Xmas presents I am not happy and feeling like a child...

[sassyminder]

There was 2 couples and a single women at our home for Xmas, all from my usband family ( mother and father in law, brother in law with girlfriend and sister in law) and I made sure I bougtht them all of them gifts on behalf of me, my husband and dd.
For the lady's one hand made to order ( very pretty and one of a kind) handbag each, one expensive umbrella each and one L'occitane en provence set of 3 hand cream each. For the gentlemen I bouth 1 pringle of Scotland Polo Shirt, for FIL, Diesel Laptop Bag for BIL and Animal manbag for DH + L'occitane en Provence after shave for all of men.
Here is what I get:
2 primark pyjama bottoms from BIL and girlfriend (one is XXL and other is S, I am size 8 so only one is good)
1 hideous hat from SIL
1 bodycream from poundland from In Laws.

They really took the piss this year!
My husband and daughter got nice things obviously.
it is not all about presents, but it hurts see they give each other nice stuff and do this to me, I would rather them tell me what the fuck the problem is they have with me and give me absolutely nothing!!!
Next year I am going all the way to spend Xmas with my own family fuck them.
My DD is the only child in the family so they will be sad and alone.

And they won't have my hospitality ( yes I always host spending on food, drinks, eletricity and so on) even tough we work full time until the 23rd (hubby until 24th) and boxing day.

I don't blame my DH, he always waits for his bonus after new year to buy me nice presents, and this year I am getting an Iphone and Apple laptop.

Bitches.

Am curious what gifts were given to your DH and DC.
YANBU by the way - thoughtless, insulting gifts

Just don't get them anything next year, they're not your family. If you're going to get upset, just don't get anything.

My partner's mum gets him weird stuff all the time and she loves him. It's because she thinks whatever she gets him won't be good enough so she just gets whatever. Maybe they feel the same about you.

I find people rarely have these grand ulterior motives that people attribute to them.

tout how the eff are some pj bottoms "Insulting"??? If people only have a couple of pounds to spend...then Primark is a good bet as most people will at least use the Pjs.....the large pair ,may have been a simple mistake!

Yuck at the presents. They sound cheap (the cream which is just nasty) and thoughtless. If you are not going to put thought into a gift and do it well, then just don't bother.

The op sounds like she has some class. She took care and thought over her gifts that she hoped would bring her guests happiness, regardless of the money.

I think it's rude of your guests, op, not to have given you a gift that at least fits you or that won't bring you out in a rash. Again, nothing to do with £. I mean, they could have brought you some nice wine or a good book.

Save your efforts next year. Really. They will miss them!

With regards to the gulf between sizes for the pj bottoms, Primark does have a very bad habit of completely mismatching sizes to hangers. I've been victim to it many a time (a size 16 on a 12 hanger or whatever) so it's possible - since they got one size right - they grabbed two that on the hanger were the right sizes but one pair was a mistmatched size.

Everything else, I don't know. It there was a huge difference between my husband and child's quality of present and my own, I'd wonder. But generally, try not to sweat it. Present comparing aside, you sound generous and kind hearted in your quest to make that special effort.

But they were effing pyjama bottoms- both of them. I repeat what I said upthread, what bloody use are they if they ain't got a top half?! See- thoughtless!

Really, curlyhaired? I only wear the bottom half of pyjamas, I normally wear a crop top or nothing with them.

There presents werent the greatest but you do sound very ungrateful.

This isn't real is it? It can't be.

First I've heard anyone doing that. I thought they sold them separately cos you can mix and match styles usually from the racks in the shop. Also you can choose a bigger top if you have big melons but a little tush!

I only buy pj bottoms. I cant be doing with wearing anything more than a vest top on my top half.

I also think your presents seem rather over the top and surely you weren't expecting similar back?

I can see why you're miffed, but...

I made sure I bougtht them all [gifts]

Then don't any more, seriously, ask your DH to be in charge of gifts to his family. Also he should be giving them heavy hints about what you want, even if it's which shampoo you like in Poundland. Sorted.

Yes, op, you need to make your dh buy for his side of the family. These men need to get off their backsides at Xmas and make a bloody effort doing all the tasks that us women hate doing but it's assumed that we'll just do them.

I would be seething with resentment too.

I'd just regift your presents back to them next year. Should get the message across nicely.

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im sorry but i would feel the same as you,and feel for you,i was in your postion a few years ago,i felt hurt! after all,if they had to cook there own dinner it would have cost them more!! alot more!! i dont have anyone round now,its best...
they could have put more thought into your gift,whatever about the pjs,i wouldnt have minded that so much,but the hand cream?! not good,a £1? come on....thats just mean...
and surely they probably knew what you are like when it comes to gifts....
assuming you are generous?xxx

it sounds as if your dh's family don't bother much with gifts (which is not necessarily such a bad thing if everyone is keeping it simple) but since you say they bougth nice things for your dd and for your dh but not for you, it does seem a bit odd tbh.

Are they nice to you when they are in your home over Christmas, are they good company? If so, I would suggest you drastically reduce the gifts next year knowing what you have to expect, so you are not so disappointed. If they aren't nice to have around, then why not go and celebrate with your own family? At least sometimes you could do that, couldn't you? One year with your family, one year with his maybe.

The presenter on QVC has just said that Simon (of Butler and Wilson jewellry fame) buries the presents she gives him ,in the garden. Ungrateful turd!.

PS I know she's joking.

You should regift the cream to your MIL but make sure it smells 'off'. Leave the lid off so it goes crusty at the edges.

Yabu op. Maybe your in-laws think your dh is paying for/choosing the gifts so only feel the need to get you a token effort.
As a pp has said Primark is a nightmare for muddled up sizes so that was likely a mistake. I feel for your sil too - she may have thought the hat she got you was nice.
If you are going to feel resentful I would leave the shopping to dh next year.

They sound awful! Your gifts to them sound lovely !

Buy them something very cheap next year, they clearly only do 'token' presents to you.

The worst is definitely the pound shop cream, that's a particular brand of shit.

You bought them all near identical gifts, where's the thought gone into that?

I can guarantee that you couldn't buy me and my SIL identical presents and have us both be pleased.

I get the impression that 'nice; means expensive in the op TimeWasting.

DH would take Primark pj's or a hat over expensive aftershave that he wouldn't even realise was expensive anytime.

Don't buy them anything next year and then at about 10pm on Christmas eve, turn to your DH and ask him "by the way, what did you get for your mum and dad and siblings".

Alternatively save your presents, wrap them up and give them back to them next year!