to show I am asexual by wearing a black ring?

[asiatic]

Lots of asexuals wear a black ring on their right middle finger. I'm thinking of getting one. What do you thinK? Have you ever seen anyone wearing one? How would you respond to a policeman, or bus driver or teacher advertising that they are asexual? I'm thinking it might be a helpful message to avoid misunderstandings, or is it something you don't really want to know about a stranger? Would it influence your perception of other aspects of them?

Do you have any links to support your thesis, droves? My understanding from my reading round the subject is that most asexual people have perfectly normal hormone levels.

When being gay was seen as an illness with a presumed physical cause, the scientist Alan Turing was given hormone treatment in an attempt to 'cure' his homosexuality. It made him profoundly depressed and he killed himself.

droves a drop in libido, or non existent libido doesn't require medical attention unless the person wants it.
It's not a problem unless the person perceives it as a problem.

why do people think droves is attacking the OP? All she has done is express a concern that the OP may possibly have an underlying health condition that she is unaware of! The OP may NOT have such an underlying health condition at all - but the possibility exists and droves was bringing it to her attention in case she felt like it might be worth checking out.

No suggestion of lying or any of the other over-reactive ideas.

I've never called anyone a liar on this thread. Stop making assumptions .
I have never said anyone is making up their sexual preference. They are what they are .
Arousal and desire - my own experience is one usually with the other , are you telling me I'm wrong ?

My current drop in libido , is caused by looking after 6 demanding children , two of which have special needs ,( asd, and ADHD) ,and one is currently in the pattern of not sleeping . Remember how it felt to have a new born ...now imagine that going on for 7 years and see how you feel about sex. That's a good explanation . No medical intervention needed ... However if I felt ok , slept ok and did not have 6 kids too look after then if I felt the same I would go get checked.

I think your just looking for an argument cloth ,

Mooncupgoddess , sorry I can't do liks they always go horribly wrong , but if you google it's easy enough to find reasons for low sexual intrest / low hormones .

I fail to see why the idea of keeping a check on your health for your own sake , is a bad idea . I mean most get smear tests, cholesterol test , blood pressure tests diabetes tests ect at some point in their lives , what's the difference ?

droves do you send people who have always had high libido / not much compunction who they have sex with off to the doctor too?

A drop in libido is not the same as never having had one.

I hate the idea that if people aren't gagging for it 24/7 there must be something wrong with them.

Oh please . I'm not even going to answer that.

Sardine read my post timed 11:19 .

Yes. And?

Idea that OP must have something wrong with her is offensive.

It's what they used to say to gay people. Can't you see that? Just because you can't understand not being attracted to anyone doesn't mean that people who feel that way are ill.

Certainly seems awareness of asexuality does need to be raised, it is hard in our hyper-sexualised times though.

droves here is a recent bbc piece about asexuality

Will look at link , thanks for posting .

The link has interesting comments at the bottom

" the idea the op must have something wrong is offensive "

Yes it is , but the possibility however small that there may be an explainable underlying cause is not.

OP - Asexual? Are you an aphid or something?

Never heard of these black rings. Interesting concept though. Why do you need to advertise it? Wouldn't a cats bum face do?

The Aven website, for asexuals, linked to earlier by someone itself mentions medical problems as being a possible cause of long standing or temporary loss of libido. So I do think it's a bit rich to be attacking droves

long standing or temporary loss of libido is not the same as never having any

honestly I don't understand why people are having such a problem with this

Just because someone is different, does not mean that they are ill. The idea that OP might have had childhood strokes - and not know about it - on the basis that she doesn't and has never had sexual feelings is out of line.

The suggestion that she might be an aphid is also really bloody rude.

Live and let live has just gone way out of the window on this thread.

Funny to see people having such reactionary knee-jerk responses to something which is totally unthreatening but simply outside the range of their experience, and at the same time getting in a lather at SGBs heteronormative mundanes comment.

'The suggestion that she might be an aphid is also really bloody rude.'

Did you manage to keep a straight face whilst you typed that

It is really rude. Your whole post was really rude.

Arf. It was tongue in cheek, you know. It amused me but then I'm pretty easily amused. Are you always this serious? Oh wait......

Tongue in cheek? Erm no it was just rude.
Taking the piss out of someone's sexuality is rude.

I'll start flashing my wedding ring to show that I am heterosexual!

But she hasn't GOT a sexuality, therefore I can't take the piss out of it.