to find it extraordinary how many women shag multiple men within the space of a couple of weeks?

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I've been dong some intensive reseacrh via Jeremy Kyle and find it amazing how many people shag different people one day to the next.

Is this normal behaviour?

I always assumed most people tend to only do one at a time, with at least a couple of weeks break in between and therefore know who would be the father of their progeny.

Am I hoplesly naiive and old fasioned?

Sex with people you barely know is ALWAYS shite.

So I'm informed.

I once watched an american show (maury povich maybe) where there was a young woman who had been on the show four times for DNA tests with twelve blokes and still had not found her baby's dad.

They were still clueless by the end of the show.

I remember watching that thinking !

I've only ever been with 2 people so I can't really say from experience but I hate the idea of being with lots of different people.

I know I'm old-fashioned, I know I'm probably in the minority but I can't help it, I don't like the idea of anyone, man or woman, having lots of one night stands and whatnot. I don't like it! Personally I feel that you should only have sex with someone where love and respect are involved and mutual (and not just for the one night ).

That's just me though, if other people want to do that it's their life and their choice.

I just wouldn't do it myself or want my sons to do it!

Personally I cannot see what is wrong with it, men do it all the time. THe majority of my friends ten years ago would be really peeved if they went out on a Fri, Sat night and didn't pull a one night stand, if you are single why not go out and just have fun, I've done it, 3 men in a week once. Was ten years ago though, not had a man now for 2 years!

'Sex with people you barely know is ALWAYS shite.'

Er...wrong. Oh wrongety wrongety wrong. I have had some absolutely terrific sex with people I hardly knew at all.

Now I am a respectable frigid middle-aged matron, obviously, but ooh it was fun, back in the day.

It isn't some sort of sacred ritual, you know.

I haven't seen a condom since I was 18. And Im 47 now.

of course sex can be great with someone you are in love with but lets be honest sometimes it is not, it may be very loving and close which is wonderful but it does not mean you are going to experience great sex with

best sex i have had is with someone i was not in love with and that freed me. he was very very experienced i knew he was seeing others did it bother me no as he was always up for it when i saw him :o

Some people think it is a sacred ritual, unfortunately. Usually the people who tie it up with love and emotions. Each to their own, but physical pleasure and emotional connections are not automatically linked in my mind.
I've had great sex (loads) with strangers, and crap sex (hardly ever) within relationships. The factors that make sex great or crap are nothing to do with love.

When I was younger and single (and sometimes not so single) I was often sleeping with two or three men in a friends-with-benefits capacity. It felt exciting and liberating at the time.

Now I'm married and there are children in the equation, I wouldn't dream of it but I'm glad I filled my boots while I could. Luckily no Jeremy-Kyle-esque situations arose from it!

I had sex with 60 blokes in about two years when I was single. I had lots of fun, didn't catch anything nasty or have an pregnancy scares. Once I slept with two blokes on the same evening.....but not together. Shock, horror!

Yes, given the vast amount of sex I have had in the past, including all the group sex, I can say that I have never had any kind of STI nor have I ever had to terminate an unwanted pregnancy.
Actually, I used to think, and still do to some extent, that part of the reason why some women have unplanned PGs and some don't is not so much the moral superiority of the latter group (in which I include careful use of contraception just as much as low number of sexual partners) as the fact that most of us have no idea at all how fertile we are unless and until we are TTC.
I did get unexpectedly PG in the end but that was because I had come to the conclusion that I was not very fertile and, on the night in question, that it wouldn't do any harm to have condom free sex 'just this once' as neither of us had such an item handy. It is the only time I ever had full-on unprotected PIV in my life.

I mean, while it does only take one bout of PIV to get PG, the question is, which one? Out of all the acts of PIV that take place in any woman's lifetime, protected, partially protected or actively TTC, only a very few of them will actually result in conception.

LOL Jeremy Kyle?

I am 43 and of the generation where a woman shagging lots of people is considered a slag.
Then they settle down get married and have kids - fine.Trouble is when someone from your past pops up and it gets back to their now-teenage children that they used to be the village bike.

I'm 48. And did my most prolific shagging in my 30s.

It is perhaps slightly awkward when DP finds himself in a meeting with one of my various past gentlemen callers, but as they are all highly respectable middle-class types they get past the indignity

I am 42 and wouldn't mix with anyone who thought that sex with lots of partners results in you being a "slag".

Men don't get called slags, however many partners they've had.

My idiot of a fucking brother (well documented idiot) decided to tell my husband what a slag I was after 16 years of marriage! Dh feigned very shocked behaviour, threw himself to the floor and declared that he was devastated because he thought he had married a virgin.

DP just assumes that I've shagged every bloke I ever mention. As if.

I am 49. I no longer live anywhere near my youthful indiscretions. Which were many.

I worked with 3000 men, DP is under no illusions

i don't think sex is necessarily special or sacred or only for monogamous people who love each other (though it can be), nor is virginity a precious gift to bestow on a worthy recipient

i want my children to be aware of how to protect their sexual health/prevent conception and to feel confident enough to do so

i hope they have sex because they want to, not because it is expected, or to prove something

i hope their lovers are considerate of them, and not arseholes. beyond that, who am i to get het up about it

so far, as they are v young, the extent of any of this has been to encourage them to set their own boundaries with their bodies- they never have to hug or kiss aunt eelia unless they want to, and no one is disappointed if they don't

i will no doubt be having some frank old chats in future though

it's not so much that the women have no idea who the father is, how many men they slept with, or the lack of contraception.

My question is - WHY doe so many men go on the show (I assume they get paid) and HOW do these women find the time?

Some of them already have dcs, yet they manage to have sex about once every 8 hours, with different men each time. Do they get no sleep?

Small round of applause for Al0uisee's husband who sounds like a top bloke

I blame the hormones. It makes sense really.