AIBU to think the SAHM MNers rattling off lists of daily feats

[PickingAfight]

they are heroically accomplishing while being SAHMs (cooking, washing, ironing, etc) are being at best naive and at worst disingenuous. Who do they think does all that stuff in the non-SAHMs' households, house elves?

God, I'm desperate for a house elf.

OP YABU for deliberately picking a fight and for choosing a profoundly boring thing to pick it over.

Who gives a shit what happened to live and let live?

The only thing I'm heroically accomplishing is traipsing up to school and back several times a day, and then collapsing with my laptop to recover in between. I'm only getting away with it because a) I'm seven months pregnant and everyone feels sorry for me and b) because our gas / electricity bills suddenly went up by 50%, so I successfully argued that we need to stop doing the washing / dishwashing / ironing so often. What a shame!

Thank you StealthPolarBear. I am also shite at growing vegetables and have no sense of rhythm

Kangarobber - I just don't think people should be lying to themselves . If they do, 10, 20 years from now they might look back at their lives and regret their choices bitterly.

It takes at least an hour to clean a flatscreen tv

I am completely and utterly unable to believe that anyone gives a shit

I think it's sad that people feel they have to justify themselves. It's no bugger else's business HOW you fill your day.

Wot Hully says. Does anyone really give a shiny shit about my level of houseworkiness or otherwise? Really?

I'm a SAHM and don't do 1/2 the things they do.

I'm not a sahm as work a couple of nights a week. I've done my hours now till sunday though so am a sahm for the rest of the week.

Today my feats have included

Laying in bed watching tv till 10 am while eating toast and drinking tea.
Playing on skyrim for an hour
Picked ds up from nursery (dh took him)
Made a sandwich

Later I'm going to put some laundry away and make a chilli, pick dd up from school and take her to rainbows.

Not sure what my point is really?

Am I a shit sahm for not getting up that the crack of dawn to scrub my skirting boards?

Labootin - that's the only way to make a SAHM's life bearable

If they do, 10, 20 years from now they might look back at their lives and regret their choices bitterly.

quite.

regrets, i've had a few...

I stretch housework and errands to fill the whole day; my house is huge...there's an awful lot to do. In between I go to the gym, walk the dogs, garden, bake, read, study, volunteer and sometimes get my haircut. In the evening we RELAX.

HTH OP. Have a great day!

PickingAFight, how can anyone regret sitting on their bottoms, drinking tea and playing with their laptops when they had the opportunity? Are you a bit unhinged or something?

Wait - you've moved the goalposts. I thought we were slagging off SAHM's who do the housework and write lists.

Are we meant to be slagging off SAHM for making bad choices? Bad choices such as doing the housework and writing lists on MN?

Cos, not being funny, but I can't imagine people will look back in 20 years and say "I RUE THE BLOODY DAY I WROTE A LIST ON MN! WHYYYYYYYYY?????"

I cannot sew or make stew. I have other inadequacies, but those two spring to mind. (house still smells of burning from when I made stew in January)

Shirley, do sahms age? Well that's stupid and neglectful of them. Us wohms discover the secret to eternal youth in the first few years, then never have to worry about having regrets when were old.

i'm a sahm and i don't even cook!!!

I wonder how long it takes to clean the goalposts too

is it on the list?

I think SAHM's become old withered crones who hanker after their children and become those sort of MIL's who are all up in their DIL's business.

And WOHM become bitter old hags whose children won't bother to tell them when they're getting married because they clearly couldn't give a fuck about their kids yeah?

If I was a SAHM, getting up would be a real achievement let alone anything else because I am a lazy bastard.

I am a WOHM (I think, I'm not sure what all the letters stand for but I've worked out what SAHM is) and in my opinion going to work is far easier than being at home with a toddler all day.

I've recently gone down to 4 days and my God, the shock of spending the day trying to stop DS from electrocuting himself/climbing on the shelves/eating the cat food/drawing on the walls/try to coerce the cat into eating playdough/getting him a take a nap/cook his food whilst he wants to see what's in the pans and not get too close/eat his lunch/tidy up boxes of jigsaws/toys thrown all over the floor only for the same thing to happen 10 minutes later/try to get some shopping done with him kicking off about wanting to run around the store helping himself to whatever he fancies then running off in a completely different direction/getting home in one piece with the stuff I've actually remembered to get - well I find it much easier sat in front of a computer, crunching a few numbers, getting to go on mumsnet at lunchtime undisturbed then getting home, the house in the same state we left it to make tea and get ds to bed.

I take my hat off to SAHMs, especially of toddlers. Don't get me wrong I love ds to bits and I'd love to be in a position to not work as much but I don't for one second think it's the 'easy' option.

Yeah the washing & ironing and cleaning doesn't take that much time, it's the full-time childcare that does it!