AIBU to be annoyed with my SIL?

[RoxanneY]

I will be honest and say my SIL are not on great terms since I got married...think typical MILs getting jealous their son has been taken away from them and she's the same but with her brother...my DH. We agreed back in April that we would wipe the slate clean and start again for my DH's sake, and we would both think before speaking to avoid 'acidentally' upsetting one another.

Classic comment from her to me ''these jeans are massive, they'll fit you'' - I am a size 10/12 hardly 'massive', and even if I was, not the way to speak to someone!

Another classic from her was at a family meal and DH announced I was pregnant and she promptly announced over the table 'Dad...Dad...Guess what I'm pregnant too!' - of course she.was not pregnant, just attention seeking. She is 26 by the way....

Anyway I just found out that she asked DH to take my 7 week old.DS to her flat without me so I could have some time to myself and she can learn to look after DS whilst DH watches football with her boyfriend. AIBU to feel annoyed 1. She has gone behind my back and asked DH not me (I am the mum, therefore I feel it is my place to decide childcare arrangements if required and I also feel she wants me out of her way so she can show off) 2. I am not ready to leave my DS yet, especially when he has his first cold which DH told her about before she made the invitation.

No, no issues duckdodgers. I think perhaps guilt was the wrong word to use. Forgive me but DS is teething at the moment and lack of sleep is affecting my ability to communicate. I work part time and leave DS with a childminder quite happily. I have regular nights out and leave DS with other people quite happily. But yes I miss him and after a certain length of time I long to be back with him. I would not leave him with anyone I had any doubts or niggles about though.

DH is perfectly able to care for DS as well as I. I didn't mean to question the capabilities of looking after or parenting a child. I meant more the emotional bond that is programmed into a woman from the time she learns there is a new life inside her. Thats probably the wrong choice of words too but I'm not sure how to explain it better.

OP YANBU. I too would find your SILs behaviour a little strange. Perhaps one day she'll have children of her own and you'll have more in common than DH. Perhaps not. Unfortunately just because someone is family doesn't guarantee you'll get on.