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Original poster

To be a bit brideszilla about my bridesmaids choice of hair colour

143 replies

Crazyfatmamma · 07/01/2012 16:39

Hi all I am getting married in April and have been very relaxed about it for the most part, in fact my fiance has taken the reins and organised alot of it so far.
However a close friend who is also one of my bridesmaid has just dyed her hair a very bright and garish shade of green, incidently my bridesmaids dresses are green too and I am unsure if its to take the attention off me on my big day or not. (some of her previous behaviour has been just that)
For her own wedding last year she dyed her hair from bright blue to brown so that her photos would look better and that the first thing people saw was her not her hair (her words!!).

Am I being a complete bridezilla bitch in telling her to tone her hair down a bit and if on the offchance that I am not- what can I say?

Our mutual friends think I should say something but my mum says its her hair and it up to her.
Help please x

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Sheepling · 07/01/2012 16:40

I wouldnt let her in my wedding with sodding green hair let alone walk down the aisle!!!

WorraLiberty · 07/01/2012 16:40

So she dyed it brown to make her own photos look better?

YANBU, she should do the same for your photos

How old is she anyway?

Gigondas · 07/01/2012 16:40

Just think of pictures Grin
Seriously you can say something but may not go down well. You asked her as a friend knowing presumably that part of her personality is her style. So yabu to
Think she will change.

rookiemater · 07/01/2012 16:41

You can't tell her - that makes you a controlling cow and makes her likely to tell you to sod off, but you can ask her nicely.

signet · 07/01/2012 16:41

What makes you think she intends to keep her hair that colour for your wedding? April is still a long way off - perhaps she intends to change it again before then, so be careful and don't go off the deep end until you know for sure.

Original poster
Crazyfatmamma · 07/01/2012 16:41

Shes a 31 year old mum of 2 x

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KatieScarlett2833 · 07/01/2012 16:41

I'm with your mum.

NinkyNonker · 07/01/2012 16:42

She will only make herself look a plonker, not you! I don't think Yabu to be Hmm [shoc
ked].

Kayano · 07/01/2012 16:42

Well it's not like she is new to bright coloured hair. If she is good friend just have a word and remind her how she felt re: her own hair at her own wedding and ask if she would consider toning it down

If not there is not much you can do

NinkyNonker · 07/01/2012 16:42

Perhaps she thinks she will co-ordinate?!

troisgarcons · 07/01/2012 16:43

Its not like you have to display a photo with her in it!

LRDtheFeministDragon · 07/01/2012 16:43

I agree with signet - I bet she's not intending to keep it for the wedding, especially if she dyed her own hair back for her own wedding.

ladyasriel · 07/01/2012 16:43

YABU for asking her to be your bridesmaid given you knew her penchant for unusual hair, I'm afraid. You can certainly ask her but you can't expect her to comply.

Bignorkz · 07/01/2012 16:43

What does your fiancé think? Personally I would ask if she could tone it down a bit, though how I'd do that I'm not quite sure!!

Failing that you could all get your hair dyed the same colour....Hmm

Original poster
Crazyfatmamma · 07/01/2012 16:44

She does intend to keep her hair that colour for my wedding as she announced it to all my friends!

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JustHecate · 07/01/2012 16:45

bloody hell. deja vu. Did this not happen once before?

oh, hang on - was that one a child with green hair? Some people are weird

Make the bridesmaids wear big floppy hats.

Or just tell the photographer to not include her in any of the pics. That'll piss her off Wink

Or tease her without mercy about looking like a big bogey and how funny it will look on the day and how great she is to be willing to give everyone such a laugh at her expense, what a good sport she is, how much fun it will be.

That will really piss her off Grin

Or. Just shrug your shoulders and accept it. She's obviously a much loved friend to be your bridesmaid, and it's only hair. It really isn't going to 'upstage' you on your wedding day, don't worry. Attention will still be on you. You're the one getting married.

kiasport · 07/01/2012 16:45

Yes you would be reasonable to tell her she has to change her hair colour

LifeOfKate · 07/01/2012 16:46

Yanbu to be worried about the photos, especially since she was!
But yabu to worry about it this early, April is a long time from now, I'd only mention it within a week or two of the wedding Smile

MrsB24 · 07/01/2012 16:46

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LRDtheFeministDragon · 07/01/2012 16:46

Ah, sorry. Well, if she's announced it I think your best bet is to laugh, tell her you're not sure if she's joking but since she dyed her own hair back for her own wedding, you're sure she'll understand that if she doesn't want to dye it again, you'll completely understand if she doesn't feel able to be your bridesmaid any more.

troisgarcons · 07/01/2012 16:46

Well, you could look at it that she is a bit of an attention seeker, but you must have known that anyway. Not much of a friend if she wants to upstage the bride and have all eyes on her. On the otherhand her eccentricity might be that well known that everyone is used to her little pecadillos and it wont actually attract any attention.

parakeet · 07/01/2012 16:47

I doubt she has died her hair in January just to take attention away from you in April.

Fear not, YOU will be the centre of attention, not her (puke).

YABU and a bridezilla.

kiasport · 07/01/2012 16:47

Unreasonable that should read!!!

Kayano · 07/01/2012 16:47

My attention seeking cousin turned
Up to my wedding on crutches but wearing stilettos!

And she was signing the register so was in all the photos! My other cousin was Shock

Nanny0gg · 07/01/2012 16:47

If you had no idea that she would do this when you asked her, then YANBU.
However, if this was on the cards, then you have a decision to make...

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