to show I am asexual by wearing a black ring?

[asiatic]

Lots of asexuals wear a black ring on their right middle finger. I'm thinking of getting one. What do you thinK? Have you ever seen anyone wearing one? How would you respond to a policeman, or bus driver or teacher advertising that they are asexual? I'm thinking it might be a helpful message to avoid misunderstandings, or is it something you don't really want to know about a stranger? Would it influence your perception of other aspects of them?

Oh, is that where I'm going wrong, Chickens? Good to know.

I thought asexual was like worms. Clearly not. But I wouldn't think much of a black ring on a middle finger. Nobody knows these codes, and nobody's taken them seriously since arguments across a million primary school playgrounds deciding whether an ankle bracelet meant you were a prozzie and a stud in a boy's left ear meant he was gay. Tis all nonsense - it's just jewellery.

Having said that, I do keep an eye out for the lizard. Was that dogging?

I'm dying to know what the misunderstandings you're trying to avoid are?

Sorry, Sue. It's probably time to stop wearing the crocs and socks combo, too

I have a lovely black dress ring I like to wear and its nicest looking on a middle finger.I didn't realise I was sending out any messages but I'll still wear it.

I think the sort of misunderstanding I've had problems with is not so much someone making advances to me, " no thanks, I'm asexual" works fine, but it is a problem when other people think I fancy them, it can ruin a friendship, and " no really, I AM asexual, HONEST" is often taken with some sceptisism. The worst is long standing female friends, who start to wonder if, because I have never indicated an interest in men, there is a likelihood I may be interested in them. This is hard, if they start to back off, but even harder if the start to signal that they may be open to a bit of experimentation! I just wonder if wearing the black ring means everything is up front and straight forward from the start.

My salutations, I really couldn't care less I have so many other things to worry about

Lizards mean dogging? Where do you wear the lizard?

That lizard brooch. You know.

fuck, did I dream it?

Didn't Stephen Fry famously announce himself as asexual?

I wouldn't have known what the ring meant before this post, but I'd suspect that the only attention you'd receive by being 'overtly' asexual is that you may be viewed as a 'challenge', which would somewhat defeat the purpose.

OP, you'd have to give out leaflets for anyone to know the significance of the ring. Which seems like a lot of effort to go to. Unless we're just old gimmers and the yoof 'get it'.

I have a ring on the third finger of my left hand to repeal unwanted advances, it doesn't work, I'm irresistible

A lizard brooch? Do you have to join the dogging club to get one? Like a pervy Blue Peter badge?

Or you could put up a big thingy on Facebook

"None of you are getting any, ever. Don't ask as rejection often offends"

Can't see any harm in it. Go ahead and wear one if you like but I think it might take a little while before it becomes a recognisable statement to the general population. In other words, don't assume that most other people will understand what it means, will you?

If "no really, I AM asexual, HONEST" is often taken with some sceptisism" - why would wearing a ring make it seem like gospel truth?

I wouldn't have a clue and probably would pay no attention to it.

If people are going to sceptical about you telling them that you are asexual, why exactly do you think they will understand the significance of a black ring?

If i am honest it all sounds a bit "i have decided i am different and want the world to now it" Sorry.

OP I think you can see from the responses on this thread that so little is known about asexuality a ring wouldn't help because only other asexuals would know what it meant.
Now I know what it means I wouldn't think less of anyone who wore them but at the same time it shouldn't be necessary to advertise your sexual preferences. I think until asexuality is better known and understood by the majority people are unfortunately going to treat you with sceptism which is very sad and I hope will one day change.

More importantly, what is the ring made of?

No one will have the faintest idea why you are wearing a black ring on your middle finger.

It only makes sense to me as a signal to other asexuals who might also know the code so you could chat or whatever.

For fending off the advances of female friends, I still think the "no I am not a lesbian" or "no I am not interested" line should be fine.

I also agree with leeloo that if someone is convinced by you saying you are asexual, a ring isn't going to be particularly more convincing.

If you want to wear one, by all means do but I am not sure if it will have the effect you are hoping for based on your posts.

What about "no thanks, I am not interested".... is that not sufficient. ???

The ring thing smacks to me of attention seeking and rather ridiculous.

"if someone is not convinced by..."

leeloo1 because it is there BEFORE the misunderstanding, and shows I am NOT trying to pull!
Plants aren't generally asexual - who said that? They have sex! Asexual in humans just means doesn't feel sexual desire

Plants have sex?!