have had a 'thank you for support' message, that really means a lot I agree. That's about feeling you might have helped someone, rather than name/fame recognition.

Fanny - ha! I was always quite proud and scary! Although for my first year or so on here I was Proudnsad then Proudnglad. Scary is much more apt. I am in awe of your valuable vagina

FannyPriceless is right though.
It is nonsense to start a thread saying 'no one remembers me' and then, when you have loads of replies, fail to engage or respond in any meaningful way.
It is about a number of things but people remember being engaged with a poster and that creates the connection. If you don't engage then no one will remember you.

I know you everlong. You are not a skulking in the background poster in my head. I always spot you on threads.

Has she not come back yet?
She is doing exactly what she says everyone does to her

I feel the same too. Occasionally I get replies but mostly not. Its how it goes.

what really gets to me on a thread is if you have said something then somebody else says the same think the OP withh quote the other person but not me , I go HELLO I SAID IT TOO

thing* not think

I am only posting to alleviate your Thread Killing Paranoia, Maryz!