to feel like I've been kicked in the teeth.

[SillyOldBear01]

I got engaged on xmas day , weee! so did another mate.
I've not even set a date yet but perhaps stupidly got all giddy and told people who I wanted to be m.o.h/bridesmaids.
I asked other b to b to be a bm . she accepted seemed thrilled.
been chatting about plans etc.
I got told a date has been set but only close family know becasue its soon and only family will be going to daytime (grooms request). I'm not sure If i'm even invited to night do.
AIBU to feel like I'm gonna be totally humiliated and actually quite stunned and upset, like I dunno made to look stupid and its quite shitty tbn

It's not so much the royals, it's the arse-licker of royals that get my goat.

LoadOfTwaddle, you were quick to judge ONLY based on AF's response and then write:

'What has happened to MN tonight???

Too many newbie threads and kids crying!!!!'

If you want a private conversation then ring up a mate, this is a public forum open for everyone, including 'newbies'.

BTW OP, I'm sorry but I do think if a couple choose to have a small wedding then many people, not just you, will not be invited. However, if I was your friend, I would have offered some sort of explanation i.e. "I would have loved you to come if it was a bigger wedding, please don't take it personally."

Also it doesn't seem to me that you have all the facts, you're not even SURE if you've been invited to the evening do, so just wait and see before getting your knickers in a twist.

I think this sentence is the reason you haven't been invited
I got told a date has been set but only close family know becasue its soon and only family will be going to daytime.

1 question for you, are you family???

AF, nope not been invited! And those that don't invite me onto their threads will not be welcome on my threads (should I choose to start one). It just feels like a damn kick in the teeth tbh!

Attacked?

froggie

Whoopsie, there they go. Poof, gone.

If MN is going to carry on being this entertaining all night I won't be fussed how many times DS2 wakes up to feed.....

OP you and your friend should both be really excited. What if she has been feeling bad ever since you asked her to be a bridesmaid as she knows she can't reciprocate. You could resolve this issue for you both by not taking it personally, swallowing your disappointment and being genuinely happy for her to do things her way. This allows her to feel good about both her own wedding and yours.

It took me a while to decipher b t b to be a bm.
While i'm clearly gearing older I would take the clue to be in the "close family" bit.
It won't make you look stupid and humiliated. Just not family.
HTH

You could turn up at her wedding anyway OP, and cause a massive punch-up! That would be ace!

You can't beat a good punch up at a wedding! Bonus points for the bride in tears in the bogs, groom out cold on the pavement, in-laws throwing buns at one another and the bridesmaid being had up against the wall by the registrar! Now that's a good wedding!

Siamo, I don't remember inviting you?
Because it all sound too familiar...

I think 7 year olds have arguements based on 'you didn't invite me to your party so you can't come to mine now' don't they?

AF - have you been shining your crown and attacking people again - tut tut It is such a lame way to dis a regular poster isn't it - people need to try harder

You didn't invite me. I gatecrashed because I heard the favours were going to be amazing. They were - but not in the way I expected!

I've only read two threads tonight (one of them veeeerrrrryyyyy long) and in both of them, the OPs have accused other posters of attacking them! Even though they they haven't, IMHO. Are OPs usually this sensitive on Friday nights?

only the pillocks, MsV

Yeah, I know you Siamo. You've outed yourself as my Dsis's bridesmaid!

See, that's a good wedding!
b t b to be a bm..
FFS

Ooh, AF has spoken to a commoner like me

Ooooo! I want to know what all the deleted posts said!

Fight! Fight!

Weeeeeeeell, it's a wedding, her wedding is her wedding, and your wedding is your wedding, and she has chosen to have a small select wedding and you've chosen to have a bigger wedding.

Who you have as your BMs should never be based upon thinking it'll be reciprocated in any way - it often isn't and that's usually a cause of offence.

Weddings are big mish-mashes of politics and it's rare that you get a wedding with no hint of this type of stuff.