women who 'get on better with men'

[bejeezus]

I would have said this about myself into my 20's. I have 2 acquaintances who are women who 'get on better with men' 'have more male friends than female'

Neither of this women IMO have what it takes to be a good friend. They are both quite fickle and seem to lack empathy,I wouldnt trust them or rely on them. I can't really put my finger on what it is about them; they seem a bit fair-weather

On reflection, when I was younger I was less open and was probably emotionally immature (compared with peers) and didnt really have any great girl-friends when growing (not that I recognised). Since having made good female friends,that i do appreciate- there is nothing like it. I think girl-friend relationships are much deeper and enduring and there is nothing like it

Whats your experience of women who 'get on better with men'?
AIBU if I think they are a bit rubbish?

It's also fairly selective, and I do think we tend to take note of what we expect to find. There are obviously countless examples of boys being dull and bitchy too ... for example, a few days ago I walked home behind a group of boys talking loudly about their penises and naked girls.

I get on better with individuals with whom I have interests in common. So I get on with men or women who are interested in topics such as politics, the environment, business, sport, books, art, general conversation and having a good laugh. They may be men or women.

I get on less well with individuals who talk about their husband/wife/partner/others etc. in critical ways or talk publicly about private issues or who are into 'celebs', fashion etc.

I have long-term friends who are female (two of them going back 60 years) and long term friends who are male (going back 40+ years).

Like many others I tend not to bother which set of genitals are attached to them.

Well Samandi, I'd have been glad to discuss my theory with you but since you cam in on the attack I don't think I'll bother. Thanks anyway.

Flouncy....

Where was the attack?
Reading and not seeing any attack...

Perhaps I read more into it than was intended then.

Aye, that's the beauty of internet discussions

I have mostly female friends, ones I've known a long time and trust, but in a new social situation with noone I knew there, I'd far rather talk to a bloke tbh

I do not have many female friends. The few I do have go way back. I much prefer Men's company. I found that many women are quite possessive and get upset/offended very easily whereas men are less complicated - Of course, not all women are like that, Perhaps its just the ones I know/meet !

I would certainly like to find a female friend who is not over sensitive or possessive !

Mishtake, maybe it's because they don't fancy you any longer as you get older. Have you thought of that? instead of blaming all those 'evil' wives and girlfriends.

Miaou

Asdevil
Thank you for so perfectly illustrating why I prefer the company of men.
BTW I didn't refer to women as "evil" - you did. How very sisterly of you.

I have more male friends than female. My 2 closest friends are women but I would say my male/female friendships are 70/30 respectively.

I used to often go out with a male only group before I had my DS. It would be me and 5 other men. If people thought it weird, I didn't notice. I'm not an attention seeker, my males are genuinely platonic and I enjoy the laid back approach to life my male friends have. And their girlfriends have never had a problem with me going out with them, meeting up for lunch etc because I don't get to do it very often. And my DP doesn't mind, they've been my friends for 7 years and always will be.

Sometimes the conversations women have, mainly critisisms of other women can bore me. Of course, they're not like that all the time, just mainly after a few glasses of wine :) My 2 closest female friends are not like that which is why they are my nearest and dearest. Sometimes men can be bitchy but I feel more comfortable telling a man to shut up about so and so than a woman because 9 times out of 10 a woman will sulk whereas a male willjust carry on with another conversation and be less offended. But that could just apply for those I know, not men and women as a whole.

why do some women have a tendency to overcomplicate things. Always picking up on irrelevant points and making them a big deal. Drives me up the wall to be honest, have never been able to stomach it.

In fact this thread is a perfect example... Thinking its immature to get on with men...

Sincere diplomacy isn't that common a trait in the women I've known.

It may be that WWGOBWM think that all other women are like themselves, ie, gossipy, bitchy, shallow, etc so therefore prefer the company of men?

Some WWGOBWM

I prefer male company too in rl. I'm unsure why but its been that way since my early teens. Male friends seemed easier, less likely to be offended by every little thing, less demanding in terms of time and emotion. I am quite shy and always found it easier to "fit in" with a bunch of guys than a group of women, with women i'm always on my guard thinking i'm going to upset someone/be bitched about.

Unfortunately, many women are suspicious of women who like male company so having male friends doesn't tend to help in finding female friends! because they think you're a dirty husband stealer

I get on better with women but everyone gets on my nerves at times i only have one friend who i can tell her ANYTHING and she is like as sister to me our mums were best friends weve lived together at times and theres absaloutly nothing like it. Im engaged and can honestly say i love my fiance but i love my best friend more. Is that bad??

Maybe wrongamum its seeming that way. A number of posters have said women are always taking offence at the smallest thing and you have to watch what you say around them! It follows, that its because those people are being nasty.

(bloody phone)

How can you honestly disregard half the population, based on their gender, as being so sensitive and irrational that they can't bear critiscm or disagreement.

Woman are capable of debate

Also, why would you think that your opinion would matter to them so much, that they would be offended?

froggy maybe its not because they suspect you of being a dirty husband stealer. Most women are much more secure and confident than to feel so threatened IME

May be its because they suspect you hold opinions of women such as you've outlined in your first paragraph

IMO holding these views about women in general does indicate a level of emotional immaturity

What's the alternative? Mysogyny? Mysogynistic women? Really?

Nope, in my instance my best friend's other half didn't like me because she thought I was after him in all ways non platonic. She was wrong, obviously.

Been thinking about women 'taking offence all the time'

2 of my good friends are outrageously outspoken and hold controversial views. They cause offence all over the place. They have loads of frmale friends.

If women were inherantly 'bitchy' and 'take offence at the slightest thing' there would be no female female friendships at all!