Ruined Christmas - AIBU to want to cry?

[loopsylou]

Sister came round today to stay for christmas with 2 DN's, husband and dogs. Lovely newly clean house ready for Christmas and what happens? Dog knocks over tree and rips apart decorations my daughter made, that we've had for 5 years. Her spoilt little brats feed ENTIRE BLOODY lamb leg (for christmas eve) to said dog. Her DH and mine have disappeared to the pub, she's gone to bed (MY BED AS HER BACK IS APPARENTLY TOO SORE TO SLEEP DOWNSTAIRS) leaving me with 3 kids a manic dog and a broken in half christmas tree. Now transpires that DN1 has climbed onto the bathroom sink and pulled it from the wall, I had water all over the floor before I could stop it, told them to clean it up only to be shouted at by a 10 year old that I wasn't their mum. I cannot believe all this has happened in 1 day, but I'm at my wits end and I've locked myself in the kitchen rather then deal with all that. :( AIBU to just curl up and cry?

Well done for standing up to her loopsylou but will there be reprecussions with the rest of the family?

She isn't going to go bleating to your parents or something is she, telling tales of being thrown out into the cold without any presents at Christmas because you are an evil disfunctional family who don't know how to treat people? She sounds like the type who never takes responsibility and will be telling everybody about her awful sister. Watch your back with her, won't you?

And of course, a massive cheer for Loopsy who I am filled with admiration for! I assume you and your sister we raised by the same parents? How bizarre that she should think this behaviour normal... thank goodness they've gone!

What is your sister likely to tell everyone about this!?

Donkey I did read the whole thread thank you

I still have no sympathy that the OP went through what she went through and maybe if she didn't allow people to walk over her in the first place then the stress would not have occured.

Oh and Donkey bully for you that your dog behaves this one did not, obviously.

Voddie, do you have a sister when recently asked you to leave her house due to a plumbing and canine related incident?

Lol calamity - I was thinking that

Funny, funny I am most certainly not the op's sister. I applaud what the op did in the end, all I am saying is that she could have saved herself all the stress by standing up to people in the beginning instead.

wow, such outrageously rude relatives. Well done you for finding your voice and getting rid of them. Awful, awful!

Standing up to them before they had done anything wrong? Really?

I think she did what needed doing, yes it caught her off guard and we had to prod her for a minute or two, but by golly she went for it once she knew what to do.

Bloody hell, think I've allready said this, but I'm lost for words

Two ten year olds shouldn't need to be supervised constantly - if you have to be in the same room all the time to supervise them, then they must have real behaviour problems. They sound very rude how ever you look at it. They were in your house and should be respectful of your things and you. Your sister seems to think their behaviour is your fault. Very confused thinking..

I have three younger children and non of them would accidentally/intentially rip a sink off the stand or feed lamb to the dogs. It just wouldn't happen but if if ever did, I would be mortified and put everything right.

can you send her a link to this post?

Good for you op!

Hope her dog throws up the lamb so

a) he doesn't get poorly
and
b) he ruins their carpet.

The dog probably puked in the car.

Did they have far to go??

I would love a paper copy of Chez Voddie Rules which perhaps are issused and signed the moment you step over the threashold

OP was great IMHO

I really ought to check posts before sending...ah well hope you get the gist.

I think she dealt with the situation very well considering. I don't think there is much that she could have done differently to avoid the cascade of awful incidents.

I hope the dog is ok but instead the nightmare family realise the error of their ways and apologise in due course.

What did you say to DN when he said 'You're not my Mum'? The little snot would have got the riot act over that. Obnoxious little shit.

You did well getting rid and cancelling the chairs

Definitely get your story in first with the rest of your family!!

Enjoy Christmas now!!

Well done OP, hope you find the rest of the leg of lamb. Pleased to hear DH also appalled, and supported you.

My advice? Just don't bloody ask them again. Ever. You don't need people like that in your life! Maybe this will make them think about their behaviour.

Now that it's over, I hope you have a VERY good Christmas, and a peaceful New Year!

Take photo's of ruined tree, destroyed decorations and broken sink Loopsy so you can use them as evidence should the rest of the family feel the need to take sides. Sod it, take a photo of the empty plate so you can show the relatives where the lamb ought to have been .

Then have some fun with your DD making new decorations, perhaps salvaging bits from the destroyed ones if possible. Those decorations will be just as precious to you then.

And take a big sigh of relief, safe in the knowledge that if this is what they can accomplish in just a few hours, they will be destroying their own home instead of yours for the next few days and your sister will have to get herself out of bed rather than have you play housemaid to her. I can't help but feel that if you had let them stay you would have been posting on Boxing Day to tell us how they burned down the entire house or something. You've had a lucky escape.

Loopsylou I do hope you haven't fallen out with your sister forever over this. Hopefully when Christmas is over and you've all calmed down you can make peace with each other.

But do not offer to host Christmas next year... and the next time their dogs come round, put the meat in a safe place!

Loopsy I should have posted this yesterday but the sink should be covered on your house insurance, and the insurance people would find and send someone round to fix it immediately, Christmas or not. And they usually use special companies that work only for the insurance co.

Agree the 10 year olds have behaved more like 3 year olds. If they were your sister's kids they were hers to supervise anyway and I would have made that plain on arrival. They don't turn into your responsibility just becayse they are in your house.
I wouldn't have had a dog in my house anyway, but dog should have been put on a lead and tethered to sister after it started causing havoc. Not sure I believe this thread though as surely they were all worse when the kids were younger and you'd have had them to visit before now and knew that the kids and dog do not get to leave your sister's side and go anywhere without an adult hovering over them.

What Belgo said, I hope you can patch this up (eventually).
I presume that you get along most of the time or you wouldn't have invited her in the first place.
I really hope you can together laugh about all this one day.
She's still family.

I really do know loads of people (adults) that would have stood on the sink/fed the dog/let dog run rampant; not because they're selfish pigs just because they have a moments of being daft & your sis was feeling quite ill herself.

You are absolutely fabulous!

Well done on you for giving them the boot! I mean for goodness sake they are ten years old! They should be far more responsible than that, and if my DS had done something like that then he'd be getting a blistered ear, a sore arse and at least a fortnight of no presents, games or friends!

The way they behaved is absolutely shocking - is your sister always this entitled? Hopefully this will give her the kick in the coochie that she so desperately deserves!

any updates loopsylou?