To ask if I'm being OTT

[Wittsend13]

Now I've always stated I don't want DS on solids or anything other than his formula until he is ready for more ie cries when he's finished his bottle, wants more and is drinking at least 7oz.

My parents who I live with are well aware these are my wishes as recently we've discussed this and I gave in reluctantly to letting mum feed DS a rusk mashed into his milk. He's learning to eat it and is doing pretty well.

Roll on to yesterday, I asked the parents if I could go out and if they wouldn't mind babysitting. No problem. So off I go enjoy the new year and come back this morning.

This evening, I over heard mum discussing she gave DS Ice cream.. Now I've gone a bit mad as they're clearly not respected my wishes. I've told them its full of sugar and cows milk which isn't recommended for children under 1. They think they don't have to discuss with me and that there are millions of children who grew up on cows milk blah blah blah.
I'm royally pissed off that my wishes were thrown out the window here. I tried explaining had DS been a bit older, I wouldn't have minded as much. They tell me government guidelines are a load of waffle and that what do they know.

For my own peace of mind please will you tell me if I'm being unreasonable or if they are?

The guidelines on weaning have not changed for about 10 years. Waiting til 5 months is the best possible thing for a baby but if you can't do that then definitely NOT before 4 months.

It is a complete myth that these guidelines change all the time. It is also a complete myth that mothers know best in this matter. Unless they have x ray eyes or something so they can judge the maturity of their baby's gut from the outside.

But tasting a bit of ice cream isn't weaning.

But a rusk is. And the important point is that the guidelines do NOT keep changing- they have been the same for 10 years at least.

"But tasting a bit of ice cream isn't weaning."

The guidelines are about introducing solids - it doesn't matter what you call it.

No the ex left me when I was pregnant. Couldn't find him if I wanted too.

This just comes to show you who were the people were there for you when you needed most.

If they were oh so bad, you wouldnt have gone back in the first place.

And I also can not understand how you have so many savings to pay them rent, babysitting and buy milk, why are you there and not somewhere else???

Now you have a friend, job and gvt to rely on so they are not needed anymore.

Well some lessons are learnt the hard way, hope they will still be there for you and your child when you need again, even if you just need family members to enjoy and celebrate life with you.

Good Lucky!

There's a fine line between helping and taking over your life/child. Some people are prone to cross it.

I think the idea of paying rent and childminding fees to the GPs shows that Wittsend tried to keep things on a businesslike basis and avoid the sort of situation that has now developed (smart idea imo) but these GPs have not taken the hint, which makes me think they are the sort to cross lines and think nothing of it, not listen, and feel entirely justified in doing as they please regardless of what anyone says.

Thanks mathan that's pretty much how it is. I've decided to just try and keep the peace. I've bitten my tongue and apologized. It's not worth the hassle. I'll save while I'm working and get a place as soon as I can afford it. Thanks again for all the advice I've received really appreciate it x