Well i am not sure and its very trivial and probably shows how money conscious, and insecure i am BUT

[MyLittleMiracle]

I saw a nice top whilst out today, and i do like it alot, but i would also want a white pair of jeans to go with them. I like the top a lot, but i am not sure about paying £35 for it. I am trying to save for rent in advance and a deposit, but it looks like the council will have to house me. I am going for a family meal on sunday as well and have nothing to wear.

Is £35 a stupid amount to spend on a top? And should i just get a different colour to avoid buying a new pair of jeans?

Think i really need someone to say, no buy it for yourself...but doubt you will. Talk me into/ out of it please. So undecided!

I'd rather pluck out my own eyes and eat them on toast than set foot in a gym DH caught ringworm from sweaty gym equipment. I nearly had to have him put down

Lol! Haha! X

Srsly wtf is this all about?

ewwwwww chickens you may have actually put me off gyms now.

I actually like exercising when I get off my fat arse and actually do some.

hi op

sounds like u r in a hard situation at the mo!!
i know what u mean when nothing fits it is horrid and u just want a whole new wardrobe
sounds like u like spending money but feel unjustified
i luv spending when i know i shouldnt i only buy online dont look in shops i have shop accnts where i pay mnthly - i am not suggesting u do this
i have a job so have worked out paying back!!
agree £35 alot for a top!
i have just 3 bras wear each one for 3 days make sure others r washed
i am only 34aa so hard to get bras
definetly wouldnt get white jeans!! i hv 2 dds would get filthy and i would be to worried to eat choccy etc

must be awful having pnd cant imagine
i have anxiety issues!! i am on ads it is hard sometimes

I am utterly amazed that a GP would send a size 12 person to a gym on the NHS scheme. I doubt they would send anyone unless they were extremely obese.

squeaky was it not for depression the OP was being prescribed gym membership? Also I think the OP has lost weight so was at least overweight at one point.

lots of harsh comment on here

why other comments about op going to the gym
she was only asking about if she should buy the £35 top

1. she is going to the gym as it has been prescribed by the dr as she has very bad pnd!! it is free like op said they check up on you she was overweight at one point
2. pnd must be awful others need to be abit more sensitive! it must be a horrid situation i get anxious and that is bad enough!!
3. ok question may of been abit silly but i have posted similair things when feeling anxious
4. who doesnt like spending and wants things knowing they cant have them it is really hard

Not only do I not know what's going on, but I now also can't understand half of what's being said. Are letters of the alphabet being rationed?

This thread is hilarious!

I think I agree with Kitty.

MyNameIsntFUCKINGWarren by the way, this: 'And it is needed. It is the only time i get away from my little one' is a hideous thing to say. Why on earth do you NEED time away from your child at the taxpayers expense. just yuk at all of this.

Wow aren't you an understanding sensitive person! You obviously have no idea what PND is like. Personally I think it is best when you don't have any experience of a subject to stay quiet listen and learn, rather then ignorantly mouthing off and judging!

This is nothing hideous about needing time away from your child, it is perfectly natural and normal for most people at some time. Often a lot more needed by someone with PND. If you were trying to make the OP feel like crap and a failure as a mother then you have probably succeeded.

I would imagine that the gym was prescribed to the OP for her depression as it is known to change chemicals or something or other in the brain. I thought everyone knew that.

I think most people know that exercise, rather than a gym subscription, produces endorphins which can help with the effects of depression and were pointing out that there are many cheap or free forms it can take.

I now know that gyms produce ringworm

I was so ill with PND, not only did i end up in a rest lodge as a crisis admission for three days, which is the longest you could stay. I was seriously ill. I am getting better, but they now want to help me get off anti depressants and diazepam for anxiety. As on occasions i am actually shaking, physically shaking with anxiety. So i think mentally and physically it is in my best interest and the nhs's too.

I was over weight. By BMI I still am over weight, cheers for reminding me! As if i dont feel crappy enough about it. I want to be a size 8, i used to be a 6 before little one!

Thank you to those people who have been supportive, and not been really judgemental about WANTING SOMETHING. If i had bought it okay fair enough, but i didnt and havent and wont.

Do you not need time to yourself??? I just want to sort my life out. Big deal. I want to get my divorce on track and sorted, oh dear dreadful me, i want to know what i am doing in life. Not much to want really. A front door of my own, my divorce sorted, contact decided upon, health sorted and start looking to the future. Not a major list to want for is it really? All things that the majority of you have!!

How about we stop picking on people who go to the gym to try and get better an d start picking on those on things like methadone, who still take drugs and see it is a free fix....i mean they are actually costing the tax payer money....not only in prescriptions, but shop lifting, police presence, drugs raids, shall i go on? I have COMPLETE SYMPATHY for those who are addicted, but using it to get off it, but not for those who dont even attempt to!

MyNameIsntFUCKINGWarren I've had PND, and I've been a single parent to two toddlers. I would never have said that I needed to get away from them. It's a horrible thing to say.

Good for you! Congratulations! So you think that no one else (even those who are mentally ill with depression) ever need time away from their children? And if they do they are horrible? Well you know what . . . I think you're horrible and your posts have me so angry I am actually shaking. Congrats to you for battling through PND without needing a moment to yourself. Bit fecking congrats I'm surprised you can see to type with your judgy pants hoinked up so high!

Perhaps we should start a thread to ask if other parents ever need a bit of time to themselves and if some do does that make them horrible. Wonder what the response would be . . .

You only live once buy it

MyNameIsntFUCKINGWarren Well I started it. You might want to look here.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1412994-Is-I-need-a-bit-of-time-away-from-my-dcs-a-horrible-thing-to-say

I last wore white jeans in 1993 on a first date - my period came early. No good comes of white jeans.

IamMummyhearmeROAR Oh that's awful! I have some white trousers that I've never work as I am paranoid about similar happening.

MyNameIsntFUCKINGWarren That's cool . . . touched a nerve is all.

Glue, Warren who isn't Warren has apologised for that one comment but has also explained the back-story.

£35 on a top and also wanting to buy totally impractical white jeans to go with it is a bit silly, shall we say, if you are only going to the sort of restaurant where jeans would be acceptable.

And the tattoo removal, chain, mothers day present almost a month in advance while her own mum has been putting OP and her child up for ages, the bra-poverty, mother who only does washing once a week and the gym while the DC are sitting in the car...

That's all on this thread.

People are getting impatient. And sceptical.

OK so you going to get the top ....?