Well i am not sure and its very trivial and probably shows how money conscious, and insecure i am BUT

[MyLittleMiracle]

I saw a nice top whilst out today, and i do like it alot, but i would also want a white pair of jeans to go with them. I like the top a lot, but i am not sure about paying £35 for it. I am trying to save for rent in advance and a deposit, but it looks like the council will have to house me. I am going for a family meal on sunday as well and have nothing to wear.

Is £35 a stupid amount to spend on a top? And should i just get a different colour to avoid buying a new pair of jeans?

Think i really need someone to say, no buy it for yourself...but doubt you will. Talk me into/ out of it please. So undecided!

I'm with you on this Warren.

Who is the OP? What was her old name? She sounds familiar to me.

All those odd qyuids will add up...

3 bras is pleenty, wear once and wash. No need to wear 3 times and then wash. Not nice.

Get your identifying posts deleted.

Make a proper plan.

Stop buyin tat. Buying yourself a Mother's Day gift mean nothing. It is meant to be a gift from your child not yourself.

Sounds like melon and stump.Rich Tea.

Melon and stump?!

Little one is a bit too young to buy for me (only 21 months). I havent spent any more money, sigh of relief. I have been out this morning, but only to pick up my prescription and to the park. Which cost nothing other than time. Food shopping is waiting until tomorrow as i have enough for today and tomorrow.

Housing wise I have spoken to them, and they are just waiting on having something faxed to them and it will depend upon what the additional evidence states to the decision.....so waiting and they cant tell me when this is likely to be. Well at least something is getting done though. Just want to know though. And waiting to hear from a mediator. Solicitor said i should hear within the next few days realistically, but they will have to contact ex first. He has agreed to a contact centre, but is reluctant to do so as blah blah blah.

He thought he had control, instead he hasnt now. I can say what i feel comfortable with and tbh,i think he was expecting me to refuse mediation.

Gym membership isn't overly cheap, but my local council gym costs £15 a month if you are a local resident. OK, it's not nothing, but it is about £5 cheaper than the cost of a months supply of antidepressants, and has the added benefit of helping the person create healthy habits for life with support from trainers, feedback from the machines and so on. And I bet the NHS gets charged less than the general public for gym memberships.

In an ideal world, everyone would have the motivation and confidence to go jogging, but some people need the extra push that two months gym membership could give them. It's not a big deal.

Maras, thank you, but I am still lost

Anymore clues?

Is melon and stump cock-er-nee rhyming slang?

[code] The saucepan lands at midnight [/code]

ah ha! Is it or isn't it.............one can never tell

I thought it was them too, but I thought they were pregnant on another thread which has now been deleted. Im having doubts if Im right about the pregnancy though to be truthfull.

Stop all talking in secrets!

Have read nearly the whole thread and wont have a go at you. If someone else is paying for the meal, then you'd be silly to decline. Where i live i know the nhs prescribes gym memberships to combat pnd and dont really understand why this sends peoples knickers in a twist. Bet they dont tell people on anti depressants to pull themselves together as the meds cost too much! As for buying yourself a pound gift for mothers day, its only a fecking pound. I treat myself to something lovely every year for mothers day!

I'll disagree with everyone and say if you really want the top then buy it, but only if you think you will get the use out of it and its not something you'll wear once and never wear again. £35 in the grand scheme of things isn't a huge amount, and I remember when i was a single parent and not working, i occasionally treated myself to splurge buys. If you are not working then you will be getting IS/Tax credits or whatever benefit it is now and while it is great that you are saving up so that you can eventually get your own home, as long as its a one off then I dont think a £35 top is that big a deal.

If you must buy a top, get a cheap one that will go with your jeans and dress it up with your jewellery. If you decide you must buy some new trousers, go for black ones as they are far more practical than white ones. I think that sometimes you do need to treat yourself, no matter how skint, but I would set a budget for trousers and top at a maximum of £10-12.

I have just read the whole thread and I'm now thinking wtf have I even read?!

Can totally understand why you want to spend the money. When I've been saving up and not spending and denying myself I feel like I just want to chuck money away on something.

£35 is a lot though. You'll find something you like in a charity shop/Primark, I'm sure. It's shit but when you're skint, you're skint.

Also, when you spend the money, you'll be really happy with it for a few days and then it'll become just another thing to wear. That always happens.

OP - please, for the love of god, try to stop posting such identifiable things. I'm not having a go, honestly - this is written out of concern for your welfare - but from reading your posts under this and your old NN over time we know your name, your child's name, possibly your ex's name (can't remember, not going to go looking), whereabouts you are in the country now, where you lived previously, where you want to live next, your housing officer's name - even your bloody bra size now!

Please, rein it in a bit and-don't-spend-money-you-don't-have-on-expensive-tops

will the council help you? if you live with your mum then you arent homeless? if you are homeless then why didnt they put you in a shelter? my ex kicked me and my ds out on new years day years ago, we had what we were wearing and the council put us in a shelter, i moved into a house on the 19th january with nothing, i got the house furnished, inc towels,pans,plates,cutlery,bedding for £40 from a used furniture store and a local charity and clothed us from charity shops.. if you arent working then you will be on benefits? ave you tried for a community care grant/social fund loan? i wasnt entitled because i had only gone onto benefits when we werre made homeless and you have to be on for a certain amount of time but i did get a crisis loan that the hostel guy arranged for me so i could feed my child.

i own 2 bras that fit btw...

Great post biddysmama.

Buy soap, not shower gel.

Cheaper and lasts much longer.

However from what I have read you will probably go out and get some, then decide that the soap needs a little plastic container to keep it in, and then see a little drawstring bag to keep the soap box in, then it needs a dish to sit next to the shower in...