Violent little cow at school. How do I deal with this without making it worse for DS

[Annoyed79]

So this horrible little bitch (sorry, but yeah - she is) has been routinely hitting my son since he started secondary school. Not to mention continuously humiliating him, turning people against him, breaking his belongings etc. Yesterday an argument erupted at school which she took to facebook calling him a "dyspraxic riddled cunt", buck toothed bastard, ugly retard etc etc telling him he'll never have friends, never get a job, never get a girlfriend - the list went on. All this very public on his facebook wall. Along with this she issued a number of violent threats. Now - today she came up behind him and punched him hard in the head. I am absolutely fucking livid. What's worse is the school is shut, teacher training day tomorrow and then a weeks half term holiday.

I cannot just let this go. How do I deal with it without making it worse for DS? She has the majority of the school on her side and I know that if I get the police involved it will flare up for him even more.

What do I do??

My ds was the subject of bullying, racially motivated.

I involved the school and the police. The police were good. They will visit the child and her parents if you print out the pages.

The school tried a few things but it didn't stop altogether.

I did move my son though because it wasn't going to stop until one of them left and my sons welfare was more important than watching another kid get expelled.

Funnily enough it only took a month after I moved him for this other kid to be expelled.

Agree - police. Hope your ds is ok and that he has support from friends as well as you (and that you do too)

for your DS. I have a 12yo DS just gone into secondary.

Definately agree with all the posters here OP.
Print it off from FB as evidence.
Police- definately
School- go there tomorrow.If it's teacher training they will be there. Maybe phone and insist you see the Head. It's a physical assault, on top of the verbal, on-line/cyber and bullying.

Her problems are not your problem

Then you've got next week to sort things out.

Does your DS want to stay at the school, or would he be in agreement to change?
I know it should be her that's excluded, but if you are worried about her influence on everyone else, maybe you want him out of the firing line.

Police.

Are you able to take the screenshots of Facebook, OP? They are really, really important as proof. You must go and take them now, and keep a couple of copies of each. They are vital evidence.

I would talk to the head and tell her you will be going to the police unless things change drastically. Take a screen shot of FB page and be prepared to do just that, but since this started in school, give them a chance to sort it out first.

The one good thing about Facebook bullying is that it is proof. It's an absolute gift in that way. Especially the threats. The police will take them very seriously, and rightly so.

How awful for your son - and you. How is he?

Second all the advice - POLICE.

The things she has written are absolutely vile and very threatening. She has asssaulted him on school property as well so police and school need to be involved.

Then block her account from your DS. I can't understand why he still has her as a FB friend if this has been going on for a while.

Print out FB before she can delete it
Then call the police - someone needs to get through to this little madam!

And pull your DS out of that school!

Inform the school that you are keeping him away from school on the grounds that they are unable to keep your child safe while in school. Then call the police and say you want the girl charged with assault.

Go immediately now to the Police with the evidence. Insist they Charge her with threatening behaviour and incitement to violence. And also Charge her with assault. Involve the school next week.

Poor you.

Make his facebook page only visible to friends, quite surprised you haven't done so already! Then she can't post any more vile abuse on his page.

So sorry this is happening to your poor DS. So awful.

I think you just need to do your utmost to get this situation to stop, whatever it takes and dont worry about what the police will say or what the school will think. The police and then if that doesnt work get him out of the school. It is assault.

I dont have any adult experience, but was horribly bullied as a child for years (picked on for being clever at my school) and nothing was ever done. I can honestly say it destroyed all my confidence until my 30's.

But she will just post horrible things on her own wall, youarekidding. Surely better to know what she's saying? Anyway the police will put a stop to it.

Does anyone know what Facebook do if such posts are reported to them? Is the Facebook user banned? Surely they should be?

Go to the Police and report her to Facebook. You can call the school even if it's an inset day, the teachers are likely to be there.

No doubt about it, you have to print off the pages and go to the police.

And then look for a different school for your son. Because any school that lets a pupil punch another pupil in the head and take the stance of "well yes she does have a few problems" is not the kind of school you want your child in.

Good luck and all the best to your ds.

Again, experience, nothing changes until the police are involved. Please contact them.

As others have said, screenshots of fb and then ring the police.
I would also consider moving him, if the school won't deal with her then remove him from the situation.

Yep go to police, take the evidence, how can things get worse for your son by doing this.

Proudandscary, she is a little bitch of a bully and needs a lesson.

Your poor poor boy, I feel so angry on his behalf, so u must b fukin livid.

flash I see what your saying. I guess it's the lesser of 2 evils. Read it and be upset, or know it's happening now, get the proof but not have to read it anymore and wonder.

I have absolutely no idea which would be better.

Will the police advice the OP to contact the school or would they do that?

OP have you contacted the school before about this (just going by the "she's got a few problems" comment. It sounds like you've had words with them before)

Agree with everyone here re contacting Head and possibly involving the police. I do hope you have printed the page out. Our Head often picks up emails out of hours. Also she will be at school tomorrow [or deputy] so phone/ turn up at school first thing. You don't want this hanging over you all half term. Your poor son. Good luck. She needs a nasty shock/ to learn there will be consequences to her vile bullying.

op - I agree with all the other advise; take a screen shot and involve the police.

I would like to ask though if the school is actually aware that this has been happening and if they know about today's incident? I am asking as a large proportion of the posters are vilifying the school but you have not said that they know/you have past experience of them brushing it under the carpet. As a secondary teacher I would say that we are not mind readers and in the schools I have worked in as soon as we know about anything we act upon it (as far as the DfE allow us to).

Call the police tonight and speak to the school tomorrow morning. All staff will be in if it inset (unless it is a flexi-inset).