Not to let my sons 14 yr old gf sleep around even thou her mum is ok with it.

[littlejo67]

My son is 16 at the end of this month. His gf is 14. We are away next week for a night and he wants his gf to come around for a meal and sleep over. Apparently her mum is ok with this but I have yet to check this. Though even if her mum was ok I don't feel right about this. I found out that she has slept in the same bed as my son when I have been away before. So now I have to go away and realise that he may ignore my " no" and do it anyway. In a few weeks he will be 16 and then it will get worse, he could get in trouble with the police. They are way to young in my opinion.

Any one gone thru this before? Opinions appreciated.

So SardineQueen you have never read any of those posts from adult women who find it a bit creepy when their DH is away?
I know my Ds probably wouldn't be bothered, but would probably be up all night playing computer games and chatting on Skype. My Dd would hate it, and doesn't like being on her own for more than about 1 hour, she is better if wi her brother, but wouldn't want me 10 hours away.
Most people don't live by ourselves when we leave home (at 18), but in shared accommodation. I didn't like living in a bed sit at 22.

Never mind as I frequently remind my kids that lots of their friends were conceived whilst their parents used a wide range of contraceptives. So it's not just about safe sex, but realising there can be consequences however "safe" you are.

My children are perfectly capable of being left alone overnight at 15-16. Whether or not they would want to be left alone is another matter. I would not feel comfortable doing it, even though objectively I know that they would be perfectly safe and able to look after themselves.

I just feel that a 15-16 yo is not an adult. They do not make decisions in the same way an adult does because they do not have the same amount of knowledge of life that an adult does. Which extends to things like having sex. You might know objectively at 16 that sex can lead to pregnancy, even more so in teenage, but you won't think it's going to happen to you because when you are 15-16 you are so self-absorbed that you feel special and blessed.

Um mummytime, it is a very strange leap indeed to imagine that the OPs son asking if he can have his girlfriend over while his mum is away, is code for saying please mummy don't go and leave me by myself.

Far more likely that he is perfectly happy to stay on his own and asked his mum if his girlfriend could come and stay because, um, he wants his girlfriend to come and stay.

I find it pretty pathetic TBH the argument that some adults are too scared to be in a house by themselves. That is not something to aspire to FFS. No wonder people stay in really shit relationships which they would be better off out of. What's happened to independence? This thread gets more and more baffling.

I think leaving a 16 year old overnight isn't so much a safety issue as a trustworthiness issue. I would not leave a 15 or 16 year old alone in my house overnight if I thought he would sleep with his 14 year old girlfriend or have a party