To ask if I'm being OTT

[Wittsend13]

Now I've always stated I don't want DS on solids or anything other than his formula until he is ready for more ie cries when he's finished his bottle, wants more and is drinking at least 7oz.

My parents who I live with are well aware these are my wishes as recently we've discussed this and I gave in reluctantly to letting mum feed DS a rusk mashed into his milk. He's learning to eat it and is doing pretty well.

Roll on to yesterday, I asked the parents if I could go out and if they wouldn't mind babysitting. No problem. So off I go enjoy the new year and come back this morning.

This evening, I over heard mum discussing she gave DS Ice cream.. Now I've gone a bit mad as they're clearly not respected my wishes. I've told them its full of sugar and cows milk which isn't recommended for children under 1. They think they don't have to discuss with me and that there are millions of children who grew up on cows milk blah blah blah.
I'm royally pissed off that my wishes were thrown out the window here. I tried explaining had DS been a bit older, I wouldn't have minded as much. They tell me government guidelines are a load of waffle and that what do they know.

For my own peace of mind please will you tell me if I'm being unreasonable or if they are?

but you will probably be entitled to tax credits for childcare I claimed 75% of nursery fees when I was working.

you need to ring around tomorrow for some childminders and nurseries and visit a couple of places. I would not just now turn down the job before you have investigated your options.

How do you pay them/rent/milk if you are not working?
And even if you were paying a babysitter/nanny/childminder/nursery, would you really trust those people more than your parents?
I worked in a nursery that made the parents believe all the food was fresh and organic. It was on the orange basic label from sayinsburis, I could not eat that crap. The babies got jars all the time.

I think you need to get used to it .. Gp's will always do their own thing .
Do pick your battles wisely.
Don't be anal about food . It wont harm him.
A big part of weaning is trying to get DC excited about food and enjoy it .
Ice cream at 5 months won't hurt him .
Throw out any weaning books you have .
My DD was under an excellent paediatrician who advised that apart from the obvious, nuts , shellfish etc, babies can pretty much have what ever you like to give them from 17 weeks. Yes I know guidelines always change but at 17 weeks the organs are developed enough to cope with solids .
Experiment with different flavours , textures and have fun with DC while he explores food .
Relax . Your babys digestive system and kidneys is developed enough now to tolerate little treats that may pass his way .
I was actively encouraged by our paediatrician to give sweet flavour things in moderation. Dc needs to know that eating can be pleasureable !
Good luck .

Bluddy I moved here because they offered to help me when I was pg as I'm on my own. I left the uk and moved here. Been living on my savings. There isnt anyone I could ask and I don't know anyone I could find to look after him.

And I completely agree with bluddymofo

If you're paying them in addition to rent, then fair enough, they should definitely have more respect for your wishes. If you paid anyone else you would expect them to play by your rules.

With the job - is there some light at the end of the tunnel - i.e. that you might be able to save up enough for a deposit on a place of your own in 6 months or so?

Wits, only just found all this. My mum told me she'd fed dd2 on icecream - aged 5 months - when I got back from a dentist appt. Ma said she'd really enjoyed it - so next day tried her on baby rice, which vanished without touching the sides. Now I'm lucky I suppose in that my mother doesn't drive me completely demented, at least not on practical child care matters, and I appreciate yours might well be sending you over the edge. But take it steady before burning any boats.
PS Very posh Waitrose Cornish Clotted Cream Icecream

ok not in uk so tax credits not an option. i would definatly look at all your options before making any decissions.

Dum they don't see it like that. The way they think is it's their house, their rules. There is no lets try and meet halfway here at all. I don't have enough to put down as a months rent. I could ask my sister but thats another can of worms. I tried talking to them but there's no other option other than their rules.She wants me out plain and simple.

I thinks this is not real tbh

Well that's up to you Sassy. I've no reason to lie about any of this.

Interestingly we're also under paed and dietician care and early weaning was a big no no. Just saying. No reason to turn down the job, just find some childcare, your local council or surestart will have lists and then you can go back to standing on your own two feet.

My mil feeds my nephews utter rubbish between meals then complains they don't eat the meals she cooks for them. Boxing day she was asked not to give them chocolate and one was sick during dinner because he had been given so much rubbish during the afternoon. Ruined the meal for us all.

Slow I honestly wouldn't have minded had DS been a bit older. But 5 months is too young in my opinion. I know GP like to spoil their kids and I've no problem with it, just not at 5 months when I've made it clear I didn't want him being fed.

Op isn't in the UK, so local councils, benefits, surestart etc are irrelevant.

But she said she could declined the job and live off benefits...

she said she moved from uk to here. OP where are you?

can you claim some Uk benifits in other eu countries? have no idea im confused.

slowburner I think it depends on the circumstances . Our DD associated food with pain so struggled to maintain her weight . She had been tube fed from birth due to being prem . But it was so painful for her that she developed a bad association with eating .
Paediatric dietician and paediatrician wanted her a) to eat and b) to find it pleasurable .
Crazily enough with her reflux ,intolerances and poor milk intake they suggested weaning her at one point at 9 weeks .
I was told that it was not uncommon in NNU to do this.
OP can you sit for s couple of days and let the dust settle ? And then see if you can all move forward ?

I'm not in the uk but I can claim benefits if I'm not working. Seems complete madness having to give up work but right now I've no other option. I don't think waiting for the dust to settle will cut it. This is one thing in a long line of stuff and I guess it's prob for the best. Thanks for all the replies I'm going to get some sleep and sort something out tomorrow. Night

The point is they did something with YOUR child that you specifically asked them not to.
There was no harm done...op knows this
However OP is angry and upset that her wishes as a parent were not adherred to as would any parent.
Why the heck does she HAVE to agree to letting her baby have icecream etc just to ensure she has a sitter.
Thats just ridiculous and smack a little of blackmail "our way or the highway"
I do not believe for one moment that any parent would be happy if anyone went against a specific instruction re thier child.
OP has made it quite clear its not the food so much as the blatant disregard of her wishes.
Its lack of respect