To be upset with dd1 teacher.

[lisad123]

I know this is likely to kick off because it's about religion, but hopefully it won't.

We a family we don't celebrate Xmas or birthdays ect. Both dds have been brought up this way and it's never been an issue to anyone (beside PIL but that's another thread)!

Dd1 is 9 and at Xmas her teacher kept making comments about Xmas being the most wonderful time ever, if you don't celebrate your missing out on something special and wonderful and no child should miss xmas. I let it wash as we were taking girls away over Xmas so dd1 wasn't fussed.

Yesterday, someone in her class was giving out birthday sweets. Dd1 refused as she knows we don't join in celebrating bdays. It's never been an issue, we have plently of sweets. Her teacher made a comment and told her it was ok, she should have one and I would never know! dd1 still refused and told me what teacher had said.
When she came out today she told me her teacher had put sweets in her tray, and told her they weren't bday sweets so she could eat them.
Now Friday is the only day we have sweets because she is a sugar addict and gets ratty and obsessive if we allow too many sweets.

So I spoke to the teacher and he said he felt sorry for her and didn't think it was fair. I explained that I understand that but this is our choice and he told me in future he would try not to say anything but he did feel sorry for her
She wants for nothing and I'm very proud of her for standing up so well to her beliefs.

I'm wondering if she was a religion that didn't eat meat if he would have such a problem.

So am I unreasonable to be upset with him?

lorcana did you mean for your posts to sound so judgmental and rude?

Whoops, had a very quiet JW child in my class last year (age 11 girls) and on her birhtday, not only did the class sing Happy Birthday to her but we all played it on tin whistle too. O dear, the poor child was probably afraid to tell me she doesn't celebrate her birthday.

She used to homework pass I gave her though

THE homework pass

Not rude but direct - what OP is doing is awful and there are alternatives ....

What is a homework pass?

It's a night off written homework.

Thanks :)

*like every religion some take things to far, but then same can be said of most beliefs.

Really OP? You mean like taking your DD out of school for a week before Christmas just incase she has to join in with making cards etc? Not allowing her to take a sweet for somebodies birthday? That sounds like taking things too far to me

Your religion does not dictate that your DD is not allowed to accept a sweet from somebody if it is their birthday. This is just something you have decided to do and now instill into your poor DD. You sound as though you have very little understanding of your own faith and are making it up as you go along. You sound like a classic brainwashed JW to me.