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Ruined Christmas - AIBU to want to cry?

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loopsylou · 23/12/2011 12:27

Sister came round today to stay for christmas with 2 DN's, husband and dogs. Lovely newly clean house ready for Christmas and what happens? Dog knocks over tree and rips apart decorations my daughter made, that we've had for 5 years. Her spoilt little brats feed ENTIRE BLOODY lamb leg (for christmas eve) to said dog. Her DH and mine have disappeared to the pub, she's gone to bed (MY BED AS HER BACK IS APPARENTLY TOO SORE TO SLEEP DOWNSTAIRS) leaving me with 3 kids a manic dog and a broken in half christmas tree. Now transpires that DN1 has climbed onto the bathroom sink and pulled it from the wall, I had water all over the floor before I could stop it, told them to clean it up only to be shouted at by a 10 year old that I wasn't their mum. I cannot believe all this has happened in 1 day, but I'm at my wits end and I've locked myself in the kitchen rather then deal with all that. :( AIBU to just curl up and cry? Xmas Sad

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soggy14 · 23/12/2011 12:39

poor you Xmas Sad YANBU
Wake up sister, tell her that you have had enough, go down pub, tell dh and bil the same and then stay in pub and get drunk and/or go out on your own (eg shopping, for a walk) after telling dh and bil that you expect to find everything sorted when you get back.

BehindLockNumberNine · 23/12/2011 12:39

Get your sister out of bed - tell her what her dc have been up to, tell them they have been rude, tell her to go to the shop and replace the lamb.
Phone your dh, he and your bil can go to the shop and buy a new sink. And a new Christmas tree.
Then you go out, with your dc whilst your sister and her family put right all the wrongs they have created.
Then you sister and her family can either apologize and stay or go home.

Do not accept anything less for the sake of harmony. You are not a doormat and don't deserve to be treated as such.

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ApocalypseCheeseToastie · 23/12/2011 12:41

Kick them out.

And do it screechy, banshee stylee

duvetdayplease · 23/12/2011 12:42

Catsu - are you joking? My 8 year old would never, ever climb on a sink. he would never take food out of a fridge at someone else's house.

The only thing I would say is I don;t have other people's dogs round for this reason, dogs are not always as well trained as they should be.

People shouldn't leave their children with other adults if they are not sensible enough not to climb on a fucking sink!

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loopsylou · 23/12/2011 12:42

Bohica, Wasn't cooked, left on table to defrost. no idea how they did it, just went into kitchen at about 10 (they got here early, hence sister going to bed) to find the girls sitting laughing with nearly empty plate in front of them. Asked where is lamb only to have more giggles and pointing at the dog. Can't actually understand how it could have eaten the entire thing as was pretty big, unless it's dragged the legg off and hid it somewhere in the house to eat later. >:(

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GwendolineMaryLacedwithBrandy · 23/12/2011 12:42

If I was woken up and informed that my child/dog had done those things I would be absolutely mortified and I would have thought mortified was a fairly standard response. But I'm amazed daily on here how many people don't give a toss (not you lot, the people that are being moaned about IYSWIM).

Bohica · 23/12/2011 12:43

Catsu I think your children may need you......!

susiedaisy · 23/12/2011 12:44

Op it sounds horrendous, is your sisters family always like this?

Groovee · 23/12/2011 12:44

I'd be locking said dog in the garden with the children and your sister and retreat to bed with any goodies and Nativity the movie.

NO ONE ever gets my bed!

Gigondas · 23/12/2011 12:45

Catsu- the dn who did the sink in is 10 Ffs.

Sister up, ring dh in pub- they can sort the missing leg of lamb and the broken sink. Up to you if kick me out (personally I would) but they are responsible for their kids and dog. I have younger dd and can hardly walk due to pregnancy issues -even when resting up doesn't mean I abdicate my parental duties Angry

And hope you get a nice rest with feet up and Wine when all this sorted.

susiedaisy · 23/12/2011 12:46

catsu I can see where your coming from, I suppose only the op knows if this is typical of her sister or not,

Gigondas · 23/12/2011 12:47

If not defrosted dog probably hidden it somewhere - personally I would be tempted to Get something else and make them eat the dog gnawed meat.

nicknamenotinuse · 23/12/2011 12:48

Get them out. Your sister and her kids have no respect. Bloody hell.

duckdodgers · 23/12/2011 12:48

catsu - I think most people wouldnt expect a 10 year old unsupervised child to pull a sink off the wall Xmas Hmm

duvetdayplease · 23/12/2011 12:48

There is a weird implication that somehow OP is more responsible for the behaviour of her sister's kids than the sister herself? If my 8yo did that at school, a building I am not even in, I would be utterly mortified. to do it when your mum is in the house, to shout at another adult when they tell you off, my child would be in massive trouble.

amerryscot · 23/12/2011 12:49

It is certainly a Christmas to remember. I predict in a few years (OK, maybe 15 or 20), you will all have a laugh about it.

I saw my siblings this week and we had a laugh about the year (28 years ago) when Christmas Day ended in fisticuffs, my mother pretending she was having a heart attack, and all the booze being poured down the sink (between palpitations).

olgaga · 23/12/2011 12:49

Really?? Unbelievable. First you need to get your DH back from the pub pronto.

This is your own sister? I would tell her to get up, take the kids out to buy you a new tree, and a leg of lamb or fork out for a takeaway later. While she's out she can tell her kids to behave in other people's houses, even if they don't at home. If she's not happy with that ask her to leave. Tell her you're going to ring an emergency plumber if you or your DH's can't fix the sink, and you will expect her to pay for that.

I wouldn't ask them round again.

lambethlil · 23/12/2011 12:49

Get DiS out of bed and send her shopping for lamb for tomorrow night. Call DH and BIL bring home a mate from pub to fix it to sort out plumber.
And cry breathe.

duvetdayplease · 23/12/2011 12:50

How is your sister sleeping thru all this anyway?

Get0rf · 23/12/2011 12:52

Oh tell her to go home.

It is the day before christmas eve, they have 2 days to buy their own food and provisions. If you are crying at their behaviour now you will be ina right state come christmas.

Your sisters sounds like a lazy so and so and your nieces are rude. Don't put up with it. Tell them to get stuffed.

MudAndGlitter · 23/12/2011 12:53

Is Catsu the sister?

McPie · 23/12/2011 12:54

Ds1 is 10 and would never climb on a sink (though neither would my 5yo twins) in his own home never mind someone elses house. He would also never back chat a family member/adult in that way either.
I hope for your sanity you manage to get it all sorted out and have a good christmas, with or without your guests.

Moominsarescary · 23/12/2011 12:55

Bloody hell