Well i am not sure and its very trivial and probably shows how money conscious, and insecure i am BUT

[MyLittleMiracle]

I saw a nice top whilst out today, and i do like it alot, but i would also want a white pair of jeans to go with them. I like the top a lot, but i am not sure about paying £35 for it. I am trying to save for rent in advance and a deposit, but it looks like the council will have to house me. I am going for a family meal on sunday as well and have nothing to wear.

Is £35 a stupid amount to spend on a top? And should i just get a different colour to avoid buying a new pair of jeans?

Think i really need someone to say, no buy it for yourself...but doubt you will. Talk me into/ out of it please. So undecided!

FlouncyMcFlouncer- "Not only do I not know what's going on, but I now also can't understand half of what's being said. Are letters of the alphabet being rationed?"
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{grin] @ hellokittyrules

You, the OP and glue do not, I'm afraid, = 3 people.

HTH

And here's my only done properly this time. FFS.

"Not only do I not know what's going on, but I now also can't understand half of what's being said. Are letters of the alphabet being rationed?"

^ what flouncy said.

And op I'm a regular once well known before several name changes mumsnetter. Don't pm me. Your only making yourself look worse.

I'm not being nasty here its just god damn frustrating watching someone in a situation I've experienced, however I was in a hostel half a year, wish I'd had family to support me.

And wrt seeing things I like, no, because I had no need to be in shops when I had no money, food was aldi so no other temptations.

Its fucking hard.

The council are next to useless, they lie, move goal posts and don't care, not one bit, but then I have a partner, all the single mums were out of the hostel before they unpacked. See if there's a group called "housing action" near you. They're who got us out.

I wish you well op, but for goodness sake see how silly your making yourself look!

Its not that i am not doing anything.....JUST GETTING FRUSTRATED, cos I have done all that i can think of....and asked everyone i know and mumsnet for other suggestions. Hopefully, i wil get this place off gumtree and then i can get sorted. I only went there to post a letter (which i needed to do to help my housing situation, it was further evidence) and saw it in the shop oppisite when i came out! I wasnt purposefully shopping for clothes. I also walk past it cos its near to boots for nappies (i buy there own brand cos they are cheaper than pampers etc, but dont leak or cause nappy rash on my little one)

oh dear god, this is a wind up isn't it. First you post to ask if you should buy a top for £35 when you are waiting to be housed by the council - which i sort of think, oookaaay, i have a friend who has just been housed by the council, she dresses well, drives etc, but she also works as does her DP, they are just on a low income, so fair enough. Then you post to say you hve NOTHING!! You had to come on to MN to ask? Grow the fuck up, you have children i take it? Take that £35 and buy something nice for your kids if its spare. Otherwise put it to one side to pay for some gas when you move in to your new place, youre gonna need every penny. White jeans, ah feck off

Good luck with the council I was homeless too with 4 children and no help from the council as I work. Had to pay my own b&b and travel costs. I also had and still have medicated pnd: it's hard I know that but for me the one thing that kept me going through it all (divorce after 14 yrs marriage) was that it might not be much that I was providing by via working I was paying for it all myself and supporting my family.
Working actually helps my pnd it gives me a focus as well as huge children. It also gives you time to be you and not mum so gives you that space that you need.

The children not huge children! They aren't huge by any means

Huge children

desperate how bloody rude!! Why? Makes you feel good snout yourself foes it?

Op is clearly a young MNer. She will 'grow up' no doubt very quickly with all this to deal with.

Snout? About!!

Op, is your viewing tomorrow?

It is tomorrow, and my fingers are firmly crossed, spoke to them again tonight and they seem ever so nice, truly nice people. Just want someone trustworthy in the place! And someone who will take care of it! £35 buys quite a bit of cleaning stuff etc, washing powder etc etc! Really looking forward to it. And the way i see it is there is nothing i have to lose by going to have a look right? Just time, that i would otherwise spend stressing! But wont be in until after 8 tomorrow night, so cant update until then!

Nothing to lose by looking. Of course not. Hope it's suitable for you.

