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Original poster

to envy/hate people on benefits to be as well off if not better than us

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chocaddict · 08/01/2012 16:08

I know that this post may have some mixed reviews and may even get me slated but I can,t help it.
Someone I know although she is a genuine case her and her husband have as much as me and dh coming in and with a brand new car thrown in for good measure.
I can only dream of a new car and I work my tripe off 5 days a week as well as dh whilst some people can sit at home and get the same income coming in it seems really unfair.

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Onesunnymorningin2012 · 08/01/2012 16:39

Accu, it's not everyone. Just some stupid arseholes Angry

Notthefullshilling · 08/01/2012 16:40

Damn I was too slow to see this thread, I sit for hours waiting for some numpty to say how shit their life is compared with people who are vilified and universally hated, not to mention discriminated against, abused, spat at, attacked, feared, and used as Daily Mail fodder on a daily basis. Yet when someone does start a thread I am busy having a life...bugger is all I can say!

And to loopynutjobwhatsthereface, move to america lots of homeless people dying on the streets in every major city, you should feel right at home.

coccyx · 08/01/2012 16:40

Hate seems a strong word to use

wubblybubbly · 08/01/2012 16:41

So disabled people aren't allowed clothes or holidays? Or even to eat out now, in case they offend someone who, dispite being fully able bodied, can't quite earn enough to support themselves?

Fucking charming. Put them all in homes eh?

Sluttybuttons · 08/01/2012 16:41

FFS get over yourself OP

antsypants · 08/01/2012 16:43

Well, the amounts of money are standardised, so if a family who rely solely on benefits are able to run a car and save for a holiday then it seems you have reason to at least feel envious, they are obviously better at managing the little money they have than you are.

Of course, you could always start looking at your own house and get that in order, 25k and a small mortgage should not prevent you having a much better standard of living than you currently have, I know it doesn't me.. And that is without the benefits of tax credits... Which btw you and your oh are entitled to if that is your combined wage

Original poster
chocaddict · 08/01/2012 16:43

well something is wrong when two people can go out to work and be unable to afford holidays, and have to shop at the cheapest places for clothes etc and then somebody on benefits is able to spend spend it doesn,t sit right with me at all.

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SayCoolNowSayWhip · 08/01/2012 16:44

This will not end well....

SuePurblybilt · 08/01/2012 16:44

Accu, wubbly and hobnobs - don't listen. They're in the minority, these ignorant, thoughtless posters. They are also not coming across as the cleverest weasels in the circus IYSWIM? thicker than frozen mince

Let them go and screech, pick fleas and fling poo on the Daily Heil site.

Original poster
chocaddict · 08/01/2012 16:46

its very difficult to do much on 25k alot of poeple I know are on much more

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TheMonster · 08/01/2012 16:46

I don't think it is about hating people on benefits at all. It's about not understanding how SOME people on benefits can afford things that people who work cannot.

HowlingBitch · 08/01/2012 16:46

Sucks to be you OP.

Sevenfold · 08/01/2012 16:46

why does mn hq allow the disability hate threads?

wubblybubbly · 08/01/2012 16:46

So get a better job then OP. Who owes you a living?

I've worked all my life before getting ill, I worked hard and earned a good wage. I suggest you spend less time hating and more timing thinking on how you improve your own situation.

Onesunnymorningin2012 · 08/01/2012 16:48

What wubbly said.

YABVFU OP.

CheeseandGherkins · 08/01/2012 16:48

Tell you what op, why don't you break your neck so you're paralysed from the neck down and then you can give up work and claim all that money for not working? That would be a far better life wouldn't it?

I cannot stand ignorant, envious people. If you had one fucking clue what it was like be disabled you'd be fucking grateful for what you have and your ability to walk and not going on about people have the same as you. God forbid someone that's disabled gets to enjoy any part of their life eh? Let's just kill all the disabled and sick people and then people like you will be happy no?

Original poster
chocaddict · 08/01/2012 16:48

I am restricted at the moment children are still quite young its very easy to for you to say that wubbly without knowing my circumstances

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Rollersara · 08/01/2012 16:49

I have a "brand new shiny car" and am capable of many things. Unfortunately walking isn't one of them. I receive DLA, the full mobility component goes on the car. I use the car to get to work, to my many, many medical appointments, to the local shop and soon, hopefully, DP will use it to drive me to hospital to have our first baby.

As others have said, car is on a lease. If it was taken away I would instantly lose my independence, I wouldn't be able to go to work or, in fact, leave the house. Especially not with baby as I cannot carry her safely. However, as it is, I've managed to work out what I am capable of, worked hard at it over many years and got a pretty decent job. And from what you've said, I am better off than you, if income if your sole criteria.

Feel free to hate me.

CheeseandGherkins · 08/01/2012 16:49

I'm really so sick and tired of reading threads like this, a minority of small minded, small brained people that think disabled/sick people are "better off" than them and whining about it. Get a bloody grip.

EllenandBump · 08/01/2012 16:49

I am on benefits and a bit in a catchment work wise, for a start i used to work with horses but thats not really practical being a single parent, i am at mums and as she is a pensioner and gets pension credit and council tax credit anything i was to earn would affect that and i am currently trying to find somewhere to live as i cant stay here long term, so i am on benefits, add into the mix epilepsy, PND, divorce, anxiety anf vit b12 and folate anaemia and the reality is finding work, which would be in something completely different to what i have ever done before, with all the above problems and with so many applicants per job would be extremely difficult and right now i need to sort me out. I am then going to concentrate on getting a course that will help me get a career, I dont feel BAD off but i am certainly not well off. I am luckier than some but i see people all around that have more than i do! Including those on certain benefits?

HowlingBitch · 08/01/2012 16:49

Well you should not have had children if you wanted fancy cars and a big house. :)

AmberLeaf · 08/01/2012 16:50

I am restricted at the moment children are still quite young its very easy to for you to say that wubbly without knowing my circumstances

Oh the fucking irony !!!

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chocaddict · 08/01/2012 16:50

lets get one thing straight I am not talking about people stuck in a wheel chair or struck down with cancer etc I am on about the ones who are still capable of doing a job.

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CheeseandGherkins · 08/01/2012 16:50

My heart is bleeding over here for you op...Oh, wait...

SayCoolNowSayWhip · 08/01/2012 16:50

If you're earning £25K a year you must be pulling in about £1500 monthly, give or take. You have £450 mortgage, that leaves you just over a grand per month.

Say council tax is £150 for a house that size (guesstimating from your mortgage), then utilities another £100.

That's £750 a month you've got to play with.

Plus another £80 if you have a child, Morris you have more than one.

Not sure what you're complaining about.

DH and I have much less and we do ok.

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