to feel like I've been kicked in the teeth.

[SillyOldBear01]

I got engaged on xmas day , weee! so did another mate.
I've not even set a date yet but perhaps stupidly got all giddy and told people who I wanted to be m.o.h/bridesmaids.
I asked other b to b to be a bm . she accepted seemed thrilled.
been chatting about plans etc.
I got told a date has been set but only close family know becasue its soon and only family will be going to daytime (grooms request). I'm not sure If i'm even invited to night do.
AIBU to feel like I'm gonna be totally humiliated and actually quite stunned and upset, like I dunno made to look stupid and its quite shitty tbn

OP - is the other bride a friend or a family member.

Cos if it's not the latter then why are you getting your knickers in a twist about a non-family member (you) not being invited to a family wedding?

Sillyold, posts like that just don't put you in a favourable light really. Why are you being so aggressive?

how funny that you quote "leave the bastard" on such a happy thread, Op

you are getting married, you should be happy

YABU - my dearest, oldest friend was my 'chief bridesmaid', she had a tiny wedding a couple of years later and we weren't invited (literally she just had parents and siblings there). It never occurred to me to take offence or be upset by it and she's still as much a friend to me now as she was then.

Thanks to the posters who actually posted something sensible I agree I'm probs letting my feelings runaway with me atm.

op this is aibu......there is no need to attack poster just because they do think yabu

Sillyold, posts like that just don't put you in a favourable light really. Why are you being so aggressive?

have you not read the first half of the thread?

This is AIBU. What did you expect?

When is your 'big' day op? You say the bridesmaids is soon.

feelings ?

your only feelings should be for your own wonderful fiance and own upcoming fabulous nuptials

anything else is piffle

isn't it ?

She attacked my on several occasions for no actual reason why is there no comeback for her? becasue she's 'royalty'

Calm down, love.

attacked ?

report me, OP, that's what you need to do

Silly I've tried to defend you but I'm starting to regret it. AF hasn't attacked you.

Seriously OP - you think AF attacked you? Teased maybe, by telling you to grow up, but not attacked.

OP I think you would be better placed hiding this thread and heading to the Weddings board to celebrate your happy news and just accepting that your friend is having a small wedding that you are not a part of, but that she is obviously a very good friend of yours and that is reason enough for you to have chosen her as bridesmaid.

She amongst other posters were very, very rude to within minutes of posting why I am I meant to just sit back and take it.

Heh heh bit of a punchy bugger aintcha OP go and enjoy your wedding and move on from the bun fight !!!

I haven't got a clue what the OP is on about or is being unreasonable or not being unreasonable about? Not a clue.

sillybear my responce 'Oh but you didn't go to her wedding though did you?'

would be that yes i went to the evening party because it was a family wedding.

Be the bigger bear, OP.
You risk looking undignified

Am supposed to be picking up dd from a friends house but feel I may miss something. I shall lurk a while longer if nobody objects.

ah, but froggie, have you been invited to the full do ?

am not sure you can stay, tbh

If that's it, I shall go and carry out my parental commitments! Toodle-loo!

I suppose you could take it in the sense it's meant - banter, teasing, with a bit of honest advice sprinkled in there. The rudest posts on this thread have been from you OP.

I do still feel a little bit sorry for you though. Not nice to find yourself on the wrong side of your own thread. Not unusual on AIBU though.