AIBU to take the full time nursery places?

[CoffeeDog]

Just had a letter that have said the twins have been offered full time nursery placements in September (they were 3 in dec and currentley go p/t 15hr a week) The Nursery id fab and is massivley over subscribed the DT only just got in despite being december babies.

A little smug mummy-ish but they are bright little lads they know number shapes colours animals and love learning new things - they dont care if its great grandpa telling them about steam engines or their big sister teaching them the names/attacks of pokemon. They are hard work as Everything is why mummy what is /what if... I dont get any family help with childcare.

My friends little girl also goes to nursey with the DT but is a little older and started back in september - she has not been offered a full time place. My friend has said she will be 'having a word' with the office as its not fair as she works and could do with her DD being at nursery 9-2 m-f (free as gov funded) and i should think about leaving the twins pt to make room for those who have to work.

When we go there today there will be at least 30 kids that didnt get the coverted ft placements and will remain pt- Some of the parents work - I don't (DH does) there will be a big hooha about what selection process etc were used and i expect more than 1 mum/dad to suguest i dont take the 2 ft places for the twins as i am 'at home all day'

AIBU to take the places

CoffeeDog, My son has been in nursery since September and he loves it. I am a SAHM and have never looked at it as childcare and I am sure the lovely nursery teachers I know would be quite offended if parents only thought of them as that. DS is there to socialize and learn.

Don't feel guilty at all, Children are chosen on a first come first serve basis after that it is sorted by which children are local. The parents who are sour faced about the whole thing really should have applied sooner. Tough luck to them!

As for the whole "Why would you not want to spend time with your children" argument DS is there from 9 until 1:30, He goes to bed at 7:30 I have plenty of quality time with him. I also find it sad that you all seem to think that all SAHPs do is sit on their ass when their children are not with them. I certainly don't.

Let your DSs go full time, They will love it. :)

preschool nursery which is government funded for whoever hadnt heard of them before is decided on circumstance i think the op has a valid reason her boys have been offered this place I wish people would stop going on about her sitting at home with her feet up , Im sure she wont be doing that at all .

true altinkum i was just trying to make a ranty point this is preschool not daycare as some seem to think it is , 1 of my children although an adult now had a few extra hours preschool and it was a godsend to me and she loved it ,

Take the places FFS. There will always be someone more 'deserving'. Other peoples' arrangements are nothing to do with you, and your choices are nothing to do with them. You think any of the other parents would give up a place where their kids will be happy for another random child?

Some posters are really missing the point here. Nursery is not just to babysit your children, it's for them to learn, socialise and build their confidence.

Since when did the children of those who work deserve this more than the children of those who don't?

YANBU, but I can see why the friend is pissed off, though it should be directed at the nursery, not you. And if not working, I have to say I would prefer the shorter hours as well.

I am currently a working mum and have no problem with CoffeeDog taking the nursery places so please don't assume that there is a divide between what ALL working mums think and all SAHM think.

No, altinkum what I said quite clearly was if I wasn't working I'd go for the shorter hours and I'd have them at home more. The fact her friend works is completely irrelevant.

altinkun sorry - posted before finishing. Her friend is entitled to be 'pissed off' because her child started at the nursery earlier, so should be higher in line for longer hours iuswim. This is all dependant upon only the details given here, nothing to do with the fact she works, that shouldn't give anyone priority.

iuswim? Aaaarh IYSWIM.

I repeat - if other children who haven't been there as long are offered more hours, I can see why she's pissed off, not she should be pissed off. NOt for the working reason, for the reason I stated.

just x posted with you too. Will stop now as we seem to x posting and keep missing each other.

If the situations were reversed, would OP's friend be happy to give up the place to somebody else? Somehow I doubt it. If she had been offered the full time place and it suited her to take it I'm sure she would have, whether or not she was working.

i hope the OP does sit at home with her feet up, why shouldn't she

"i should think about leaving the twins pt to make room for those who have to work."

No, you should definitely not be asked to do that. It's no-one else's business how you spend your time, and quite out of order to try to pressurise and bully you into giving up the place you're entitled to.

Early years education should be available equally to all children, not just those whose parents go to work.

I wouldnt be happy that taxes were being used (and fundraising which implies a charity) so that a SAHM could have full time nursery places for her children. Why be a SAHM if you want to use childcare all week anyway?

I'd rather places went to families where all the adults in the household worked.

If you want the places take them. Don't feel pressurised by the other parents.

altinkum the world would be a dull place if everybody agreed. I do see your point about places being more about 'need' - it's a long time since my youngest went to nursery, and it was only for a short time in England, as we lived abroad so not really familiar with the system.