And i have learnt to stand on my own two feet, who has it been going to the council, sorting the money out, who has sorted out a viewing on a property....ME WITH NO HELP! I have gone everywhere and done everything on my OWN. I have filled the forms in, rang the relevant places etc, gone to solicitors, everything. My Mum hasnt done it for me! Maybe some washing but thats ALL, I have relied on me! And you know what if i get somewhere at the end of all this it will feel better. I am early twenties, i have had it easy. My dad died aged 15months, grew up being bullied cos i didnt have much, left home at 16, cos my sisters abuse which by the way she ended up in court cos she attacked my mum two christmases ago and broke her nose. Oh yeah, reallyu god damned easy, then i marry someone who turns out to be abusive and a cocaine taking alcoholic. I lose my father in law, who was the closest thing to a dad i ever had, have lost two babies, had post natal depression, epilepsy, been stabbed by the ex, strangled until i was unconscious, and when i woke i had a broken clevical. I have had problems with my right eye, where it was punched and i had loads of blood in it. I had a broken toe! So on the whole, a fucking god damned easy life. We were homeless after FIL, died as we had given our tenancy up to look after him, ad he had got an overdraft to get a place close to him, we got somewhere privately, cos the council couldnt help, we were then made homeless again and moving at 8 months pregnant. So of course, i have had it easy, so before people go judging me for wanting nice things and my head being all over the place maybe they should consider these things. The man i loved turned into a monster. I am going through a messy divorce. Its so easy being me, i know there are worse out there, but there are also better, and i think some people assume, i left my ex, came here, and expected everything to fall in my lap! I dont, honestly i dont, just sometimes a little help from relevant people goes a long way! And so me support. At one point before i was away from there i TRIED to kill myself, and ended up taking all of the sleeping tablets i had. Luckily they werent enough and I am okay now.

Thank you to all those who have been supportive.

Thank you to all those who have stood by and said look no not a good idea, o have you tried this or that, or just well done your doing well, or oh it just takes time be patient

LilacWaltz You are abolutely right I apologise OP, i was out of order. I hope you get things sorted soon xx

Think we all read things and dont necessarily know the back ground, and i suppose reading it, it does sound selfish. I just havent had anything nice for ages, and i suppose i wanted to treat myself cos i was getting on the straight and narrow with my debts being sorted!

dont worry desperate a lot of people make assumptions based on very little, but i havent had it easy, i think a lot of people have assumed on here that i have had a let say "priviledged" upbringing, when i didnt. My mum could have had a council property before grandad died, she was in a small room with two kids, and there were two very sick men in the main bedroom. She didnt though, she stayed at home and nursed them, instead of them being in a nursing home and hospice. My dad did pass on in a hospice but was only in there ten days and his two nephews john and stuart LITERALLY had to carry him out of here. My mum has been strong, she stayed in the same property, where she saw her mum dad and the man she loved leave from knowing they would never return.

And THANK YOU DESPERATE for apologising. Most people never bother to!

OP, stop putting peoples names into your posts!!! it makes you identifiable.

Things will get better for you, they have to don't they? But you don't want to lose MNfor support. As squeaky says, keep people's names out of your posts, then you don't make it so obvious who you are and have to keep name changing.

Desperate, was someone who just posted up the thread! I have stopped posting names or at least have tried to!

Well, i was an arse I don't mind admitting it :) Im sure you look just fine without the white jeans, which i wont apologise for saying would be a huge fashion mistake !! I never buy new clothes, i get all of my clothes from the charity shops, depending on where you live you can get some really great clothes if you shop cleverly, especially with retro fashions etc. If you do have a little bit spare, then you could do worse than treat yourself in the charity shop - they are not that cheap these days, but you can get really good quality stuff thats hardly been worn. I get on a bit of a mission with it, you have to be prepared to pop in sort of eery week, i know what days they put the new stuff out so I have got some great bargains.

wtaf..

white jeans in february are bad enough, but if you tell me they are bootcut i will have a little meltdown...

girl needs to learn some style...

No, you mentioned the nephews by name!

I have a mental image of you sat at the keyboard typing away, very fast!! Fingers going faster than your brain lol!

Probably right i do need some style and god i am glad to have someone come on here to criticise me on something I CAN LAUGH AT!