To be a bit brideszilla about my bridesmaids choice of hair colour

[Crazyfatmamma]

Hi all I am getting married in April and have been very relaxed about it for the most part, in fact my fiance has taken the reins and organised alot of it so far.
However a close friend who is also one of my bridesmaid has just dyed her hair a very bright and garish shade of green, incidently my bridesmaids dresses are green too and I am unsure if its to take the attention off me on my big day or not. (some of her previous behaviour has been just that)
For her own wedding last year she dyed her hair from bright blue to brown so that her photos would look better and that the first thing people saw was her not her hair (her words!!).

Am I being a complete bridezilla bitch in telling her to tone her hair down a bit and if on the offchance that I am not- what can I say?

Our mutual friends think I should say something but my mum says its her hair and it up to her.
Help please x

A food point? A good point.

That's what I get for eating while typing!

So those who think op is unreasonable.
What if ms memelookatmeimsounusual died her skin green, like princess Fiona.
Is that ok too?

Compelling argument!

I think <a class="break-all" href="http://www.google.ie/imgres?q=green+hair&hl=en&sa=X&biw=1121&bih=686&tbm=isch&prmd=imvns&tbnid=d1OUr3ooprw-aM:&imgrefurl=savannahfern-killergreenhair3.buzznet.com/user/photos/killer-green-hair/%3Fid%3D62274631&docid=slKpaoqgL5K_CM&imgurl=cdn.buzznet.com/assets/users16/savannahfern/default/killer-green-hair--large-msg-127717287807.jpg&w=334&h=334&ei=EIgIT4DLJoK2hAeZq8m6CQ&zoom=1&iact=hc&vpx=833&vpy=234&dur=462&hovh=225&hovw=225&tx=198&ty=103&sig=116338655759963393129&page=1&tbnh=144&tbnw=143&start=0&ndsp=20&ved=1t:429,r:13,s:0" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">this is a rather good wedding look.

What colour green are the dresses?

Im sure on the choice of green for a bridesmaid dress. what shade of green is it?

I'll take it you're fine with the green skin , eye roller

Oh yes Jasper, I'm currently shopping online for green "skin dye".

This thread is sooooo going to go downhill

:o Yup.

I am unsure if its to take the attention off me on my big day or not. (some of her previous behaviour has been just that)

If she's making you feel like that then why are you having her as a bridesmaid?

I think if you asked a friend who regularly dyed her skin bright colours to be your bridesmaid, you shouldn't be surprised or affronted if she wore her customary brightly-dyed skin to your wedding.

The time for deciding that this woman's look isn't right for your photograph-themed wedding has passed.

Unless you fancy changing the theme to "fighting".

I know a good facial tattooist .
Actually I think he prefers to be called BAAAD.

Here comes the bride...

lets hope she lays off thespray tan though

Between now and April it won't be as green

God I hate weddings, it brings the worst out in people.

God I hate weddings, it brings the worst out in people.

Perhaps you could all dye your hair green, then she wouldn't stand out?

or you could all have different brightly coloured hair - green, or blue or purple etc to create a rainbow?

or you could all wear turbans like Margo in 'The Good Life' - accessorizeblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/10/TURBAN_jpg_rendition_medium.jpg

Do tell me if I'm not being very helpful

But seriously I'd be v pissed off if this was my wedding and would try and have a quiet work about how upset you are about her thoughtlessness, especially as she didn't have unusual coloured hair for her own wedding. Though I would try and be tactful in my phrasing.

I'm pretty sure this wouldn't bother me at all. If she wants to have green hair... fine. You presumably didn't choose her because of her appearance. I expect you're worried about the photos and sure, it will get kind of old in years to come when you show people your album and they say "what's with the hair?" but other than that, no biggie.

Will she really keep it for the wedding though?

TBH I was pretty laid back about my bridesmaids. They were all consulted on dress style. They were all 'allowed' to chose their own hair do and accessories and their own choice of shoe. TBH I wouldn't be that bothered about green hair. She is the one that will look stupid - no one else!

Imagine how much fun you can have over the years getting the photos out while you have a drink or two and show everyone the photos... my how you will all laugh together at her

You could always change the color of the dresses to a nice hazelnut brown - maybe she will try and match that.

But in all seriousness, if she had her own hair brown for her wedding - so that her photos could be nice - I would see this as a deliberate attempt for her to ruin your photos. Surely that is the result of her logic.

In which case, you should tell her you no longer need her as a bridesmaid and would lve her to come as a guest, or not.

Maybe she thinks she's helping. You know colour co-ordinating and all that.

Whatever colour her hair is, she's still your friend, who you chose as a bridesmaid. It will show up, and it will be a talking point, but that's part of who she is. One of my bridesmaids has long dreads, full of bells and beads. It didn't cross my mind that she'd spoil the photos; not having her there would spoil them more.

I would tell her that she will no longer be a bridesmaid if she intends her hair to be that colour on your day. Be strong about it though.

It's a lot different but I chose two bridesmaids, my sister and my fiance's sister. My sister wanted to choose her own dress but I wanted to choose for both of them. Sister-in-law-to-be wore what I chose but never again because she didn't like it and looked lovely. My sister refused to wear what I chose so she was not a bridesmaid and I had just the one. I think she got over it.