So messy, what you are saying is misogynistic behaviour is bad, but if you are misandristic by joking about it, thats ok. Cos its a serious issue... If I had a penny for all the times that argument had be used against various famous people who were trying to draw attention to a subject in a controversial way by feminists...
If people here think there is a culture of passive aggressive bullying on that section then I think your comment by saying 'Get a sense of humour' just sums up the whole attitude that I dislike and the clicheyness. Of course there is a reason to slag it off.
I really wish the section was an equality section rather than a feminist one, as actually a lot of the comments there tend toward the men hating end of the spectrum with little or no thought to how similar issues affect some men too. Instead of creating division and a them and us thing, thats what people should be thinking of. The them and us thing just perpetutates problems, it doesn't help to move the interests of women (nor any other group) forward.
This is a opinion that CAN NOT be expressed there though, as the overwhelming attitude of people is this is a women's forum primarily and raising that question is deemed as an attack on feminism. The anti-feminist label is one that needs completely removing from the agenda. Merely rising the idea that men might actually have similar issues is a complete no no. Hence my comments about a number of women there being tea weepers who actually get off on playing the victim.
Personally, I think feminism is its own worst enemy when it gets to that point. Which I think it is on Mumsnet. The real issues and ways to help everyone get lost in the process.
As for threads about how women are having crap christmases just being they are female... erm well... I'm not one for thinking thats the pure sole reason. Families have a tendancy to just be crap and disfunctional, and I'm pretty sure that clashes of personality, differences in generations, just general wankerish behaviour mixed with alcohol are not exclusively female issues. But its easy to blame sexism rather than looking at it as a much more complex issue (and very biased one when it comes to posts on Mumsnet).
Christmas is a source of tension for everyone and I'll bet theres a few very miserable men out there having a rubbish day too, very possibility because they aren't living up to their 'male role' in eyes of various family members who have come to say (eg man who has lost his job and isn't providing for his family and is getting grief off the in-laws).