Wwyd? End the friendship or not?

[Mrswhiskerson]

Last year we had a house party for dhs bday , two of our friends (more dhs than mine) got drunk and had a one night stand in our baby's bbedroom (he was out) dh is still fuming about it and he feels it has tainted ds bedroom.
I am furious about it too but feel apart from not speaking to them again it has happened and what can we do? Dh is stewing on it and with his depression things really getto him and it puts him in a foul mood which we get the brunt of,
what would you do? I just wish he would forget about it since there is nothing we can really do about it .

Really?
Well I must be a freak then because I find this really gross.

Yes of course unless it's new anything could have happened, but the thought of two strangers having intercourse on my child's bed fills me with disgust.

Not to mention the fact that you simply don't shag each other in someone else's house, I mean they were not teenagers presumably. It's a family home not a bloody nightclub! To get off with each other in a baby's bedroom whilst a guest at a friend's house is not on I don't think.

I'm amazed that others find this ok.

i want to know how op found out

Why are you so disgusted by sex Rhubarb?

Are you a Victorian therhubarb? You sound like you need to unclench a little

What I find difficult to understand is how sex suddenly becomes so disgraceful because it has taken place in a child's bedroom. How did these children come into being in the first place, I wonder? Immaculate conception?

I cannot even begin to imagine having sex in my childrens rooms. We have our own room for that and I'd find it an invasion of their privacy. Would you let your son or daughter have a one night stand in your bedroom?

I just think it was very disrespectful of them and I wouldn't remain friends with them. I wouldn't dream of even having sex whilst staying in someone else's house for the night so to do it in the baby's bedroom of your hosts, that's just not on and it would be a huge line crossed for me personally. Obviously other people have different standards but if you are offended OP and so is your dh, then you have every right to feel that way and I hope they have apologised.

Tell you DH to grow up and get a grip

if its a family home and thats all perhaps they should refrain from having house parties. i assume they are not complete strangers as the op says they are friends. if i had a party and friends vanished and then came back i would not worry they had sex. change sheets perhaps its just sex its not like any one was murdered.

Oh rhubarb your posts are making me laugh a lot today - thank you

Why is sex 'disrespectful?'

I wonder why, if someone has different standards, different ethics, different morals they are suddenly frigid, Victorian and open to sneering remarks?

I don't think I should have to justify how I feel about something. It's just how I feel and I agree with the OP's dh. That's not an invitation to start analysing my sex life/childhood/religion/sexual orientation etc.

These threads just show how we are all so different. I would be massively pissed off and would ditch them. I've distanced myself from people for much less but for me friends come and go so it's not a big deal.

My children have sex in my house. Admittedly, I don't sell tickets for the performance (I'm usually away on holiday) and they are grown up but providing it doesn't give the dog nightmares or leave unpleasant stains then I really don't mind.

DizzyDinosaur, I'll happily join you and I'm so glad that our different povs are making others laugh with derision. I think I'm much happier being me and accepting of other people than being them and placing myself on a higher pedestal.

I'm not sneering btw - I am chuckling fondly at your Victorian attitude you

no i would not be overly pleased but would not lose a friendship over it i would just ask them to do it somewhere else in future

something else is going on i think your dh needs to address, he probably not even sure himself what he is really bothered about

actually valium it makes me quite angry to think that my feelings can be interpreted by you as being Victorian and good for a laugh. They are MY feelings after all and I think I am entitled to them.

I don't appreciate it being implied that I am frigid, stuffy, a freak or in any other way less of a human being than you just because my feelings on something are different to yours. I am very annoyed that you feel justified in having a personal pop at me over my supportive comment towards the OP.

I just dont get at all what the problem is. I am so stumped I feel as if I've missed something...

On the other hand I am with Rhubarb.. Turning up to a child's party drunk is unacceptable. I wouldn't end a friendship ove it though. We all make mistakes.

Oh good grief rhubarb seriously, stop now. I was -half-- joking not having a 'personal pop,' get over yourself.