Violent little cow at school. How do I deal with this without making it worse for DS

[Annoyed79]

So this horrible little bitch (sorry, but yeah - she is) has been routinely hitting my son since he started secondary school. Not to mention continuously humiliating him, turning people against him, breaking his belongings etc. Yesterday an argument erupted at school which she took to facebook calling him a "dyspraxic riddled cunt", buck toothed bastard, ugly retard etc etc telling him he'll never have friends, never get a job, never get a girlfriend - the list went on. All this very public on his facebook wall. Along with this she issued a number of violent threats. Now - today she came up behind him and punched him hard in the head. I am absolutely fucking livid. What's worse is the school is shut, teacher training day tomorrow and then a weeks half term holiday.

I cannot just let this go. How do I deal with it without making it worse for DS? She has the majority of the school on her side and I know that if I get the police involved it will flare up for him even more.

What do I do??

Just to say I am glad things are being taken seriuosly, hope it all gets sorted properly for your DS.

Good. I hope your DS is OK. Keep fighting his corner.

well done! make sure it continues with the police and school extended suspension. she must pay the price of her actions or will try it on some other inoccent person.

Good for you, I'm glad your ds has someone strong to fight his corner.

I think in the long run you are doing this girl a favour.

How many PIL/ sibling / parent etc threads do we got on here about the bullying behaviour of these adults and people say that they behave this way because they're allowed to.

Well this young girl has just learnt you can't treat people appallingly and get away with it. She probably is sorry, but mainly because she's been caught. Hopefully she'll think twice about bullying in the future as she knows there are severe consequences. She does need to learn though that sometmes 'sorry' just isn't enough.

I hope it gets resolved to your and your DS' satisfaction.

I really hope your DS is ok..... I was so shocked to read about what he has had to deal with. Hope you have some nice plans for half term and the school are able to do something about this.

Great update. So glad your son is getting help. What a softie he is though Agree this may have helped her realise? Certainly hope so?

Well done for sticking up for him.

How awful. Contact the school and tell them what's going on, take in the pages printed out from facebook. Tell them that it's a safeguarding issue (should make them sit up and take notice) and that you expect them to take some action. Ask to see the schools anti-bullying policy which should list what steps the school will take in this type of incident, insist that they follow them. I would wait to see what the school have to say before involving the police. If the school does nothing take it to the local authority and as a last resort to the police.

Mackemmam she just updated ^^^. Are you in Sunderland by any chance? I'm not far from there.

Well done OP.

one thing concerns me though, how did she get her apologetic message to him ?

He MUST delete her from his phone & block her from all his FB contacts.

Any approach by her to him could be seen as her being remorseful & "trying to make it up" she will not be in the slightest but is saying what she thinks the adults want to hear IMHO

Well done. Above all else, your DS will remember you were prepared to do whatever it took to STOP this nightmare he was having to endure.

I would be tempted keep the facebook channel open for her to him (as long as he doesn't contact her at all). If it's all crocodile tears she might use it again in the future and it is easier to gather evidence this way than if it is all verbal. However, police might instruct him to block her anyway.

Am irritated that she is 'so sorry' and suddenly wondering if he is ok after that barrage of abuse and assault.

Well done.

Great update and I am glad you told him not to communicate with her at all. Keep on at the school and INSIST on a long suspension for now at least?

Please get her deleted from his FB!

She will have been given strict instructions not to contact him and she has.
There is no way he can respond to her now the police are involved - you must enforce this op!

Given that she has hit your son in the head, I think the police should be involved. They will be used to dealing with things like this.

There now needs to be an investigation but from what you've said the school seem to be across this properly.

Best of luck in getting it all sorted out.

Well done, OP. Let us know how you get on when the police get back to you.

Any update, OP?