Ruined Christmas - AIBU to want to cry?

[loopsylou]

Sister came round today to stay for christmas with 2 DN's, husband and dogs. Lovely newly clean house ready for Christmas and what happens? Dog knocks over tree and rips apart decorations my daughter made, that we've had for 5 years. Her spoilt little brats feed ENTIRE BLOODY lamb leg (for christmas eve) to said dog. Her DH and mine have disappeared to the pub, she's gone to bed (MY BED AS HER BACK IS APPARENTLY TOO SORE TO SLEEP DOWNSTAIRS) leaving me with 3 kids a manic dog and a broken in half christmas tree. Now transpires that DN1 has climbed onto the bathroom sink and pulled it from the wall, I had water all over the floor before I could stop it, told them to clean it up only to be shouted at by a 10 year old that I wasn't their mum. I cannot believe all this has happened in 1 day, but I'm at my wits end and I've locked myself in the kitchen rather then deal with all that. :( AIBU to just curl up and cry?

offers TPKW a Bailey's with ice.

I feel that the OP isn't going to send them home as it might 'upset' them. this is clearly something to be avoided at all costs.

If it were me I would dearly love to upset these people, maybe just half as much as they've upset the OP.

Good luck, whatever you end up doing. But if you don't make them pay for all the damage you'll probably never want to invite them again, and it will spoil any residual relationship you might have. You really are best sorting it now.

Thanks Deep, just done the shop, and lost the shopping list. It was written on a letter from Dr's for smear/coil check. It will end up on here?. Won't it.

UPDATE: Screamed at sister :o Felt quite good actually. She went nuclear and shouted that I should have looked after the situation better and no sane adult would leave 2 10 year olds unsupervised Told her to look after kids and took DD down to the pub to fetch Hubby. DH was quite angry and came home. MASSIVE row with us vs them, they packed bags and left 10 minutes ago, promising not to get involved with our "fucking messed up family" again. Trying to decide whether or not to leave tree in their front garden and do a runner. :o
Can't believe I didn't do it sooner!!!

and breathe. Good for you!

yay! Hope they paid for the tree/ lamb/ basin before they went, though?? You did steal her credit card details while she was in bed, didn't you? Didn't you?

Well, probably for the best. You can sort it out in the new year. In the meantime, just settle down to a nice christmas.

Good for you- and Yanbu . Your sis and bil and their three feral pets kids/dogs are out of order.

Brilliant. Lovely peaceful christmas for you then.

Good for you! And don't feel the need to cave and apologise once the dust settles - They were out of order and you deserve a sincere grovely apology

What about the sink and damage? Has that been resolved?

Make sure you send the plumber's bill to them.

Dear God! You shouldn't leave 2 10 year olds unsupervised? Why the hell not if you brought them up properly. I leave my 10 yr old and 8 yr old unsupervised all the time whilst I MN and they have never trashed the place. Surely they should be even less likely to trash somebody else's place.

Is your sister usually mad like this or she going through some deep emotional crisis? I can't think of any reason why she would be trying to defend her family's behaviour like this?!

You are well shot and yet, leave the tree in their front garden. And the sink or at least some of the damaged pipework.

That's exactly the ending I had in mind ( tho' the grumpy plumber still has to show). No need for a flash mob then? And something whiskey and creamy all round.

Good for you, I'd definitely make her pay for the sink damage though.

I agree- 8/10 are old enough to know better and i am amazed anyone would think need to be in same room as them .

Still have a day to sort food (and need less now they aren't there)... But what about sink?

Nice one OP! Send her the bill for the sink. And have a lovely peaceful Christmas with your 'messed up family' .

Good for you loopsylou. Wonder wether your sister is a mnetter and will be posting later a thread about it

OH and NO PAYMENT Said that for DN1 to be able to rip sink off it would have to be very loose so it probably would have fallen off soon anyway. Decorations can't be replaced. Leg of lamb is apparently pointless to pay for because it wouldn't have cost that much.

Return and get refunds for any presents you bought for them, and use that towards the costs.

Well done! At least you know they are not going to cause any more damage, you'll need less food now they've gone, and can relax. And even if they don't pay for the things they damaged, at least you won't have to invite them again so you'll probably be up on the deal in the long run.

loopsy I bow before you. Well done. You are now the official MN patron saint. The Goddess of 'No'.

I would return their gifts too. I would also ring round other family members and tell them what arseholes they have been

for you- well she will find out how cheap and easy if is to buy lamb when has to do last minute food shop as not staying with you.

Sinks are not meant to be climbed on!!! Does she have prior history of being lazy selfish and entitled?

Look at it this way, OP. The cost of sink repair and lamb leg are well worth getting shot of your nobber of a sister and still maintaining moral high ground. Happy Christmas!