To be a bit brideszilla about my bridesmaids choice of hair colour

[Crazyfatmamma]

Hi all I am getting married in April and have been very relaxed about it for the most part, in fact my fiance has taken the reins and organised alot of it so far.
However a close friend who is also one of my bridesmaid has just dyed her hair a very bright and garish shade of green, incidently my bridesmaids dresses are green too and I am unsure if its to take the attention off me on my big day or not. (some of her previous behaviour has been just that)
For her own wedding last year she dyed her hair from bright blue to brown so that her photos would look better and that the first thing people saw was her not her hair (her words!!).

Am I being a complete bridezilla bitch in telling her to tone her hair down a bit and if on the offchance that I am not- what can I say?

Our mutual friends think I should say something but my mum says its her hair and it up to her.
Help please x

Why are your friends stirring shit about this?

If you're not bossy, and someone else has suggested you make an issue out if this, just drop it.

What difference will it make if your bright-headed friend walks down the aisle with you looking like herself?

In photos, she'll look like she looks.

It's so not worth worrying about this.

I would just say "did you dye your hair to match the dress on purpose?" in a laughing way. Bloody green, who on earth has green hair? It's so punk from freaking punk from 35 years ago.

Why did you ask her to be bridesmaid when she has form for having rainbow hair? Still, it's done now but you don't have to suck it up, just tell her and give her the option to stand down as bridesmaid or ditch the scene stealing hair.
Attention seeking or what!

Yes, it did happen before but it was the bride's nephew that time.

does anyone remember the thread about the pageboy with the green hair?k

woops x posts extraordinaire!

YY to photoshop. Tell her it's not a problem at all and you're have the picures with her on altered.

She's doing it for a reaction - dying it in January and announcing she's keeping it for your wedding. Don't give her one. Laugh, refer to her as Shrek, focus on yourself not on her - she's managed to make her hair the main talking point amongst your friends by the sound of it.

Or! People dye their hair primary colours because they feel it makes them look and feel good and anyone who would look at someone and think "what a twat" based on that aren't really worth worrying about anyway!

Reindeer - Well I wonder about the motivation of the person who reported back this supposed intention to have that colour at the wedding.

The conversation could have gone "are you planning to keep your hair like that for Crazy's wedding"
"um, I dunno, maybe yeah"

It is always a bad idea to presume to know the intentions behind comments you didn't hear.

This girl dyes her hair bright colours. This was known when she was asked to be a bridesmaid.

I think you should, in a nice way, remind her about her dyeing her own hair to a normal colour for her wedding.

I'll be honest if I looked at a wedding pic that had a green haired bridesmaid I can guarantee thats all Id remember from that pic. Same for the wedding itself ie. "oh you mean that wedding we went to that had the bird with the wacky hair?"

Have black and white photos. Everyone looks better in black and white anyway.

Green isn't a primary colour.

Howling - meh, possibly

I think people who dye their hair green for someones wedding is a twat and is doing it for attention though

Mildlynarkypuffin

Agree gribble. Attention seeking

Depends on what kind of colour you are talking about.

are twats and are doing it for attention

(I used the term in response to another poster.who called said primary colours.)

It's a wedding, it's about getting married and having a lovely time with your loved ones.. the one time in your life everyone you care about is in one place to celebrate with you.. who cares what colour her hair is?!

Well the wedding is not until April if I have read properly. This is January so she hardly did it "Just for the wedding" now did she?

mildnarkypuffin - gah! wasnt counting on people actually knowing what they were [grin

Howling - the crazy friend has told others she is going to have it green for the wedding

I think she may have been asked something like

"Are you going to change it before the wedding?"

And she said no? Why should she?

She dyed it as soon as I announced the colour of the bridesmaid dresses. Thanks for everyones opinions x x

A Thing, that's a food point actually, and one I didn't think of until your post.

OP, have you seen your friend with green hair yet? If not, just wait til you see her and make an off the cuff remark about how awful green hair work look with the dresses, then leave her to it until closer to the day. If its still green come April 1st then I think you can panic.